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Got the letter tonight in the mail....WW is asking for a reveiw because she has meagan mon- through- thurs. nites and I have her fri sat sun nights........they based it on week on week off.....Plus because I don't pay insurance no more.....on her and Meagan.....I got state insurance on meagan and me and WW or on a waiting list for it and WW had to go down and get Insurance to have there baby.........What a *****...I guess she wants me to pay for baby now....I have not been working that many hours because of my back...( I broke it 11 yrs ago.....) and that doctor wants to operate...so I will get a letter stateing that and also ww HAS A BETTER PAYING JOB.........I am self employed and my pay has went down in the past three months....... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

<small>[ January 21, 2005, 11:34 PM: Message edited by: frankd ]</small>

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I don't think soo..... ok Frank you ready to duke it out with the Ms Airhead? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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Have you filed for divorce? If you are married when your WW has the OM's baby, I think it's going to complicate things for you financially.

Is the custody agreement you are currently in court ordered? If so, did the court consider your WW's income and was it honestly reported?

It sounds like you need better legal advice Frank, and soon.

What about your back? Are you going to have the surgery? Continued prayers to you Frank. Ladysing

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she filed for divorce in july....shes paying for it im not...........Yes we have a court order...I have her three nights and ww has her 4 nights.....They based the last hearing on me having her one week and ww having her one week.....her lawyer tryed too get it changed over the phone three months ago but they would not go for that......Now she owes him money so he won't be there.......plus they based the fact that i was paying for insurance $ 612.50 a month.....whice she was on (ww)......I could not afford it no longer so I was able to get Blue Chip for the kids and us but we are on a wating list.....WW had to go to welfare to get a low cost insurance....at a cost of $140.00 a month.....to have OC........I guess she wants me to pay more so i can pay for her baby......( if we were to reconcile maybe))).......not like this....no way and they can't.........DNA.....

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WW is mad that I took DD to Dr.s today......My day.....WW had made a appointment for Meagan last friday..for monday at 7;30pm.( and told me nothing....Sunday I get a message from Dr. office to remind me of appt......I told WW that i heard and she was pissed.she asked how i knew and that i was snooping.......I called dr. office and asked what was it about and the dr. office told me it was her foot.......well the appointment was cancelled because dr. was out sick.......I told ww that I had an appointment for thursday at 3:00 pm for braces.....WW was pissed about that and told me that it was her job to do that because she was more her mother then i was her father...DAAAAAAAAAAA......I had told WW about appointment 5 weeks ago and it was ok......now all of a sudden she is the mother.... she did not make the last appointment.........actully ww has not took dd to an appointment since she left...she actully missed like 6 appt.s for meagan....I took it appond myself to make all meagans appointment for fridays so she will make them.......well anyways she was pissed when meagan told her that I had taken her today....meagan said she did not say anything at first and then ww started to say " well you know....then shut up and told Meagan to call her back in 15 minutes.......Well when DD called back Meagan said it sounded like ww had been crying........

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It's OK Frank, she is feeling guilty. You did the right thing by taking care of your daughter's medical needs.

Continue to communicate with your WW ONLY if necessary and regarding your daughter. You are doing a good job and being a responsible parent.

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frank---first off i think what you are doing is great. keep putting meagan first....period.

you have to prepare for her to get the childsupport changed though. the original ammount was based on equal time and the insurance. they will take it into account unfortunately. i agree with dropping preg. ww from the policy but the courts base their decision on time and what each are paying for. not who is doing what. im sorry. just prepare for it....

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Frank,

Good job. WS is pretending to be a good mom. The scary piece is she reminds me of my MIL who neglected her children then gave them something to replace her time, attention and love. Expected all t/b ok and then she'd do it again.

It was not until I married into this dysfunctional family was her cover blown to the point that I refused to keep quiet about their 'secrets'. I called the 1st family meeting. H and I did talk and agree about it before hand. His dad and older sister wanted one for years but never had the guts to do so. The in-laws thought it was a good idea. Anyway, I called a family meeting. MOst of them would not talk back to me so they all showed up. MOst with looong faces but I didn't care. I had a typed agenda for all to follow and the meeting ensued. Since then this is now how that family handles major issues. NO more secrets. Things have gotten better but drama still happens. Just not as often and not as long. Now we are basically down to 3 drama queens. LOL!!!

