Hi.

I wanted to know if anyone has been on the Retrouvaille weekend retreat or if you've heard anything about it. I've been to their website, but wanted to hear opinions from anyone who has experienced it.

Any comments, good and bad, would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

Trying

hi trying
I have only read up on this retreat, and have spoken to a few family members that do know people that have gone through this weekend, and apparently it is a great weekend! There is a weekend coming up near me this month and I really wanted to go, but my WH is still having no interest in trying to save our marriage, so there is no way in convincing him to go! I havent mentioned it to him since June, but I wont bring it up now as he is showing no signs in interest of fixing us right now!! But I just wanted to let you know what I had heard about it, and i did actually email about it and got a response form a couple that is involved and they were super nice and said that i could email them or call them about anything if I needed ( i havent taken them up oin it, but how nice is that?) Anyways thats all I k ow about it, I hope you get to go!!
Michelle

Every time I see someone ask this I feel compelled to say emphatically that for me and my ww it was the single most inportant part of our recovery, and I am not Catholic and far from a very religious person. The program is about marriage not religion and for us it was a life saver. Please go!

Jack

Michelle and Jack -

Thanks for your responses! I had called the 800 number on the website and spoke to a very nice man. I admitted to him infidelity was our problem and he strongly urged me to convince my H to come on the weekend.

The weekend near us is scheduled for October, so I have a little time. I brought it up over the weekend and my H's response was less than enthusiastic. He put the weekend in the same category as SAA (which he never finished reading). He said they work on saving a marriage and he's not sure he wants to save ours.

Anyway, would still love to hear from anyone else, especially anyone who was reluctant to attend.

Thanks,
Trying.

Trying,

One thing you might tell your spouse is that if you go you'll either have a better marriage or a better divorce so either way it is helpful I think.

Jack

Hi Trying,

Well, I hesitate to post to you because I am divorced, but I wanted to put a plug in for Retrouvaille. I saw it work miracles during the weekend we attended, but the key, like any other marriage encounter is that both partners need to be ready to work on the marriage. If your husband is still having an affair (and I'm sorry I'm not up on your situation) they reccomend you don't go yet. He really should be DONE and at least coming out of withdrawl for the program to help. I felt that in our situation, which was pretty hopeless (obviously) that it couldn't hurt, and it certainly didn't. I didn't know when we went that my former husband was fully involved with OW#2, who he is set to marry next month.

sorry if this is depressing.
Best of luck to you.
allison