It's fine, and thank you for taking the time to respond to me.

It is not only that she was near-absent that keeps following me. I'd have moved on from it a long time ago, if my family didn't do something every time I screwed up according to their very specific ideals.

"You're just like your mother."

Thank you again for being so concerned.

One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

I will not spend my life this way.