Found out that ww is useing Om"s last name on certain things that she orders or applys for.....It will be 1 year tommorrow since WW left.....Handleing it good

<small>[ January 25, 2005, 07:00 PM: Message edited by: frankd ]</small>

I'm not sure that it's typical, but it's not illegal as long as she's not trying to defraud the IRS.

My maiden name is still on my SS# and I use that for taxes and anything to do with school. But my actual check comes in my married name, my license is in my married name as well as checks, etc.

frankd,

Keep track of it, it would certainly handy if your M comes to an end. His income would be used in calculating alimony and support.

Care to updtae me w/ your profile here ? I am a bit lazy in this foggy day in NorCal to search your old posts.

-rh-

I will what do you mean by profile?????

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by frankd:
<strong> I will what do you mean by profile????? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">just your story and where you are at right now ?. Plan A ? Plan B ? and for how long ?

-rh-

WW left on 01/23/04.....married since 2001...been togeather 11 years........we have 10 yr old daughter......OM 25 yr old.....2 yrs probation and 1 yr without licence for dui...OM is a wife beater....has been hitting WW since march....he has 3 kids from two women and only pays for 1 kid a 6 yr old........girl.........found out WW was pregnant 3 weeks ago..........ww is 28 yrs old and I am 40.........I was ww first love.....I still love her and would take her back...WW is not aloud to talk to me at all...WW file for divorce in july......no more is said about divorce....I got DD a cell 3 weeks ago because they do not have a house phone,,,they each have a cell....which OM has threatin to take from WW....and has in the past....we have shared coustody of Meagan ....I have her fri thru mondays each week.......OM is a little [censored] that beats on women.....and WW is a lost sheep....

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Found out that ww is useing Om"s last name </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Quite comon---- part of the fantasy! Disneyland!

Yes a teacher told me that ww ordered candles from a kid in her class and she saw my ww put his name as hers......also DD told me that ww went to welfare for medical insurance and used his last name.....

Frank-

Have you contacted child protective services about your child being in that situation????

I'd be taking a pic of your WW everytime I saw her with a bruise, or reporting it to the police so there'd be some record, your daughter isn't safe there.

I don't know how common or uncommon it is for a WW to use the OM's last name on things...it seems stupid to me, but whatever, I would come UNF*CKING GLUED if I found out my WH's OW was using his last name for ANYTHING. I'm sure she wouldn't.

You know, I found (Cuz I'm the official internet dectective) that his OW does have a marriage license, was married when she was 19 to a guy, her maiden name is still the name she uses now, but I can find no divorce/dissolution record for her...makes me wonder if they just never divorced...I'd LOVE to find out what her last BF's name was....he was an older guy, a veterinarian.....and I would put money on the fact he was married too.....because she didn't live with him and they dated for a long time.

I also found a man she did live with, I've been thinking about calling him....but I don't even know what to say to him....what if he was just a friend, and is still a friend?

And as 007 as I am, I cannot for the life of me decide who the heck her parents are....I've found relatives out the wazoo....but I can't decide who is who. I need to check vital statistics I think.

-Caren

Yes the police do know and so does CPS and so does survivers......When ever it has happen Meagan was not there.....He does do it in front of people....I have lots of witnesses...I went after him 2 months ago when I found out and she tryed to get a PFA on me.....since I went after him he has not done anything that I know of ...He knows if he does it in front Of DD WW will lose meagan......

Yes Frank, it's common when a WS is trying to make a statement. She has lived with him for 1 year and is expecting his baby. She is telling everyone that she is "his". Disgusting, but predictable.

She is not going through with the divorce because she is stringing you along for continued $$ support. In the mean time, your daughter is suffering the effects of your W's continued selfish actions. Very sad... <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

You sau you would still take her back? Does that mean that you will not proceed with the divorce and will allow her to have his baby while still legally your wife? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

You deserve a better life Frank.

