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A bunch of us were briefly Soylent, lol, but it was all in my honor, *modest blush* and thanks to NCWalker.

As my sig line says, I still answer to all my names, including NSYN and Nutso.

I like your reminder of NSYN better than mine. To me, it looks like either "Enn Ess Wye Enn", or just "Ensign".

Yes, my experience was still notsoyouneak, but it defines me less each day. It made me who I am, but it is no longer the biggest part of who I am.

If that makes any sense.


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NSYN,

It makes a lot of sense and sounds incredibly desireable right about now to me. Patience and commitment are the key and I too will get there one way or another.

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You bet you will get there!

MEDC just told BKarl "baby steps" and that applies to you, too.

Really, it still applies to me just as much.


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dont you chem guys put a lot of fog and smoke out there for us??? lol).




my H is in Afghanistan again now and this comment just tweaked my memory .. he said he loved smoke , but rain, sleet, clouds and snow would do in a pinch lol
he still hates the cold though.

good to see you on track and coping as well as can be expected right now.... and you will get to that place of Patience and commitment just as Neak says.


Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.

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All,

Thanks for the continued support. Just a quick update on my situation. DD and WW are okay. They remained in Garden City, Kansas, as WW got the flu and couldn't travel. They are back in WA now, but I haven't talked to them yet since they returned.

I've been a reading fool the last few days since leaving Dallas - a 14 hour flight and massive jetlag in Kuwait will do that to you. I've read Too Busy Not to Pray by Bill Hybels, Father's Rights by Jeffrey Leving, and the first part of Love Busters by Willard Harley. The first book has transformed the way I think about and conduct my prayer life. It has helped me to open a dialogue with God in a way that I never imagined. The second book has prepared me for the worst case scenario. The third book has opened my eyes to the dynamics of my own relationship with my wife and the bad habits that I need to change, that she needs to change, and the ways in which we've migrated between conflict and withdrawal for a long time due to the external pressures on our marriage.

I started using the recommended journaling and prayer logging from the Hybels book and on the first night I had a little revelation that may really turn into a huge blessing. I'm going to meet with the Chaplain here and start a support group for soldiers affected by marital infidelity and divorce while deployed. Since I've returned, two more soldiers are dealing with this same situation and it's time to stop the bleeding and stand up for marriage. I've proposed calling the group Recon(ciliation) by Fire. Mortarman may be the only one to appreciate the true play on words.

Please pray for us over here. It's bad enough we've got to deal with the jihadists, but having to fight two front wars to save our families from selfishness and worldliness makes it almost impossible not to crack up.

All I am and will become in Him,


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sbmmal,

I appreciate that play on words too. I may be near the bottom of the food chain, but I have the bark of the Big Dogs too!!

Glad to see you are back and that things went ok, for the most part. I hope things continue to improve for you, as I'm sure they will one way or another.

On a closing note...welcome back to the HEAT (135 today) ugh


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I've proposed calling the group Recon(ciliation) by Fire. Mortarman may be the only one to appreciate the true play on words.




I love it. It denotes that reconciliation will only happen through an offensive stature that takes the fight to the enemy. It does mean that you are exposed and you will take rounds.

This may catch fire in the Army, if you can get it going.


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USS and MM,

Thanks for the encouragement. I think you are right that this has some legs if we can get it going.

As for the heat - wow! How can it get so hot here? It's like everyone in Baghdad left their oven on with the door open.

USS - Looks like your situation has taken a positive turn. Good for you.

All I am and will become in Him,
sbmmal


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135???

Even our terrible heatwave would have seemed like the inside of a fridge compared to that.

I don't know how you guys can stand it, but I appreciate it all the same.


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All,

Not much is new. Just had a little revelation the other night based on some assumptions strung together into a theory and some information from FIL during the most recent visit to KS. I think MIL and her new husband are in an affair marriage and that it has worked out relatively well for them. Based upon their own admissions they were both in "bad" marriages and then poof, they were married to eachother. This was well before I was ever around, but the template that WW is following was, I believe, created by MIL during her D. That's why she's funding it. She sees nothing wrong with what's going on. That would've been a good thing to know before we got married, dontcha think?!?

Alas, though, who asks their divorced parents how it all went down and gets a straight answer. I can assure you that I will with DD when she asks if that's how it goes for us.

All I am and will become in Him,


sbmmal BH 29 (Me) WW 29 M: 07-20-2001; DD Age 2 EA/PA: 5/06 - Present D-Day: 6-3-06 Deployed Since 11/05, Leave Due in 07/05 Home Forever and Out of Army 10/06... Praying for Us and Seeking God Feverishly!!!
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