Okay, NCW...

I have never dated as a grownup. In college, you hardly even have to try. Right after college I got married. Now, ten years later, as my divorce wraps up, I'm starting.

I've already screwed up. My date on Tuesday stood me up, and I only know her first name and where she works. So... I blew that one. Maybe she'd have shown up if we'd exchanged numbers.

Lesson #1: Always get the digits.

GC

WRONG! greycloud. She screwed up. Now she will never know your charm. She will never sit across from you and experience your male sexuality slowy wrapping its aura around her. Silly girl!!

Of course, getting her number does help to ensure that she is serious about seeing you.

LOL!. GC, this won't be the last one either. This is dating life. Shrug it off and make a move to another lady.

BTW ... is your Dv'ed finalized yet ?. If not. don't rush it, let this M closes first before opening another door.

-rh-

Well... how do you know her? How did you set up the date? I guess she's had time to let you know "I'm sorry I didn't make it, my cat got sick" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> or whatever. You COULD try one attempt of "I'm sorry our wires must have gotten crossed on Tuesday." and try to make another date. In a non-stalking way. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Depending on how you know her.... I'm thinking.... when I started dating on match.com, I was hesitant to give my phone number out until I met the guy. That's always risky when meeting someone, because things come up and plans change, but she should have let you know by now, BUT she may be embarassed or something.

Anyway, like the others said, there will be others! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Okay, then, here's another one. And redhat, I appreciate your advice. It's all over but the shouting. We have a divorce agreement. It's just a matter of shuffling papers. I've fought for my marriage and grieved for a year. I'm done. I'm dating.

So here's the thing. Just over two weeks ago, my brother got married. At the wedding, I approached a friend of the bride. We talked a bit, then in all the excitement we lost track of each other. I felt like she liked me.

Now I want to call her. I'd have to get her number from my SIL. It's been two weeks. Let's assume she liked me, and would have been interested in getting to know me.

What's the best way to get in touch with her? Fire away!

GC

GC, you cutie-patootie!

Okay, I have to tell you about my first foray into the world of "grown-up dating." You are going to LOVE this!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Now, I had been out to those Expresso Dating things and group date things, and had a LOT of fun but never made a connection. One day, though, I struck up a conversation with a guy I kept running into at the coffee shop I frequent. It seemed to me we had at least ONE thing in common (love of morning java), plus he was kinda cute and I just decided to throw caution to the wind...and I asked him out. He accepted! So, we exchanged names and phone #s, set a time, and he was going to come to my house to pick me up for dinner (Mistake #1: first dates...meet at the restaurant not at your home). Anywho, being the naive grown woman that I am, he comes to the house, we go to dinner, he drops me back at the house and HE WANTS TO COME IN. I'm a bit hesitant, and without one bit of hesitation he basically says that he expects at least a BJ out of this or he won't be asking me out again!

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Can you say STUNNED?????

Needless to say, he did not ask me out again.

Soooooo...your first little attemtp was considerably more successful in a way, wasn't it?? haha!!

*****

Regarding the girl at the wedding, call your SIL, call her and say, "Hey, this is me GC...remember we talked at XYZ's wedding? Well, I've been thinking of you since then and just worked up my courage to call you? Would you like to go to ABC and listen to this band I like??"

See how smooth that is?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />




FNCJ

Well least ya got dinner, and a little smarter about dating, that's what dating is for...learning. So no date is actually a loss, long as you learn something about yourself, or dating, or what you like in someone. But it is amazing how hard it is to discern losers like this from good prospects. I think it is probably best to have some kind of limited interaction with a person, such as coffee, lunch meeting in public a few times, when the person starts out as a total random stranger. Talking some, checking each other out, looking for good or bad vibes....so you still getting coffee there?

As with most other pursuits, I believe dating lessons can be learned from going fishing.

The fishing is always excellent. Sometimes the catching is, too.

If we were supposed to catch a fish with every cast, it would be called "catching", not fishing.

As long as it gets to the water, there is no such thing as a bad cast.

WAT

As far as woman from the wedding, I'd wait until after the D is final. Many people are very turned off by daters who rush to replace their STBX. If the paperwork is stalled, do what you can to rush it along.

Graycloud --
Regard wedding-woman, please refer yourself to Lesson #1 in first post.

There will be a test next time...