My husband recently surprised me with a special weekend getaway for our anniversary. He made reservations for us at a beautiful historical mansion B&B. Then he put a little note in my anniversary card telling me to be packed & ready to go when he got home. I didn't know where we were going until we got there. It was wonderful!

that is so nice! isnt it great when someone else does the planning? <p>Although we have had a rough year, my hubby kinda did the same thing for Valentines Day except he went a step further. He sent me flowers at work with a card that just said "dinner reservations at 8pm, be ready". <p>We went to a B&B that has a restaurant also. I thought it was only for dinner until dessert time when the owner came to the table and asked "May I show you to your room?!!"<p>I was so surprised. They took us to the room where dessert & wine were waiting with a lit fireplace! He had even packed my clothes and had everything set up in the room along with our photo albumn from our wedding.<p>We are in recovery now (husband previously had ea/pa) and he has been so great on making me feel loved & special again. slowly but surely we are getting there. <p>My 15 year wedding anniversary is TOMORROW!!!! I can't wait to see what he has planned for us. He has made more plans in the last 6 months than the 15 years we have been married! haha [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi all,<p>I have a question. I normally hang out over on the EN forum, but was just doing a little surfing to see what other topics might be out there and came upon this one. Now the question.<p>Our 25th wedding anniversary is coming up and I do not have the foggiest idea as to what I can do. I would like to do something special, but I feel that my hands are tied. <p>Very brief background and conditions: No affairs (that I am aware of), no affection, no physical contact at all (including no kisses or any touching of any type) except rare occasional holding of hands while walking through store (must be initiated by W). Sleep in same room, but seperate beds. Very little communication. W says she believes in the POJA, but will not follow it at all. <p>Now, W has gone and made reseverations (for the two of us) at a very nice hotel an hour away to "get away and relax". The rooms have two double beds for which I fully expect to have each of us use one. She says she wants room service and to be pampered. <p>So, finally to the question. What in the world can I do to make this special for her? Any suggestions that fit into my particular and peculiar situation would be most helpful. <p>Good luck and God bless
RC<p>[ June 02, 2002: Message edited by: RetiredCop ]</p>

Retired Cop,<p>I wouldn't try to get too elaborate with things. Most women appreciate the little touches. If she wants to be pampered, open her car door for her when you leave for the hotel, pour her coffee for her at dinner, turn down her bed for her. Just make her feel extra special.<p>All the best for you on your 25th and beyond. I hope your marriage can get back to the affection and closeness you once had.