Hi All,

I got permission from my church to post this notice. We have a Divorce Care support group meeting every Tuesday night from 7:00PM-9:00PM at room 101.

We play video tape during each meeting (there are 13 tapes) then break into a support group for discussion. You could drop in any weeks, we re-play the tapes over again. However at the end of the 13th week, (10/26/04) we use the next 4 meetings to talk about Basic MB Concepts before we start tape#1 again.

You don't need to be DV'ed to join, as matter of fact, I really recomended for anyone whose M is in trouble. You will find support on whatever you want to do during your separation/Dv'ng/ or even Plan A.

I was a participant and benefited greatly. Now I help around to help others. Check both links above for more detail or email me or reply to this post for questions or comments.

-rh-

Note: We are building our Counseling Ministry. Many of our Layman/Laywoman helper are trained & certified w/ courses from AACC, Caring People in God's Way (30 weeks), Caring People in God's Way Advance (30 weeks), Marriage Works (26 weeks) and in house training. The counseling is a free service ... first priority is our own member (you only need to declare that you want to be a member <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) and then whoever is sent to us <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . Our Relationship Pastor is sold on MB Concept <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> and he uses it in helping.

<small>[ September 26, 2004, 02:05 AM: Message edited by: redhat ]</small>

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RH,

I started the Divorce Care program here last week largely on the prompting of my MIL and FIL. I said I'd give it a try for a few sessions to see if I wanted to stay with it.

I think a lot of what I need to get through this I get here in addition to the reading I've done. Though I'm still relatively fresh into this journey I feel I've grown more and have gained a greater understanding than many of the other participants. One of the women in our class of 14 cried for nearly the entire two hours.

Binder,

You will find that the DV care is not only for people that is DV'ed. It is for anyone going through the pain of separation. It had helped me a lot. I am confident that you will benefit from it too. You will thank your ILs later <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

-rh-

Binder...the first time I attended Divorce Care I sat there and cried too...after 30 years of marriage I wondered how did I ever get here...I got very little from the first go around BUT you need to attend this course a few times ...I have attended twice so far and found the second time around you are so much stronger and mentally prepared to deal with things...I have to say this course is what helped me see clearly what path I needed to take...the strength and support of these groups will help you immensely...

New Outlook,

Was wondering how things are going on your end of our country...sounds like both of us are doing more of the same. Is your WH still living in the warehouse?

There are a few in the class that are going around for the second time as well. They have been divorced for several years, but feel they still have some issues to work through. I'm hoping that I can do this in one try. We'll see. Most days I feel pretty strong, but the roller coaster still has a few dips. Time will tell.

Edited to add:

As it is Thanksgiving weekend here in Canada, I hope you feel blessed with what you do have. I really do feel lucky in spite of all this ugliness my family has been exposed to.

<small>[ October 10, 2004, 04:11 PM: Message edited by: Binder ]</small>

Hi Binder... as far as I know he is still living in his old warehouse but have very little contact so am not sure...He is on a downward spiral and his lifestyleis one I want no part of...hard day today Thanksgiving...previous years was a big family get together with lots of celebrating... I can't help but be sad that he took this all away but as my wise 82 year old Mom reasons... do you want to go back to the old ways where you were treated with disrepect or do you want to move on and be happy...I choose being happy...I find I have detached and that is a good thing...it does take time...you can read an update on what is going on with me here on this thread:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=37;t=032527;p=3#000040

I look at Momto3boys thread and my heart aches for her...so much pain she is dealing with...funny how when her WS found out there may be someone else interested in her then he all of a sudden wants to come home...just like my WS.. so sad these individuals...I surely hope things work out for them..her WS needs to do alot of soul searching to make things right...

in regards to Divorce Care..you will meet alot of strong individuals who will help you get through this hurdle...you will see alot of folks in pain..many much worse off than you... you then realize you do have some things to be thankful for... family support, your health etc...those are the things I am trying to focas on today...hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving...a time to reflect on your wonderful family...