<small>[ January 22, 2005, 03:47 PM: Message edited by: Ladysing58 ]</small>

Good point LS ....All no I will sign it.....But she has to pay for it.......not me......But it will be at my turms.......I saw her two weeks ago and she looks like ****.....It is not a happy person look.....very depressed.....The cell phone Ideal was the best thing I did.....Now we don't have to talk at all....when I called Meaganyesterday WW answered the phone ...I was not going to talk to her but it was about Meagan and she was sick....WW was very polite and so was I ....I stuck to the point.........She called me later last night to check on Meagan and was also polite.........when she called to day I handed the phone right to meagan...

frankd,

You know OM might just do it to move megan out of WW's life. Abusive person is predictable. Once he is comfortable with WW and sure he could get away with beating in front of meagan, he would. The purposes is to control & isolate WW. Does she have someone to talk to ?

r u trying NC w/ WW ?. Did u give her plan B letter ?. You should give her one if you are still willing to take her back. Sorry I have to ask ... are you sure that child is yours ? not OC ?. What happen if that is the case ?.

-rh-

No RH it is not my child.....The last time we made love was one year ago today the 22nd of january 2004....It is his child.....yes he is really controlling.....The day he does it in front of my 10 yr old will be the last WW will see her......Yes I did plan B WW and gave herv the letter....I have been in no contact except yesterday because DD was sick.....

frankd,

I give you insight to abusive man. OM might just do that to break WW's spirit but he wants to make sure first that she won't leave him (cowardly act).

It is a hellish situation however megan is 10 yr old. Be her best parent and she would see it ... judge might take her words if she want to stay with you.

How are you ?. You have a chance to rebuild your life, what is your plan ?. Don't sit still waiting the outcome.

-rh-

Yes OM is a coward.....and I think in my WW's fogish mind she got pregant to make OM love her more....B/C I know she was always taking her birth control pill on time for ten years........never missed.....I've even heard from other WW's that they think that wall make them love them more..........Meagan said that WW did not sound to happy this morning....on the phone.....WW called last night at around 8:30pm and told Meagan she was snow mobiling...( 4 month Pregnant) and she also asked if I let the out side cat inside..( Kitty Girl ) ...Meagan told her, of course.....shes been in all weekend...( Why would WW care if the cats inside or not) She took one of the cats with her and it was ran over in front of OM's house....I pulled up one morning and it had just been hit....I buried it in there back yard (woods) ,,We found a kitten behide the school and WW took it down there and lied to OM and told him she found it......Well 3 months later WW and Meagan had to take kitten down to vet B/C it could not walk...The vet put the cat out because it had internal injuries....He had kicked it so bad he killed it........Nice.....I told the police......its recorded....WW left him that night and then the next day she went back to the *******.........Me I am taking it one day at a time.......I am moving on the best I can and I am there for meagan....She tells me all the time that she would rather live here .....In one year she can...she will be 12 yrs old...she said she would still like to see mom .....of course,I told her........WW just called again and asked meagan if she was playing in the snow......She just got over the flu.......She is in a fog......I also called the baby sitter that watches meagan after and before school while WW has her....and I told her who I was and ask if Meagan was allowed to call me when she is there and the lady said that would be fine.....Meagan gets there at 7:15 am until 8:20 for when she gets on the bus....She gets off the bus at 4:20 and WW picks her up between 6:30 pm and 7:00 pm meagan told me....I told the sitter whom is licenced that I heard all good things about her.......Do you think it was wrong for me to call her....WW does not want me to know that she is even going there......WHY???

frankd,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>Do you think it was wrong for me to call her....WW does not want me to know that she is even going there......WHY??? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No, it is your right as a father. However you should stop asking WHY and start asking what should I do about it.

This is IMVHO, you should keep contact with megan and let the WHY question go.

What have you done for yourself lately frank ?.

-rh-

Yes I did stop by sitter or day care's home tonight and gave her a coppy ok coustody agreement stateing that we havd shared leagal coustody and I have reasonable phone contacts and the same goes for ww when I have meagan....She was real nice......real nice home....Meagan does like her.....Should I have told baby sitter about wifes abuse........?????