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Spending or Investing?
#1238863 12/10/04 01:23 AM
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No...this is NOT about money. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

This is about marriage.

Yes, marriage.

Too many times we think of being married as "spending" the rest of our life with someone that we love.

Have you ever really looked at the meaning of the word "spend"?

To use up or put out;

To wear out; exhaust:

To throw away; squander:

To give up (one's time or efforts, for example) to a cause; sacrifice.


"Spending" my life with someone suddenly doesn't sound very appealing. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />


Now...look at "invest"...

To devote for future advantage or benefit

To devote morally or psychologically, as to a purpose; commit:

To surround, accompany, or attend.

Now...that sounds more like it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I want to "invest" my life with someone that loves me...and who wants to "invest" too...not simply "spend" a life with me.


Are you happy "spending"...or do you want to be "investing"?

What do YOU need to do to stop "spending" and start "investing"?

It might be worth thinking about.

committed

<small>[ December 09, 2004, 12:24 PM: Message edited by: committedandlovingit ]</small>
Re: Spending or Investing?
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This IS worth thinking about.

Thanks


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aye, invest!

Thanks for the message.
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LOVE that... life with my WH would be "spending", especially given his recent selfish, irresponsible behavior... I deserve someone who will invest in me!!
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THIS IS GREAT!!!

Our financial gurus always say "Don't spend. Invest for the future."

Didn't know they were talking about marriage! It really applies to every part of our lives.

Thanks! K
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#1238868 12/09/04 05:47 PM
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Pepperband, greergan, stillprocessing, k72172

Thank you for taking the time to respond. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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committed,

I like this analogy. The thought of "spending" my life in a fruitless marriage is saddening.

I am an investor who happened to make a bad investment with a spender. I will not let that happen again.

Marriage is a dual investment. If both partners are not investors, it can be a recipe for disaster.

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