BLLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMMMMMMMMMMOOOOOOOO!!!
HA HA, BUT SERIOUSLY FOLKS.....!
Hurt3,
I am six months out from Dday.
WW (dare I say FWW?) would meet om for sexual holidays while I was at work. He lives in Phoenix and would fly into SoCal every month, or so, and get a room at the local Best Western.
SO I HAVE HAD SOME MOVIES!!
When I see her in her underwear I automatically think "om has seen her in those and maybe helped her off with them.
OK, the first 3 months I would simply vaporize viewing the images and movies in my mind. Now I just smile slightly, shake my head and think..How long is that image going to keep popping up?
I am also on an anti-depressent, Lexepro, which is a very good thing to help you cope and operate in every day life. I started those 2 months ago and should have started earlier.
My FWW is totally committed to our M, very remorseful, has had NC since Dday so I am one of the lucky ones here at this board.
I do not know if you are in the first 2 months since Dday or not, but from the symptoms I would guess that.
The movies become less and less.
Get a good AD going. When you start obsessing (yes, what you are going through has a name, and is very common.) tell yourself that you will only obsess about this thing for an hour each day.
This obsessing is very NEGATIVE AND NOT GOOD FOR YOUR RECOVERY!! My wise FWW and the MC told me that the obsessing does nothing positive for the rebuilding of the M. If your objective is recovery and rebuilding then you must stop obsessing.
When the movies start, snap the rubber band on your wrist, visualize a large stop sign, tell yourself that you will only obsess from 10:00 to 11:00 in the morning.
Call your W when the movies start and ask her to tell you how much she loves you. AND WHY!!
Tell yourself that this is only negative thinking that is draining my soul and my energy.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF>
Keep your self busy. Go to the gym, go jogging.
Hope that helps.
k