I dont get it, do doctors think nurses are just there for their person pleasure? Why are nurses willing to be sex toys for doctors? Someone please explain this to me.

There are 3 doctors that live on the same street that my parents live on and every one of them is divorced and remarried to a nurse they "worked" with. My wife left me for a married doctor who doesnt seem to be planning on leaving his wife. Is there something in the water at hospitals or what?

Doctors and nurses face life and death every day in their profession. They forge bonds with each other because of the depth of emotions they go through healing the bodies of their patients...and watching those slip away they couldn't save. I think it's akin to the bonding a group of men goes through as they go through and survive the horror of combat. It's something they have between them that nobody else can penetrate in any meaningful sense.

Couple the bonding with the fact that something like 60% of all adulteries begin in the workplace. (I read that somewhere the other day--don’t quote me on the precise number but it’s close.) When you do that, I think you can see hospitals are a natural breeding ground for such things as you describe.

Nurse here -

Doctors and Nurses are perfect compliments to each other. They share similar interests, enjoy the sciences, and appreciate stimulating conversation.

My WH is not interested in my career at all. And the reality is unless you live it it's hard to appreciate it. I would come home excited about some new therapy I just learned about, or the life threatening reaction a patient had, or the stories of triumph and loss. He just doesn't get it. But other medical professionals do.

And believe me - not all nurses are sex toys for doctors (in 18 years of nursing I can only think of two relationships that were a doctor and nurse, and they all were young and ended up getting married).

Doctors also spend a lot of time in the office, in the hospital, on rounds, on call, in surgery, etc., etc., so only one who really appreciates what they do day in and day out can understand the hours.

Hi, AS.

From the perspective of the doctor who is a player/user wannabe, a hospital is simply a target rich environment.

Sounds like your wife is a target. On a positive note, in your situation, she will eventually realize she is being played and get very, very angry at the player.

All the best,
Gimble

Well, I used to work at a firm that defends Medmal cases, and I have been around a lot of doctors in all kinds of situations, and I have found that many doctors tend to believe that they are entitled to whatever they want.

Since they are treated like gods at work, they think they should be treated this way all the time.

Yeah she is getting there, he still professes his love for her but she says that 50 percent of the time she hates him and 50 percent she still cares for him. Unfortunately he seems to be either a very good lair or he is telling the truth about his feelings for her, either way I highly doubt he will ever leave his wife.

I find it VERY SEXIST of you (even though I feel for you 100 percent in your sitch) to say that nurses are sex toys for docs.

I for one am NOT a nurse...somewhere in limbo in a very very specialized and technical field and will be attending a practicioner (masters') program (first of its kind in the country) beginning next year should i get the sponsorship of the group I work with. would be hard to afford as a single mom despite a decent salary.

what we do...I work side by side w/docs on some days and sometimes can even go all day without seeing one if I don't need their opinions on something. we are colleagues. they do not frown down on me nor I on them. I don't see many at all who act "god like"...

what is there...STRESS...and long hours. why? you have call. boy do I know about that. You are a slave to your cell phone. You get called in right in that perfect place of rem sleep...go in...help somebody in trouble. and I call a doc in middle of night after I do the procedure and we help the person out.

stress and long hours combined with the bonding...and working in basically a male dominated profession is waht I have encountered...again, I am not a nurse though. but nurses in my hospital tend to bunch together...very friendly group..and yes, they as myself, and the docs, are into science, technology, and care much about others...so much we do it for our lifework.

If you really think they are a breeding ground for hot adultery love, then you're watching TOO MUCH GENERAL HOSPITAL.

I would say that there is not as much hankey pankey as I've seen in the business world by far. I could sit here and rip on businessmen and women all day...but I won't. adultery will happen anyhwere.

I think it happens in hospitals, in practices is the same as ithappens in college, or at a bank, or in an office building. However, more politically correct imho at a hospital.

have I been asked out at work? sure. but guys know I am single. common knowledge. and none of my direct coworkers are the cheating kinds...guys are happily married ones...but they do look out for me and keep close eye on anybody that might invade our dept. territory and come' a calling...rarely happens but when it does...boys best watch out b/c uncle mac and brothers collin and jim are on the watch. and are my staunchest allies. theier wives love me too.

it is somewhat like band of brothers. we are a wierd strangely unalike yet very much alike brood...we have our inside jokes...and we can almost read each others' minds sometimes.

now for the docs...we work independently but when we need to get the docs, they are a stone's throw away.

have I dated a doc? yea. did I work with them? NO. not directly. One was a PA I worked with. I'd see him during lunch or when a patient would crash and I would begin acls and call a code..and he'd come help me out until the parameds arrived at the practice. we were friends first...and SINGLE. and yes, I have gone out with another doc...and am still trying to get our schedules straight as we are too wildly opposite in timing to synch our dates.

how'd I meet him? He literally ran into me when I was bringing some clinical trial studies to a doc at emory...this resident ran me down in hall...knocked papers outta my hand and then apologized and asked for coffee..again, that could have happened in a copying room in a large office building or at a paper mill.

