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You were neck deep in a sea of chit and I was standing on the bank.

"Oh, NB, I'll get some help!"

"Don't help me, help K - I'm standing on his shoulders!"

Coming up for air...

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Haven't been by these parts for a long time. It's nice to see a positive post like this one...

Thanks NB. And it's good to see you and some of the long-timers around here...

Wow NB!

Nice to see ya! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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zuj, mimi, new jersey, Lori, kiwi, who me, eav, and HD - Hi! <waving>

Thank you for all the great thoughts, and kind words.

zuj, I hope your H reads it too, and gets something helpful from it.

Just a wee warning: Be careful trying to 'educate' your H. I really appreciate that you were moved by what I said, but I also know really well that you must be very careful trying to educate your spouse. I tried to educate my ex all the time... Others could say things - sometimes the EXACT same thing that I would, and he'd ***hear*** them, but not me. Know what I mean?

eav, fair enough. You asked for my opinion, and I gave it... perhaps you're right that people don't know the whole story and it's CERTAINLY your right to share only what you choose. I wish you well.


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i'm not disagreeing with your advice.....just saying that i'm doing both!

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eav,

I certainly don't want to put a damper on your doing both... and I also don't want to TJ my own thread... and since you mentioned that you will respond to my suggestions on your own thread, I will take a look and respond over there later.

Everyone,

Thank you again for your responses and good thoughts.

Have a great weekend, and keep up the MBing! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />



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Waving back!

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NB_II,

You're full of

[color:"orange"]daffodils [/color].

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Sunny Day, Sweeping The Clouds Away...

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Hey NB,

Let's not use words like crusty. I prefer to think of us as wise, experienced, mature, learned, etc. Seven years here, hard to believe. I haven't visited for months, but am so glad I did tonight. Great to see you, K, JL, WAT, and everybody else.

Great advice, by the way............


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Hey again, new jersey! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

J, daffodils ~~ the perfect colour, too- YES! That works!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />:):)

Sweet, sweet Peppermint, Missing you!! ((((((Peppermint)))))



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Peppermint!

It's good to see ya! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Hey NB,

Let's not use words like crusty. I prefer to think of us as wise, experienced, mature, learned, etc. Seven years here, hard to believe. I haven't visited for months, but am so glad I did tonight. Great to see you, K, JL, WAT, and everybody else.

Great advice, by the way............

Peppermint,

Howz it? Been a long time..... we're not crusty, r we?!?!?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hugz,
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Hi HD!!!!! Hope all is well with you!

And ORCHID!! It's been a LONG time! Hope you are also well. I'm doing okay, maybe a little dry around the edges, but definitely NOT crusty!!!

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Well, coming from the girl who hid the key to my chastity belt under the rock in my front yard, and in the same sentence told me where she hid it...

oh lordie, still laughing over that one.

You need to soften up a little NB, you are way too tough! LOL

Something about your posts always brings warmth to my day, and this was no exception.

I loved it!

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Hi again, everyone... and HEY, weaver! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You know, I was just eating my lunch and realized that sometimes I feel like a big dork because I have such insightful things to say -- and then something comes along... something that shoots me right to the core... and out the window all my insights go.

I know stuff. We all do. But I don't always do it.

I'm sure many of us are the same.

:sigh:

I think I'll go re-read what I wrote and work on letting go again...

<whispers to self: Let goooooooooooooooooooooooooooo>



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Hi again, everyone... and HEY, weaver! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You know, I was just eating my lunch and realized that sometimes I feel like a big dork because I have such insightful things to say -- and then something comes along... something that shoots me right to the core... and out the window all my insights go.

Close the window. Sit quietly and it'll all come back. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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Hi again, everyone... and HEY, weaver! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You know, I was just eating my lunch and realized that sometimes I feel like a big dork because I have such insightful things to say -- and then something comes along... something that shoots me right to the core... and out the window all my insights go.

I know stuff. We all do. But I don't always do it.

I'm sure many of us are the same.

:sigh:

I think I'll go re-read what I wrote and work on letting go again...

<whispers to self: Let goooooooooooooooooooooooooooo>

Ya know...alzheimer's kind of strikes crusty old timers like us once in a while. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

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Ah, I need to open a window or accept that it's a dreaded disease, eh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I'll begin with opening the window. LOL Thanks for that advice, Orchid! If that doesn't work, I'll go to the doctor, okay, HD?

I'm trying to '''let go''' as I throw away a cake that burned because the landlord sent over some quasi-handyman to fix our stove last month... which lasted a grand total of ... three weeks?... and now has ruined a cake and ticked me righteously off...

Let go... it will all work out... let go... it's only a cake...

<breathe, breath>



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Moral of the story: Even crusty oldtimers get hot under the collar... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />



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Ah, I need to open a window or accept that it's a dreaded disease, eh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I'll begin with opening the window. LOL Thanks for that advice, Orchid! If that doesn't work, I'll go to the doctor, okay, HD?

I'm trying to '''let go''' as I throw away a cake that burned because the landlord sent over some quasi-handyman to fix our stove last month... which lasted a grand total of ... three weeks?... and now has ruined a cake and ticked me righteously off...

Let go... it will all work out... let go... it's only a cake...

<breathe, breath>

Oh, I didn't know it was because of a unhandyman. LOL!!! Ok to vent. U want us to send a letter to the landlord about HOW to pick a good handyman? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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Hi Orchid! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Another lunch time visit... eating at my desk (a frozen dinner that is surprisingly good!)...

The landlord... well... sigh, sigh, sigh... he *always* does shoddy work... but has been good to us as we have struggled through some severe financial difficulties, so... ya know... we let it slide, usually... but every once in awhile... it gets to us. Like when I want a CAKE (dammit!)... don't mess with me when I need cake!!!!

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />



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JL, Thank you for reminding me about WhoDat. He showed up a short while ago, didn't he?

Just as sort of a quick driveby. Noticed AGG had apparently found someone incredible, and wanted to offer my congrats.

And JL, I love how you are continually crediting me with that quote... true; I was "well known" for using it here, but got it in an email from a friend many years ago... it just seemed to fit.

I did a search a few years ago, and found it attributed to one Malachy McCourt


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