Hi anchorhugger! I am glad you have found peace in your life.

I went back and read some of your old posts and see that your WS not only continued to work with his adultery partner but that the affair was kept secret... Those are both conditions that preclude any chance of recovery. In fact, Dr Harley states that recovery is impossible unless the affairees end contact.

Additionally, exposure is one of the most potent weapons against an affair. It is like bringing in a crowd of onlookers to the crack house to watch the crackheads get high. It ruins all the fun!

Were you aware of this? Did anyone tell you this back in 2002?

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101