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I noticed some online dating sites have options to pick your relationship status as either: divorced or single. I was just wondering if you usually go ahead and apply the divorced label or do you consider yourself single?

Actually, I would rather divulge that I’m divorced upon establishing contact with someone and not before the fact. I could see the reason to post that you had kids involved, however I do not.

Is there a certain type of protocol you establish when meeting other people regarding your divorce. Are you upfront about your divorce or is this something you save until after more contact with the other person is established? Can’t I just choose to be single? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


Married 3 years Me(BS): 33 WW: 30 D-Day 5/21/05 Divorced - it's over and my life has now begun
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I'm curious as to why you don't want to say you are divorced?
I'm divorced, I'm single because I'm divorced. Pick what you feel comfortable with...
I'm upfront about my divorce(s), I have nothing to hide, made some mistakes, married the wrong person(s).
I tell them upfront that I'm divorced more than once. Some may chose to run, and that's okay, but it's a fact and I learned from it, and they chose not to "chose me" because of it, then they aren't for me to begin with...My divorce(s) do not define me...


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[color:"blue"]If I saw a guy that was 33 and never married I would wonder about that more than I would if he were 33 and divorced.

I don't think that there is much shame anymore in being divorced. In fact they coined a phrase "starter marriage" to describe the phenomenon of first marriages ending in divorce...

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I prefer divorced - which can be interpreted to mean "I am not desperate and need a man, been there & done that. Now I just want to have fun"

And if you can't stand kids - do not apply.


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I label myself as "divorced". Single for me just doesn't sound right. But then again, I've never put much thought into this question.

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To me "single" means you have NEVER been married. Usually that is a red flag for me. Men in their 40's and never been married makes me wonder "what's wrong with him?" But, there are exceptions to that too.


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