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Forgot this one although I've heard it many times<BR>"I really didn't think you would care!!!"<p>[This message has been edited by wasstubborn (edited May 18, 1999).]

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eh hem.... <clearing my throat><P>How about:<P>"I'm sorry for what I did"<BR>"I know I was wrong."<BR>"I should have communicated to you better"<BR>"I should have listened to what you were saying, and to what you were not..."<BR>"I Love you so much"<BR>"I'll stop at nothing to regain your trust"<BR>"I'm sorry I lied to you"<BR>"I'm an idoit"<BR>"This will never happen again, give me a chance and I'll prove it"<P>I could go on and on here... But I'll save it all for my wife.<P>Steve<P>------------------<BR>I Love you Heather and I'll prove it! <BR>

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<BR>"I think the reason I wrote her the love letter was because I was really trying to end it." (HUH???)<BR>"I SWEAR this will NEVER happen again."<BR>"I'm REALLY telling you the truth this time." <BR>"Why do the details REALLY matter?"<BR>"Me telling you every detail about what happened doesn't ACCOMPLISH anything."<BR>"I'm just ready to get BEYOND this and move on with our lives together."<BR>"Maybe one day we'll appreciate this because it made me communicate so much better and I understand how important the truth is now."<P>"I SWEAR I haven't had ANY contact with her since I broke it off."<BR>"O.K., there was that one phone call from her, but NOTHING ELSE."<BR>"O.K., I did call her but she wasn't in, but there is NOTHING ELSE."<BR>"O.K., I did go drop something by her office but I didn't see her."<BR>"O.K., I did see her, but we didn't talk."<BR>"O.K., she did call me on the car phone immediately after I left her office, but it was a short conversation."<BR>"REALLY, there's NOTHING else. I SWEAR I've told you everything."<P>AAAAAHHHHHH (scream of frustration from me [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com])

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Add these:<P>"I felt like we were soul-mates. We even have the same birthday!" (Naturally, hers was years later than his)<P>"I never stopped loving you." (Hmm... could have fooled me!)<P>"I knew I would always take care of you." (Would have been a little hard to do if he had ended up living with her)<P>"I thought you were happy in your own world." (Gee, it was only "my own" because he was never there!)<P>"She doesn't understand why our 21 years together carry more weight than my six weeks with her."<P>

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You and the kids will be better off without me in the house.<P>I've destroyed all your good qualities. (this was actually kind of nice, because for awhile, in his eyes, I hadn't had any good qualities)<P>You're a great wife, a wonderul mother and my best friend. (this while he was packing his bags to leave)

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Or perhaps...(Internet thing)<P>"It's only typing".<P>"It's perfectly innocent chat".<P>"Honestly, I have NO idea who she is or how she got my email address/our phone number".<P>"I must have been going through an early "mid-life" crisis".<P>"YOU were the one who told me it was OK to have female friends".<P>"YOU were the one who told me it was OK for spouses to have different interests".<P>"She was lonely and friends help each other".<P>"I never would have followed through with our arranged meeting...It was just exciting planning it."<P>(on having a one-night stand with an escort)<P>"Well, you didn't want to sleep in my bed, so I found someone who did".<P>"It was just sex".<P>And, my all time favourite...<P>"You wouldn't be feeling this way if you only hadn't found out about it".<P>Cheers.<P>

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My dear H's quotes:<P>Mostly before discovery (some after):<BR>"I don't have feelings of love for you anymore."<BR>"I look at you and try to have feelings and don't have any."<BR>"The feelings have been dying for 5 years." (When he had the first affair - convenient!)<BR>"I don't know that I want you anymore."<BR>"I want out, but I feel trapped." (When kicked out he was back in 2 days)<BR>"I'm still sweet and loving, just not to you."<BR>"I didn't miss you at all, I just missed our son." (When he went on weekend trip with her)<BR>"I only felt like a man when we made love."<BR>"You have controlled me my whole life." (The OW was the one in control - can you say brainwashed?)<BR>"I love you, but I'm in love with her."<BR>"I don't know what love is anymore."<BR>"I'm mainly staying now because of our son."<BR>"I don't know if I want it to work anymore."<BR>"We took time together and she listened."<BR>"She was just a friend and we got too close."<BR>"I've never kissed anyone but you in the past 12 years." (Yeah right!)<BR>"I will always love you no matter what happens."<BR>"I didn't want to hurt you." (So he had 2 affairs instead - considerate huh!)<BR>"I could be more to her and her kids than they have ever had, but she doesn't have it in her to meet my needs." (So who is Daddy to his own kid while he raises hers?)<BR>"You are spiteful and vindictive and selfish." (Yet could not name one time I had ever acted this way -- her words in his mouth!)<BR>"She has changed, I saw a different side to her." (When talking about how he use to think she was a [censored] - of course it was an act on her part!)<BR>"When I make love to you, its not making love it's just sex." (Yet he wanted it twice per day)<BR>"I don't know what it means, but I missed you both." (When me and son went out of town)<BR>"It has always just been between you and me." (Then why were you with two other women?????)<P>After discovery and things got better:<BR>"I love you so much I don't know how I ever thought otherwise."<BR>"She is nothing."<BR>"I question what I THOUGHT I felt for her."<BR>"I want my life, my wife, my son."<BR>"You are somebody."<BR>"I love you. You may not believe it, but I do."<BR>"You are one in a million in bed."<BR>"Don't you think that if I had made love to her I would have been thinking of you."<BR>"I was so stupid."<BR>"You have so much more to offer in every area than she does."<BR>"I want, need, and love you."<BR>"I am in love with you."<BR>"I want you forever."<BR>"I love you more than I ever have."<BR>"I want to give myself to you completely and us be one (and I have now done that where before I never did)."<BR>"I connect with you like I have never connected with anyone else."<BR>"I am drawn to you in every way. Spiritually, physically, emotionally."<BR>"You are everything I want or need."<P><BR>------------------<BR>Can we live Happily EverAfter?<P><BR>[This message has been edited by EverAfter (edited May 18, 1999).]<p>[This message has been edited by EverAfter (edited May 18, 1999).]

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How could I ever forget this one:<P>I was doing it all for you. You are such a great lover, and I was never experienced enough to be good, so I was getting the expereinces to make you happier.<P>grrrrrrrr!!<BR>

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A few more,<P>"We got married too young!"<BR>"I never lived alone"<BR>"It's not you, it's me"<BR>"I didn't mean to ruin your life"<BR>"I'm sorry your sad" long pause "I'm happy!"<BR>Me "give me ANY reason, big or small why you don't love me anymore"<BR>Her (angrily)"I wasn't ready for this conversation!"<BR>"I havent talked to him in a month"<BR>"I haven't seen him in weeks" (weeks after moving in with him)<BR>"That's kind of crappy you can just do that", after I told her I dropped her off the car insurance & turned off her cell phone.<p>[This message has been edited by Chris (CA123) (edited May 18, 1999).]

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How about I have no passion for you. (you think I have passion for you?)<P>I have no balls (neither do I, I'm a woman)<P>I couldn't stop <P>I thought I could have my cake and eat it too! (I hope you get food posioning)<P>I want to work on our marriage, but I want to dance around the issues (Oh really)<P>Can't we just let it die? (Only if you don't lie)<P>I have a fear of the future.<P>I see you as a mother figure. (Stop acting like a child, and I'm not your Mother!)<P>and all of the above quotes from the other poster's. I've heard them all.<P>

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Well, my all-time favorite was at one of my wife's lowest points. She had recently discovered that she was pregnant by the OM. In a discussion about "why" I moved back home to take care of her (and why I had left), she said...<P>"It's YOUR fault that I'm pregnant..."

