I have now exposed wife to significant family members, but OM has no one to expose to - single living with sister who already knows, send email to his work but do not think this will bother him.

Wife continues to be less than forth coming but "hates my snooping" "I can,t live like this". difficult to even look at her at the moment.

Steps are being taken to monitor any future contact, I am doubting my ability to hang on in or my willingness to rebuilding the marriage, I am still sick in the stomach.