I just see my the woman my husdand is having an affair with. I scram and yelled at her she has deny everything. We are fighting about all the time. i feel he is trying but when we fight about her i feel he is defensing her he wants us to move on but i konw know how...after about 4 months i am still crying all the time. he walk out today without saying a single word after coming in at 6:30am..he said he was working late..i know i have put alot of pressure on him..he now paying all the bills since i am not working and unwillingly to help with any expenses. But i am still angry and hurt at the same time..so of the things that were a problem in the marriage are still there..all I want him to do if he is working late is to call me. Is that toomuch to ask..please help

I may not be the best person to give advice but I have to try. I know exactly how you feel my husband a more than one infedilty, I would first read the concepts they are a big help. I am not sure of you situation there wasnt much detail ,but try to give him space without giving too much ,if he truly wants to make the marriage work than he would call you and tell youhe is working late. Are you sure the affair is over ,has he told you for sure that he is wanting to make it work?

he told me it was over but i am not sure he just keep saying get over it. he wants to work things out but he does not want to talk about her anymore

Unhappyinlife,
Please ask yourself this question..

Do I want to save my marriage?

Ask it over and over, again and again. Think about it really hard. If the answer is yes, you must stop confronting your husband about what happened. It is in the past. What he did was wrong and he knows it. He says it is over. If you don't give him a chance to make up for it, you will destroy your marriage. 4 months is nothing. It will take alot of time and patience on your part to get past this and build a better marriage. It is up to you to forgive him.

Also, get counseling if possible. If you can't afford it, check out some local churches. You must take these steps. You need to calm down and stop going after the other woman. There is alot of help on this site. Please seek it. The more pressure you put on your husband, the more you will push him away. You don't want to give him any reasons to stay away from home. Give him reasons to want to be home with you. In time things will get better, but it starts with you.

In the love of Christ,
Roman121