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I live in North Carolina, one of the few states that still outlaws "Alienation of Affection" in a marriage. Local paper today had this as the headline story.

The BS is a local man in his early thirties who was married for ten years. His wife, a nurse, had an affair with a doctor at our hospital and had a child that she passed off as her husband's until the affair became public. The husband still tried to save the marriage with counseling, etc., but his wife refused to end the affair. The marriage ended in divorce, but guess what? The OM refused to end his own marriage (to another doctor), so the wayward spouse ends up with no husband, no lover, and her betrayed husband ends up with $567,000. Not enough to make up for what he went through, nor the pain and loss of their three children.

Speculation is that a barrage of similar suits will now be filed locally as a result of this award. It should be interesting.

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AWESOME!!!!! Ha! Bet that Doc will never do that again. Sure makes re-building your life a whole lot easier when you have half a mill in your pocket.

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Ah (some) Justice!

My Mom lives in N. Carolina and wanted me to sue the oW for alienation of affection... But they don't do that here where I live. Anyway the OW isn't working and is probably mostly interested in my WH's paycheck. She's not really worth anything.

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PEPPERMINT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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How the heck ARE you?????? And FS???? (hope I remembered that right)

I don't recall knowing you were in NC. Is this new? I lived in Charlotte for a little and in Wilmington for 4 1/2 years. Loved it.

How 'bout an update????

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I live in North Carolina and I have been looking into it. A person I work with got her papers she is the OW and it was for 40,000.00. Hers goes to court in June.
She the woman I work with got the lawyer that won the one milion dollars for a woman here. When her husband had affair with his secretary. It was a movie made for Lifetime called Broken Hearts.

You play you pay.

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<small>[ April 23, 2004, 06:33 PM: Message edited by: Octobergirl ]</small>

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Hi Peppermint!

How are you and Firestorm doing?!

I've got to get over to the ladies board and post more often. I miss all of you! Hope you are well.

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no wonder

"Ladies" board, huh?

My "birth defect" dooms me again.

"A white penis."

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I've got to admit that the more I think about this, the more proud I am of our local boy. I found out this afternoon that there was a LOT of interesting testimony in the case that the paper didn't report. He and his wife have two little girls and tests prove that they are his. He has shared custody of them and when he picks them up, he still picks of the little boy who isn't his biological son. The child was two when the the BS found out that he wasn't his biological son. He testified that since he is the only daddy the little boy knows and that they still love each other, he wants to continue the visitation, but thinks it is important for his children, all three of them, to know the truth.

Several people testified about his efforts to save the marriage and keep the family together, and the WS and the OM also had to testify about the affair with all the details. They both admitted on the stand that they had sex in the hospital during working hours when they were both on duty. The WS is an OB/GYN nurse, and the OM is an anesthesiologist. Wouldn't you think that their job performance was affected by sneaking into closets for sex during time to care for patients?

Anyway, I think our local boy was very brave to take on this challenge, and I really doubt the money was his motivation, just the icing on the cake!

HEY WAT!

Honey, I have ALWAYS lived in NC, and probably haven't spent a total of 90 days anywhere else! Over the past four years I have spent a lot of time in Charlotte due to a relative's long-term illness and death last June, and we own a vacation condo about 35 miles from Wilmington so we are there alot too. Soon to be more, with a daughter enrolling at the university there for grad school next year!

Personally, I am doing quite well. I'm teaching again, and just bought a new car to reward myself for surviving affair HELL (or at least nearly five years of it).

Marriage wise, we are okay. Not great, but okay. You know I love MB, but that promise of "better marriage than before" just has not happened and isn't going to. We have survived, but not recovered.

I hope YOU are doing well and that this new relationship I have heard about is all that you deserve.

By the way, about that birth defect.........it can be surgically corrected I've heard!

Great to hear from you, by the way.


HEY MTHRRHBARD!

Great to see your name here. I don't visit the ladie's forum much either but would love to hear how you are doing. I hope all is well..

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Hey Peppermint,

Good to hear from ya'. I still owe a lot to you and your H. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<strong>Peppermint: I've got to admit that the more I think about this, the more proud I am of our local boy. ... He has shared custody of them and when he picks them up, he still picks of the little boy who isn't his biological son. The child was two when the the BS found out that he wasn't his biological son. He testified that since he is the only daddy the little boy knows and that they still love each other, he wants to continue the visitation, but thinks it is important for his children, all three of them, to know the truth.

Several people testified about his efforts to save the marriage and keep the family together, and the WS and the OM also had to testify about the affair with all the details. They both admitted on the stand that they had sex in the hospital during working hours when they were both on duty. The WS is an OB/GYN nurse, and the OM is an anesthesiologist. Wouldn't you think that their job performance was affected by sneaking into closets for sex during time to care for patients? </strong>

Orchid: Wow. If that is what the OM got away with, he s/b considered lucky. While there is no price on damaging a family, the $$ compensation s/b done more often. How embaressing but good to hear that the OM and WS had to make a public confession of their fantasy
'secret' which ain't a secret no mo'. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

<strong>Peppermint: ... I have ALWAYS lived in NC, and probably haven't spent a total of 90 days anywhere else! </strong>

Orchid: Really? Got a favor to ask. Can you e-mail me at: mborchid2@yahoo.com? It is for a fellow MBer who is up your way.


