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This afternoon, I am having my first sit down face-to-face with WW and the attorneys. I would appreciate any advice or "pearls" that you may have concerning these meetings. My plan is to say nothing and let my attorney do all the talking( as per my Plan B letter). I am 18 months out of my house after a 2 day false reconcialtion. BTW I am located in California, a community property state. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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Have a plan, know your boundaries, and the lines you won't cross. And be willing to negotiate - after all - what is truly important to you?
I don't know if you have kids, but custody seems to be the worst to determine.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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newly,
Thank the Lord there are no children. The only thing truly important to me was my marriage, everything else is disposable. That said her life has/was always based on the illusion of happiness. Material things make her VERY happy. Is it wrong to not want to make her happy?
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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No, it is not wrong to want that. Only human. But don't do anything just for spite - you have to live with yourself later. But don't roll over either.
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cyllanlisa,
The state of California is set up so that spite ( or honesty or faithfullness)doesn't enter into the equation.
Thanks for your input
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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