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how about: <P> "THE DEVIL MADE ME DO IT!"

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Had to join in here:-<P>It was pre-destined in a previous life - I don't have a choice!<P>Don't make me laugh!

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This thread is killin' me!!! (I especially love the editorial comments from y'all. Priceless! [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com])<P>I'll reach back into the archives and add a few more........<BR>My H's first explanation of why he did it:<BR>"You wouldn't have sex with me!"<P>When asked why he didn't at least try to tell me how he was feeling:<BR>"I didn't know what else to do."<P>When asked how he felt after that "first time" in the car:<BR>"Once I crossed the line, I thought my life was over."<P>When asked why he took her to the Holiday Inn Express (LOL):<BR>"I figured if I was going to do it, I may as well get something out of it."<P>When I asked him why her:<BR>"She offered."<P>When I asked him if the sex with her was worth it:<BR>"No."<P>Boy, isn't that nice to hear!!! All this we've had to go through and it wasn't even great sex!!! Arrrrrrrrrrgggggggghhhh!!<P>------------------<BR>No one said this was going to be easy.<BR>

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This was told to me this weekend after 2 years of separation and living our separate lives:<P>ex H: " I'm trying really hard to forget you and our past.'<P>Me: "Forget me? Why don't you acknowledge what you did?'<P>ex H: " I didn't do anything, you threw me out."<P>Me: "Yes, after finding out you were cheating."<P>ex H: "Querida, ever since I've been gone I've never been with anyone."<P>Me: " Then how do you explain OW?<P>ex H: "Yeah, I was with her....But I wasn't WITH her."<P>Me: AhhhhHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! <P>What the hell is that all about!!!!!!!!??<P><BR>Q <P>------------------<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Querida (edited May 18, 1999).]

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anyone heard something like:<P>"It's like she had some kind of spell on me"<BR>"I'll talk to her if I want to"<BR>"We didn't go all the way because she would have gotten pregnant"<P>or from the OW:<P>"You have no right to talk to me like this"<BR>"I was enjoying what your husband was doing to me"<BR>"Why do you think I am a threat to your kids"<P>but the best is from friends:<P>"First she was acting like a sl**, now she's acting like high-school trash"<P>To bad he fell for it.<P>[This message has been edited by prism (edited May 18, 1999).]<p>[This message has been edited by prism (edited May 18, 1999).]

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how about:<P>before "negotiations" began (on the road to putting our marriage back together -- i hope):<P>"i feel like you want me to come back BEGGING for your forgiveness and i didn't do anything wrong." <P>there is NOTHING that can be said in rebuttal on that one that won't get me in trouble!<P>but, p.s. -- if you would ask my forgiveness, i would be more than happy to forgive and -- eventually -- forget... but apparently, you did nothing wrong! OH, YEAH.... right! [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]~

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This is my first post, I could not resist adding some of the words of wisdom from my H....<BR>"I haven't been happy for almost a year"<BR>"You should have known something was wrong between us"<BR>"She doesn't treat me like a child"<BR>"I have not had sex with her"<BR>"I slept on her couch"<BR>"I told her I couldn't see her anymore" (4 times.)<BR>"I had to go over there to explain to her daughter why I wasn't going to be around anymore."<BR>"When I am with her I think of you, and when I am with you I think of her"<BR>"Maybe you should go out with someone else and then you will see that I am not the right man for you."<BR>"I don't know what I want, I am so confused"<P>Plus several of the ones that have already been posted. It is reassuring that my H isn't the only saying these ridiculous things. There must a universal book of quotes for cheaters!<BR>Thank God for this website.<P> <p>[This message has been edited by cheyba (edited May 18, 1999).]

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"I know how many men she's been with, you can't even imagine."<BR> but<BR>"She's not a sl**."

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You guys, this thread is making me sad.<P>I can only say "I'm sorry" in so many languages, especially when I only know one. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]

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