I think you would be better saying "what's the deal with all these people who THINK THEY ARE ENTITLED TO CHEAT"...that is more appropeau.

My xh? NOT a doc. not even close. not exactly the braniac...my friends joke in saying "darth is the opposite of peach...literally". In fact, he hates docs...hates fact I have dated them...he hates thinking anybody else is smarter than him...INCLUDING ME..which he will say that I have far more booksense than him (a cfo of a company) but he is circles ahead of me in business sense...which I have no desire to do.

but I can say this. deep friendships develop from working in healthcare and the "life saving" business. It is like being in a foxhole with your troops fighting a common enemy. when you win, it's for the good of the whole...when you lose, you want to cry. and you see a little of both each day..go in wearing your game face and work the day as it comes. at the end of each day, I write up our board..names, and all the procedures they are gonna need. next day, the board becomes people with faces and different illnesses and outcomes. and we take care of each one..after which we erase their name off the day's board.

I am close friends with many people I used to work with even 10 years ago. again, it's people whom you share more than ajob...you share knowledge. you share other people's dreams...it is addictive. I can't imagine being in any other field. nothing else makes sense to me.

and I've dated guys more seriously that are NOT docs...over the years. both college bf's were not in health field. and almost married one, before darth.

I think adultery can happen anywhere...that is IF YOU ALLOW IT TO HAPPEN. nobody is entitled to anything. nada. but if you somehow believe you are, you're mistaken. My xh is more of your doc description you wrote of...entitled...thinks he can get what he wants...treats others below him badly...and is himself untouchable. my xh today in being nice, had to drop in the cost of his lakefront property he had bought..and then said "well peach we can get you a nice house for x amount...you'd be surprised how little can get you a lot if you just look" as if trying to put me in my place as I can no longer afford anything remotely near his price range.

arses come in every profession.

Actually JP, other than relating a personal experience that his wife had an affair with a doctor, AtomicSpin didn't assign a gender to the profession. You did.

Actually he DID APPLY A GENDER HERE..

I will paste his words and I quote, :

"I dont get it, do doctors think nurses are just there for their person pleasure? Why are nurses willing to be sex toys for doctors? Someone please explain this to me."

I don't believe that for a second. Not any more than any affairs in any workplace. In fact, sometimes I feel we are under a microscope..and not just in a lab either. we're really scrutinized daily.

and with my schedule working..i could barely eat lunch...much less become a boytoy...


or try to make a guy become MY girltoy.

Maybe its different there but I think messing around with nurses is almost a requirement around here. Of course the nurses getting messed around with arent the old fat ones in most cases. Maybe your eyes are wide shut.

I read it again.....and again....I still don't see the gender reference.

Sex toy? Was that it? Women don't have sex toys?

You assumed he meant male doctors and female nurses, he didn’t say that. You assumed it.

My STBXWW is a nurse and the OM is a doctor. They worked together at an air ambulance service. I don't assume all male doctors are cads, nor all female nurses promiscuous. I, nor you, can say our experiences are universal. The “experts” say that in professions that have emotionally charged work involved the participants have a greater affinity to become emotionally and thus romantically involved. That is at least according to Shirley Glass the author of “not just friends”. Throw shift work in there and it doesn’t create an affair, simply provides an excellent venue to pursue it

I work in an “emotionally charged"profession as well…..I’ve worked shift work….I’ve seen the bonding take place. I personally think any profession that has these components in place lends itself to extramarital affairs. The “band of brothers” mentality you refer to is the very atmosphere that provides the opportunity. I’m willing to bet I know that atmosphere far more intimately than you do.

AtomicSpin may have crassly generalized a profession, but I feel there is some truth regarding certain types of proffessions and their propensity to breed affairs. I think his comment simply may have struck a nerve in you.

AS,

Being an RN I can sympathize with what you are feeling but it sounds like a generalization.Maybe you just feel that it is more present being on the receiving end.In a way,it's like how I see the homewreckers name practically everywhere I go lately.It's absolutely ridiculous.On the back of taxis',on boxes,in the credits for movies.Maybe I just recognize it more now that it sparks an adverse reaction for me.It's not a common name but there it is nonetheless. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> puke

There were many fine women and men who did not take part in this kind of abhorrent behavior but there also were many nurses and doctors that did,I witnessed it where I worked and many A's too.I was also pursued heavily by a doctor when I was engaged.

Like the other's mentioned,it can happen anywhere and starts in most workplaces where there is intimate contact regularly.

O

Where is it Peach?

I read it carefully, looked at at each word. I didn't see any reference to gender at all. Not a "he" nor a "she", nor a "her" nor a "his" in it... nothing.

-AD

BTW, the same thing happens in the police, the military, the fire dept, forest service etc. The shared drama, flexible schedule, lack of supervision all make affairs more likely.

-AD