Keep up the good work. Take care of Meghan. I suspect your daughter will get tired of this game the WS is playing and soon start taking her stand. Encourage her to do so. Let her know that she is not being disloyal to her mom, just standing up against a WS. Time to share more info so she can better nagivate through the fog.

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Meagan is have 3 of her friends over and can you believe WW is mad......or is it jealous.....HMMMMMMMMM good question ,,,,,I know for a fact that the girls parents don't want there kids down there.......Oh well.....got them movies and munchies.......now they are dancing..

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Have a great evening! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Yes I found out that meagan is riding bus in morning and evenings to a sitters,,,,,,,I called school today totell them that i have medicine to give to meagan and it was just the time meagan gets out.......The secretary told me that now meagan goes to day care and rides bus 8.....I got there just as the bus pulled up and gave meagan her medicine.....Cream for skin.....She told me that she was goiing to this kids house and his name ....when I got home I looked it up in the directory from school......Now I know where she is going and I got the ladies #....I called a teacher friend and she said that the lady was a good person and watched a couple of the teachers kids. The teacher is going to find out how much she charge's a week....Now I live in Pennsylvania will I have to pay for Meagans day care.....Is that my problem...I got a hearing coming up on the 1stof feb........She is asking for an increase...but now WW makes better money then before........I would be willing to watch meagan in the morning and evenings....But that is ww's time....I have not comunnicated with WW at all and I would like to keep it like that.....She still keeps meagans cell in her car when she drops her off in the morning......I have said nothing about that either.....My IC told me to let it be because she is trying to push your button and don't let her ....If I leave her alone she might surprize you and start letting meagan keep it......Watch and wait.......NC at all....

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So when does Megan get her phone? I'd ask for the phone back and tie it to Megan's back pack. Or call the phone company and see how you can inactivate it when the WS has it.

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Its thursday night and I have not heard from meagan at all tonight....she called at 6:15 am this mornibg and asked if the schools were closed...or delated and I said no.......She did not show up for dance class tonight i heard from a friend......( WW owes them money).......I even called WW cell phone and did not leave a message but got no responce.......I did hear from my friend ...OM's land lord....he told me that he talked to ww about a letter he sent them about late charges on there rent.......he told me that he sent a letter saying: A friendly reminder ....You owe me three $50.00 charges for October,December,and January.....The rent is due on the 8th of each month not the 16th, or 19th or 23rd.....I have to pay $130.00 on the morgage If I am late he told her....she told him that she had the check 8 days ago......He told her then why did you just drop it in my mail box....His office is across the street.....He called WW after he found a letter in his mailbox this morning saying.....just a friendly reminder ...telling him that they payed there rent each month......She told him that you will have to talk to OM about it........He said he plans on it........OM probley beat the **** out of her who knows......I am worried......I will be waiting for Meagans phone call tomorrow morning....Meagan does bring her phonre with her when i get her after school........what to do.....??????????

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Got ahold of Meagan this morning.....she was sick throwing up all night........she did not go to school......asked meagan what time to pick her up....she said she would let me know later ...she did sound sick.........I called back at 10:00 am and WW answered meg's cell phone....she said meg was sick.......and was still sleeping....ww told me that meg was up all night throwing up...ww sais that she tryed to give her waffels and she did not keep them down either...ww said she had to go to work at 3:00pm and i could get her at 2:00 pm......she was real nice on phone and so was I....I told ww that I had to work across street at 12:00 pm to hook up a furnace for her landlord ......I told her to be safe and goodbye......when i got done hooking up furnace at 1:45 I called Meg and ww said I will call you back.......She called right back and told me that Meg was going to take bath and she would call when she was done....I told WW that her landlord wants me to fix OM heater in kitchen....I asked her how long the heater was (Baseboard ) and she said i dont know I asked her to measure it by stepping foot over foot and to tell me how many....She laugh and told me....I told her I would order one.....she was polite......I told her to drive safe and that I got to go and I'll be there in 20 minutes to pick up meagan....I said thank you and good bye....Now I have not spoke to ww in ten days at all......Why was she being nice...........when ww called this evening i gave the phone right to meg.....Back toplan "B".....

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Take care of your daughter. Does she have the flu or is something else wrong? How is Megan now?

As for the phone, it s/b in the possession of Megan. Did you check to see what other calls the phone is receiving or sending?

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Yes meagan has a 24 hr viruis....she is sleeping now.......I got her some gatorade...and bananas....I fixed her a three minute egg and she kept it down........I checked phone and meagan is the only one useing it.....thank god.....


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