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I don't think anyone was uncomfortable--I think Tempest was commenting as a Moderator, making sure that the question was within the confines of Marriage Building....


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I have to conclude that a minority of men are getting more than their fair share. No doubt these are either the Bad Boys, or the the guys who are their own Man.

Well, I read the results a bit differently... Looks to me like in the sample group, the boys are quite boring, while the women sure do get around. Does that mean that "Real Men Don't Do MB"?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

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It's makes me believe that there really is a difference in men.
The guys that come here must be more sensitive to relationships, want to learn and grow from what has happened, and really care about a future relationship with the right person.

In that case,
I would prefer a MB kind of guy!

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I think current age should have been a part of this "poll"..
as well as, some other criteria..times M, years single, etc.

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Well, I read the results a bit differently... Looks to me like in the sample group, the boys are quite boring, while the women sure do get around. Does that mean that "Real Men Don't Do MB"??

Do you really think that quantity wins out?

Your "Real Men" thought would make a good subject for a new post. I think I'll check out everyone's opinion.



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Real Men Don't Do MB?

or "Bad boys don't do MB"

This has been discussed before.

But I like what Justin said, it's better to be a Good Man than a Nice Guy.

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It's makes me believe that there really is a difference in men.
The guys that come here must be more sensitive to relationships, want to learn and grow from what has happened, and really care about a future relationship with the right person.

In that case,
I would prefer a MB kind of guy!

Well-said, Karona! That's what I was thinking, but couldn't put my words together.

I was also trying to think along the lines of the old thought that women give sex to get love, and men give love to get sex. Maybe we have that group here.

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I think current age should have been a part of this "poll"..as well as, some other criteria..times M, years single, etc.

while all of that would have been nice to know I was trying to make it as simple as possible and as anonymous as possible.

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Well, I read the results a bit differently... Looks to me like in the sample group, the boys are quite boring, while the women sure do get around. Does that mean that "Real Men Don't Do MB"??

Do you really think that quantity wins out?

Oh gosh NO!! My quote was done with tongue firmly in cheek!! I am the classic "boring nice guy", but I consider myself to be more of a real man than any bad boy. Hey, I am a great dad, what bad boy can say that?

However, it does make you think - obviously the prolific women are not getting their kicks from the MB-type boys, so what gives? On the one hand, they seem to say "give me an MB man anytime!", on the other, my math tells me that that is not what they are doing.

Something is not adding up to me, that's all.

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However, it does make you think - obviously the prolific women are not getting their kicks from the MB-type boys, so what gives? On the one hand, they seem to say "give me an MB man anytime!", on the other, my math tells me that that is not what they are doing.

Something is not adding up to me, that's all.

Personally, that's why I'm here, to learn what I may be doing wrong, and to do better. Remember my constant struggle to "raise the bar"? I hope you're not putting anyone down, since we are all here to help each other. I haven't made the wisest choices, although my "number" isn't THAT high.

But, I'm obviously still single, and I obviously haven't found what I want in life, and I'm learning and growing every day. You see my "reading" thread? You see me here, trying to learn?

That's just me. Can't speak for anyone else. Yep - I want a "Good man". Why are all you "good men" here? Single? Still searching for Ms. Right? Either you're still learning and growing, or she hasn't come into your life yet.

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On the one hand, they seem to say "give me an MB man anytime!", on the other, my math tells me that that is not what they are doing.

I'll be the first to admit that's not what I've been doing. I'm trying to change that though. I am trying my darnest to be a MB woman by flat out stating what my needs are and hopefully J will become an MB man by seeing me changing my actions because I want to change...it's still to early to determine if it will work or not but that's my goal. Should it not work out with him then at least I'll be the person I desire to be for the next man I date, who WILL already be a MB man, in a perfect world. LOL


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You know, when I was 21, I really wanted a virgin. Now, however, I really would prefer a woman with experience. Actually, it does not matter at all now. I just want a woman who would love me & meet my needs as much as I want to meet hers.


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You know, when I was 21, I really wanted a virgin.

Why? I don't know many young women who specifically look for virgin men but yet young men seem to want virgin women. Of course I'm not talking now in my late 30's but when I was younger it seemed that was the "IN" (pardon the slight pun) thing for young men to strive for.

Just another curiosity question.


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I hope you're not putting anyone down

Faith, not at all! I am just trying to understand the numbers, that's all.

Society tells us that men are pigs and want nothing but to sleep around, and that women are forced to be the gate keepers.

Yet the results here tell us that 3/4 of the men are below 6 partners, while 1/2 of the women are above 10 partners, with a couple of 51+ thrown in.

I am just wondering if the other adage holds true: "women say they want the nice guys, but in practice go for the bad boys".

Again, no criticizing or putting down, just pondering the numbers, what else do you expect from an engineer??

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You know, when I was 21, I really wanted a virgin.

Why? I don't know many young women who specifically look for virgin men but yet young men seem to want virgin women. Of course I'm not talking now in my late 30's but when I was younger it seemed that was the "IN" (pardon the slight pun) thing for young men to strive for.

Just another curiosity question.

I guess it was just the Christian thing to want. I had intercourse with one girl before marriage & wished I had not. I was open with W about it.

I guess I foolishly thought that virginity was more important than generosity. Believe me, I know better now. I would much rather have a woman with a past who was an enthusiastic giving sexual partner. The numbers are not nearly as important as a giving heart. That is the only thing that makes a difference.


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Thanks for answering. It makes sense.


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