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Hello All,
Just dropping in to see old friends!

For those of you that don't know me.... I'm [color:"blue"]ZebraBaby[/color] . This board saved my life and my sanity many years ago. I met so many fabulous people here who traveled the hard road of infidelity resulting in a child. I was one of the very blessed to receive a get out jail free card. The DNA results came back proving the OC was [color:"red"]NOT[/color] my husbands. This was after a year of visitation and non-court ordered child support.

My marriage today is stronger and happier than the day we got married. I recently read a book called, "My Husband's Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me" By Anne Bercht. And I can honestly say, I agree. Had he not had his affair we would have ended up divorced and our kids would be products of a broken home.

I hope all is well with those of you I know. And for those I don't know... do know that with both spouses working towards a recovered marriage, it CAN work.

Much love and many blessings to you all.
Z.


Zebra Baby ... Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Wow, Zebra, good to "see" yoU!! I'm so glad you are well!!

Hugs,
"Jenny"


Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person. -Mother Teresa
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Show off! I don't know how to utilize all those things on a computer lol!

We sure had a great board back then~

So good to hear from you, really so good!

Still where you moved a few years ago?

And Jenny.....hi girl....hope it's all ok w/you~

Debi


Married 3-02-74
D-day 11-13-00
Recovered very well now~
N/C
Me and H both 55
1 beautiful granddaughter, a wonderful son, and daughter-in-law...(like a daughter~)

God answers all prayers in His own way...in His own time.
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Z, so great to see you here! I have had some major things happen but not many here know of it. If you still have my email addy, shot me out one and I'll email you back this big news, you too Gem! I'm still a little nervous of even sharing on the private board an prefer to do so via email.

Great to see you again!


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me~BS & WS~38~~h~BS & WS~37 my d-days~7/92, 1/96, 7/00, 9/07
h's d-days~7/11/00 & 2 weeks later 3 COM, 1 OC(mine)
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[color:"purple"]So good to see you Z!!!:D <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

You were one of the few that really helped me right after my arrival here.

I remember approaching you off-board the first time and feeling so nervous, but you made me feel very comfortable and safe talking about this whole experience.

We, too, have had some developments.
We have had primary custody of Lil Bit for over a year and a half now. Just finished going to court to get visitation re-organized. Now waiting for the call to go to court over child support.

Like I said, its soo good to see you!!!
Drop me a line sometime!!! My AIM forwards to my cell now!! So, I can get messages ANYTIME!!!

Your friend,
Stacia
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No waters He cannot part;
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Stacia,
So glad to hear things are going well and you still have Lil Bit. You always had such a huge heart and we all envied you for that. I bet she's getting big. What a blessing for her to have such an awesome Other Mother! I've said it before... and I'll say it again. God has a special place in heaven for you! And while on this earth he's gonna keep you in his favor!

I too enjoyed our talks. Feel free to say hey when you see me on line (AIM).

Talk to ya soon!
Z.


Zebra Baby ... Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Tigger!
Glad to see you too. I'm not sure if I still have your email addy. Do you have Stacia's. She knows my AOL screen name... she can give you it and you can email me. Make sure you put Stacia in the subject box so I don't delete you as SPAM!

Hope to hear from you soon!


Zebra Baby ... Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Gem, my dear Gem... gonna reply to your post on the private board... check there.

Z.


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Jenny,
Great to see you too. And glad that your are still active on the boards.

We sure did have a good bunch of posters back in the day. What a great community for support. I hope the newbies are finding some of the great treasures in you and the others that have stayed onboard!

Take care,
Z.


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Ummm, do we still HAVE a private board?!

Clueless,
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Yes, I saw it listed on the lists of different boars.. you should check to see if you can still get in.

Z.


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Hi Ladies,

Just dropped in after a one-year absence.
I am glad to see that many of the old gang
drop by once in a while and that all of you
are doing so well.

Things are good for us also. Our boys
are, as the social worker says, "growing and
thriving." Our oldest, Pie-Pie, is away for a
week on his first youth group trip and first
time away from me since the adoption 3 years
ago. Younger son, Bean-Bean, is away with Mr. J
for a few days visiting Mr. J's parents and
watching a professional tennis tournament.

We are 5 years past D-day and life is good. Mr. J's
business is growing steadily and I am back at
work after a year of unemployment. Precious (OC)
is coming to stay with us for a week in August.
We took the boys out to see her last year. The trip
was a great success except for too much contact
with ex-OW.

I thought about the affair about a month ago and
felt sick to my stomach. I calmed myself by thinking
it ended 5 years ago and I have nothing to worry
about. We lost too much of our lives to this mess
to let it disturb our lives any longer.

Love,
MJ


Romans 8:38-9 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
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MaryJanes!! So GOOD to hear!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> FABulous. I love hearing from the "Oldies"!


Guys, I cannot SEE a private board listed. Does that mean I'm not authorized, or I'm dumb? LOL Should I ask the moderator?

Hugs to all,
"J"
(visitation w/OC now too)


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Mary Janes.... what a coincidence that we both drop in at the same time.
So good to see you and hear the boys and OC are doing so well.

Triggers come few and far between these days... but when they do... I say a prayer and go kiss my hubby!

Good the hear from you. Take care,
Z.


Zebra Baby ... Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

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