<strong>Peppermint: Personally, I am doing quite well. I'm teaching again, and just bought a new car to reward myself for surviving affair HELL (or at least nearly five years of it).</strong>

Orchid: Glad to hear you are taking time for you. Those few years were.... well to say the least, I am still amazed we survived it..... any of it.

Venusian question: What color is the car? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


<strong>Peppermint: Marriage wise, we are okay. Not great, but okay. You know I love MB, but that promise of "better marriage than before" just has not happened and isn't going to. We have survived, but not recovered.</strong>

Orchid: Hm.... gotta agree on this point. While my xws has made progress..... the scar is still visible. Son asks questions every so often. Son doesn't remember as much as I thought he did. Maybe due to him taking protective action.

I have put more onis on H to meet my needs. I learned not to be as much of the giver as I was in the past. Of course there have been a few incidents as a result. Even in-laws get upset because I refuse to be at all their beck and call attempts. Doesn't bother me though. I didn't realize how much stress I was carrying.

<strong>Peppermint: By the way, about that birth defect.........it can be surgically corrected I've heard!....</strong>

Orchid: LOL!!! I don't want to see WAT w/wavy hair! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Let us know how you are doing. I want you to know that I often think about back when you all took me under your wing and gave me the support that helped me survive. 'Am deeply grateful.

Hugz,
L.

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WOW! I wish I lived in North Carolina! Not for the money.. that doesn't even matter. TAKING something from HER would be enough to make me happy. She so easily took everything from me without any care at all, and she did it for FINANCIAL reasons. To be able to hit her in the only place that matters to her would thrill me!

Most of you who have reconciled can gain some comfort knowing that OW/OM was hurt by your spouse going back to you, I can't, she couldn't care less. She just immediately replaced him with sucker #10? 20? who knows how many <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

My life has been forever changed. I have been through many bad things since he left for her. But everything is just perfect for the cow that did this to my family (with my H's help and permission of course)

There is no such thing as Karma in my life, but I'm sure glad to see that SOMEONE got some revenge against the P.O.S. that had no respect for his life and his marriage

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god saved me , i am not in US or in NC state. but her 3 previous OMs wud be sharing that burden with me. ( what about her new 5 th one???) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

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Hey Orchid,

Great to see your name. I'm glad you are doing okay.

About my new car...........I am the proud owner of a new 2004 Infiniti G35 Coupe. It is sleek and sporty and oh, so smooth. It is also without a doubt the most selfish and self-indulgent thing I have ever done! The offical color is diamond graphite, which is a metallic dark grey. What does that say about me, by the way?

Email will be on the way within a few minutes. I'll be glad to help if I can.

Peppermint

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I'll be posting in the next week over on the Ladies board (that's when I'll have time to compose the post). Please pop in and take a look, I'd appreciate your thoughts.You too Orchid! I need advise from some of us who have been doing this "recovery" thing long term.

So good to hear from you!

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Oh My... look what the cat dragged in... a Peppermint <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .

Hello, dear friend! I PM'd you on the other board... miss you! ~Marie

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Gosh, what is this ... reunion week?

Hi Peppermint and Marie! How are you two? So very glad to see you both.

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Hi, Jo! Isn't it great to see updates from those of us who were around in 2000 (??!).

Gosh, I'm good-- so good, in fact, that it's almost scary! I feel doubly-blessed in life to have rediscovered the joy in my marriage for a second time-- even if it did seem to take us FOREVER! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> .

Thanks for asking about me! I'm hoping you are finding yourself strong and happy as well <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .

Hugs, ~Marie

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hey pep cool ababout the lawsuit stufff money is good the only $ SLIMEWOMAN HAS IS WHAT WELFARE DOES OUT MONTHLY I do have my H. the one she made a fool of herself over the one that hates the fact heever met her sometimes I still have to tremind myself ofthat --- better marriage?perhaps but not worth the pain I'll get around to phoning you someday I still struggle with the computer didn't seem to loose any of my phone skills GLAD TO HEAR ABOUT THE WHEELS DIET COKE IN YOYR HAND , TUNES BLARING SUUITS YOU.... MYBEAUTIFUL RUNNER IS ON A LOT FOR SALE TOO MUCH $ TO TIE UP
iiiEVER DRIVE AGAIN IT WOULDN'T BE THAT VEHICLE
Sudz say hi to fs

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Peppermint~

Hi, glad to hear from you. Sorry things aren't better for you and Firestorm. Some days I feel the same as you, but we are better.

Enjoy that beautiful car.

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WOW! I'm glad I decided to check back on this post....

I'm so glad to see these old friends (and I mean that as LONG-LOVED, not ancient!) again.

Mthrrhbard, I am looking forward to that post!

Resilient, How are you, Jo? A reunion sounds like a good idea to me.

Marie, I hope you got the PM I sent. Missed you!

SUDZ, I have tried to email you so often but can't get through. I think I have something spelled wrong or something. I would love to catch up with you!

bighope, Good to see your name on here, and I'm hoping things are going great for you. We are definitely class-mates in the MB world.

Great to see all of you! Still waiting for WAT to get back to me too!

Love you guys!

Peppermint Patty

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