October 2, 2002. That was the day life as I knew began sprialing out of control into a maelstrom of emotions. The day I found out the one person in this world I was sure would never let me down, did.

Fastforward to today: We made it!! It took 2 years, change of jobs, a restraining order, and moving to another state, but here we sit now. Once more happily married, raising three beautiful (and brilliant) young boys, and surrounded by people that care about us. It wasn't easy, in fact it was unbelievably hard, and I could probably write a book about my mistakes and how NOT to execute a Plan A (or PB for that matter).

It's been a long time since I posted anything, or even lurked to be honest. But this forum, and more importantly the people here, were instrumental in my recovery (especially Penny ) that I thought I ought to at least come back to say Hi. Sadly, I noticed the number of new members has increased by a few thousand. It would be nice if they were all here just trying to make their marriage even better, but I know all to well that most likely isn't the case. It is nice to see some of the old timers (figuratively speaking of course <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) are still around offering their insight, Pep, WAT, TMCM, Orchid et al. I noticed most of the folks I "grew up" with aren't around anymore, hopefully for good reasons. I really don't know what I came here to say honestly, except maybe that sometimes there really are happy endings (yeah, corny...but that's me). It's just that you usually have to take the hard road to get there, and you really can't see the clearing until you're standing in it.

T.T.F.N

ivan

MTD,

Good to hear from you. Very happy to hear you and your family are doing well.

Lots of pain on this board as you can see. Your post was the ray of sunshine that is much needed here.

Thanks again and please keep in touch here. ok? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

All the best,
L.

MTD, i have only been here for a few weeks, and we are 7 weeks since dday and NC. it seems like time is dragging. but hearing from people like you helps me to stay focused andpositive. thank you for coming back and sharing your success story! i know it is a long road for me /us also. thanks for the encouragement, arjdad

Glad I could bring something positive for you arjdad. Lemme know if you ever need advice on what not to do <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> !

It is great to hear a happy ending. 7 months after finding out about my WW's A and I think all is lost at times. I have done a poor job on plan A and I am doing a worse job on Plan B. I would love to hear what you did right and wrong, as I feel all I am doing is wrong. Happy to hear where you are now. All the best.
alank

i think we all feel like we have what "not" to do down pat. please tell us what '"to" do. any advice on doing a good plan a? i dont know your story, but how long did it take the WS to get thru w/drawal and come around to trying to save the M? any input or advice appreceated, arjdad

Thanks so much Ivan!

Several other folks that I am assuming you "grew up" with have posted recently about their successes over the last 2 years.

I get filled with hope and determination with every post.

Thanks to you, your generation of survivors and all the special folks that give their support here.

Through the grace of God and hard work I hope to be back and post as you have.

BTW: Congrats! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

i ditto the thanks. it really is so helpful to hear of success stories. i am sure we will be one someday too. maybe we already are.