Shoot! Sorry AGE, I meant good luck to you on your interview!!!

Not needy/clingy. But, confident, comfortable with himself and gentle and receptive to the woman.

Great advice Faith! I will remember it.

This advice is so good, I have to post it twice!

Not needy/clingy. But, confident, comfortable with himself and gentle and receptive to the woman.

Great advice Faith! I will remember it.

Thank you all for your support. It's so nice to have you all here!!!!

allurin.... lemme know how that interview went! I was rootin for ya!

Justin - I'm glad that was helpful for you. After spending 4 more hours with him last night, that description still fits him!

Faith, some of us are living through you! It's a thrill for me to see you excited, makes me excited!

Thank you for the good wishes D! even though it wasn't me, but it's nice to know your thoughts were there.

And how did you do Alluring? Let us know!

K!

Don't want to highjack your wonderful thread so I'll just give a brief summary of the interview.

I've been a SAHM for 15 years with only a few part time jobs here and there. The job market STINKS in the small community I live in. Tuesday there was a job in the paper for a job at the newspaper office, Tuesday I mailed my resume in, Wednesday she called me for an interview for this morning. Almost like it's meant to be but I don't want to jinx myself. She was very nice and I think it went quite well. The interview lasted 45 minutes...I've never had one last that long...usually 15 minutes and you're outta there!

The position is for a District Sales Manager in the Circulation Department. Great benefits and salary! Which we(kids and I) need BIG time!

I am really praying hard...and I believe if it's God's will then it will happen. This could potentially be a prayer answered right before our eyes.

sorry for my little highjacking.

Faith,

Like Karona said...it's so nice to live through you and your happiness. You deserves every bit of this and I'm sooooo happy for you!!! I hope he knows what a gem he has in front on him in you!

HUGS!!! and thank you all for your prayers...I can feel them!!

I'm glad it went well, allurin! I'll keep prayin for ya! You can threadjack anytime!

Thanks sweetie!!

He called last night (glad he picked up the pace a little!), but I was out. I called him back this morning, and we talked for a bit, and he asked me out for next Friday night. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> He's going to pick me up. And he said he'll call me tomorrow. I don't guess I can call him Mr. Slow anymore. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> I was hoping he wanted to do something tonight - I really wanted to go to his house and watch a game or a movie, but, I knooowwwwwwww... take things slower this time Faith!

Okay, so we could call him, Mr. Pace???
That's great Faith. He is showing interest in a large way asking you out a week in advance.

He may have had a previous obligation tonight, or maybe he didn't want to seem to eager. Whatever the case, I don't think you need to worry about it, because he's thinking well in advance and being sure he is getting your time.

Enjoy the slowness of it. Try not to rush it.

I can't wait for more updates!

Karona

You are so right Karona!!!! Those are SUCH good points. Thank you so much!!!

hmmm Mr. Pace. That's pretty good! I kindof like what Drita said: Mr. Not-So-Slow, or NSS. LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Okay, I'm wondering??
Any more calls from Mr. NSS/Nice Guy?

Nibby minds you know!

K!

Faith,
Did he call yesterday like he said he would? Did you make plans for Friday? Or are they already made?

I found another book to read...I'll post on the other thread!

Not to take over your thread Faith, but.....

Update on my Mr. Slow.
No, he has not called anymore, but....

I talked to a friend who graduated HS with him, and she knew him pretty well.
I asked her about him yesterday, told her I went out with him. She rolled her eyes and said, I heard that.
I told her to spill, what do you know?

She said, in school, he was arrogant, thought he was better than everyone. She said, if he were female, he would have been the female equivalent of the popular snob group.

So, that explains why he didn't ask me any questions. He probably felt I should be honored to be in his presence and be seen with him.
Can you imagine? 38 and think that highly of yourself?

K!

Karona!
That is SO unfair of you to judge this guy on what this gal said!!
How long ago was school, for one thing? How much have you changed since school? What would people say about you and would it be accurate now?
I try to NEVER judge people on what others say. 1) They come from a totally different background that me and they will have a totally different view of people/circumstances. 2) People change, especially at his age... 3) She could be jealous!

Did you get the feeling he felt highly of himself? Maybe he is now shy, after getting that ego broken and has a hard time letting people in.

Let me tell you, my reputation in HS- I smoked in the bathroom, was a "bad girl" that everyone was afraid of!!!
That just blows me away! (I heard about this at my recent reunion!) I'm SO far from that now!

Perhaps you're right Drita, and need to be reminded about people and perceptions. Based on the way my date went with him, I pegged it as accurate.

He didn't act interested in my at all. He knows I have a daughter in the HS band. We went to a game together. The band performed at Halftime. I was surprised that he didn't ask who she was. I didn't offer because I felt he was rude about it.

He is 38, still lives at home with mom and dad. Seems strange to me.

I felt there were flags concerning him, and this summed them up for me.
I considered him nice, but couldn't at all figure out why he didn't ask 1 question about me. I just figure, me being divorced, two girls, big red flags should wave. Maybe he truly doesn't care.

As far as me since HS? for the most part, my values/beliefs/way I handle myself are the same, but I'm not as quiet as I was then.
I'm sure some thought I was a snob, but if they knew me, they would have known I was quiet. That being said, I would say you are right about people and realizing perception could be fogged.

Thanks!
K!

I forgot he was living with mommy and daddy still.
He may still not be the right one, but I just hate the thought of someone judging me on someone else's perception. If you meet me, get to know me and don't like, fine, but I just hate it when people judge others based on one person's opinion. I, for one, would have far fewer friends if I listened to everyone. I'm on a person to person basis. I don't welcome negative comments from anyone... make sense?
For example, I met that guy last week off of a dating website-we just met for coffee to see if there was any "chemistry", and I didn't feel any-obviously he didn't either, but I have a three date rule, because how can really tell if you might like someone after 30 minutes? Chemistry MAY build, and actually these days I would rather it did -AFTER I know them a bit, because then it's the whole package I'm digging, not just the physical.
Hope that makes sense... wait... am I hijacking?
So sorry...

I don't mind the hijacking at all! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

No, he didn't call last night, like he said. Not TOO concerned - we'll see what happens next.

I am another one that is shy/quiet, and therefore some people think I'm a snob. When I learned this my senior year in high school, I was FLOORED! Me???? a Snob??? I was the shyest, most insecure person there was. Somehow, over the years, I learned more, that insecurity, shyness, etc, REALLY is being SO absorbed with yourself, it's just as bad as being conceited. You are constantly worried about what others think of you, that you can't think of anyone else. This produces the same symptoms you are complaining about Karona. This person (shy, or conceited, either one) doesn't know how to talk to the other person about them. I have had to learn, and sometimes it's still difficult, to ask questions about the other person, and make conversation.

I'll keep you posted about Mr. NSS.

Oh Faith... good point indeed on the insecurity issue!

I don't like that NSS didn't call you though. this is a HUGE issue for me though. I mean, I'm REALLY bad about it, but know it!!! I desire someone who follows through and does what they say they are going to do! I DETEST (friend or otherwise) when someone says they will call me and they don't! ARG!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
But that's just me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

I agree, somewhat, Drita. I guess I sortof "keep score" though. If he has enough in his favor, to overlook something like that, I can handle it. Especially when part of the problem may be me (I may have been online - yes dial-up <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> , and then he got busy), and so I can give him the benefit of the doubt.... for now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />