How about -
"I threw her away for you"

I asked him to go to counseling - his comment
"no one is going to tell me how I should feel"

" the ow and i have so much in common" the only thing I could come up with is they both drove chevy pickups.

When OW showed up at my house to take herself out of the picture - which I was told she was already out - his first comments to her in front of me where "why" and "what do you want" then I got to hear - "I will stay through the summer but not one day more" and "nothing or nobody is going to change the way I feel about her"

I asked him how he could do this to our family - he said
"what family" - I think this one hurt the most.
Needless to say he was gone the next week - couldn't take it anymore.

I have another. LOL. I need to spread them out because my FWW was the best at these things. Clearly head and shoulders above the rest.

Back round. One night OM and FWW drove by a tatto/piercing place. He mentioned she would look sexy with a bellybutton ring. She jumped all over the idea and was nice enough to let me pay for it. Yep I paid for it.

One night we were out and I said hey lets go get a tatto. She said NO. Ok that hurt a little but I took a little solice that she didn't know I asked her to do it because he asked for the Naval ring and she did it.

Next day.

Her-
Are you mad I wouldn't get a tattoo?

Me-
It bothered me a little

Her-
Why

Me-
It just did

Her-
Well I didn't do it because I knew you only asked me to do it because I got my belly button pierced for him.

Me-
So you knew thats why I asked

Her-
Yes

Me
That really hurts

Her
We have been together for 8 years now it's different.

Me
What? So let me get this straight. For your husband who has stuck with you through thick and thin you won't do that but for someone else you will.

Her
Well I barely knew him things were really good of course I would.

Here is another one:

WH told me he didn't have any money for my b-day gift but in the meantime, he was spending $$$ on hotel/ motel rooms with OW. WHAT?!!

That really ticked me off.

Time to bring this one back up. We have a lot of new folks here that may be able add some prize winners. Here's mine:

Words and Wisdom of the Wayward – 11/23/06 to 1/5/07

On the Affair:

“I never meant to hurt you.”

“This is not about you, it’s about me.”

“We never planned for it to happen.”

“I didn’t even think you would care anymore.”

“You just have to let that go.” (referring to my insistence that the A was in fact a problem) “It has nothing to do with the problems in our marriage.”

“I don’t know” and “I can’t remember.” about two thousand times each.


On Exposure:

IF…….YOU…….CALL……..AND…… TELL……..HER……..I’LL……..
The above skit is best performed with a beet red face, clenched fists and jaw, and a snarling delivery through your teeth. She never finished the thought but my guess was it didn’t end as “buy you a new fishing rod.”

“Their marriage is none of our business.”

“It was never my intention to hurt their marriage.”

“I don’t know anything about her or their marriage and don’t want to”


On the marriage:

“I just grew up.”

“I still love you and care for you. If I didn’t I could be a real b!tch about this.”
Come on, I know you’re smiling! That has to be a MB prize winner!

“We have nothing in common anymore.”

“We drifted apart”

“I have too much anger and resentment.”

“You NEVER EVER……(fill in the blank with a positive thing).

“You ALWAYS….(fill in the blank with a negative thing).

“We NEVER EVER…..(fill in the blank with a positive thing).


Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt.
--Mark Twain (1835-1910)

"The OM's wife should have known after his third affair that they were not going to work out"....(said this in the middle of her affair with this same man)

ALIENS!!

My WW said something similar. "I don't want anyone to make me feel bad about my decision."

Yesterday:
"how many [email]d@mn[/email] times do i have to tell you, our problems have nothing to do with OW!!!"

"you just have to trust me"

"is there no way i can keep my job?" (after d-day #1)

"for the first time, i look forward to going to work everyday" (yeah, b/c you're fuc$king your co-worker!!)

"OM is really a guy guy and I bet you would like him"


Here is one from OMW to my wife. Now remember my wife had an EA with her H for about a year.

"MRS M2L, when this whole thing is over I think you and my WH can still be friends."

AHH OK sure - that will happen in like NEVER. Stupid woman.

Yes...one particularly....

"OW has nothing to do with what's going on between you and me". (That was right after I confronted H about the first email that I read between H and OW) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

AND

"We're just friends"

I think I really appreciated when WH said, "It's slander, it's defamation of character" when I exposed to his HR department.

Riiiiiight, defamation of what character, exactly?

Oh, yeah, a couple of years ago, first EA/PA, he said that I was no fun, that this (arguing over his EA/PA) was no fun, and he that is part of why he's leaving. Again, riiiiight.....

My XH to me:
"You didn't have a problem having sex w/me after the first affair so why won't you have sex w/me now"..... after his second affair THAT I HAVE PROOF OF.

One of the excuses that stuck out for me early on was when she said, "Our M was a mistake because when we got married, you didn't know that I liked to read books."

Recently after her attempt and stay at the hospital:
"What ever pain you've been through, mine is 10 times worse!"

How do you respond to this stuff. You can't really. I just kind of make a face and say OOOOOKKKKK!

and at the same time I think of a coocoo clock going off.

OH!! This is my favorite. WW wanted me to feel sorry for other man.

"He had a nightmare that you went to his house and took me away from him."

Isn't that so sad. Doesn't your heart just bleed for the OM.

my fav
after exposure, and WS finding out about me listening to phone calls and reading emails

"I was just about ready to come back, but NOW you've ruined everything. do you really see this as a way to win me back?"

that's right, I'M the one screwing this up!@#$%^

Heard a lot of the same stuff from my WS:

"I'm really unhappy with the marriage, if I can do this (the A) so easily, isn't that a sign that there is something wrong?" [Yeah, with your head!] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


And a classic from OW when WS told her I was threatening to expose to OW's parents:

"I wanted to call you for a long time now and settle this.." [Yeah right, 3 weeks already since D-day and suddenly the day after I told WS I would not let OW off easily she calls me up]

Then as she was ending the call:

"I really respect you as a person and as a friend"

I told her to cut the crap and she said hurriedly,

"Really! You were my customer also and we've dealt with each other before and all that"

[I have NEVER dealt with her at all, and we were never friends, she was just WS's colleague and we hardly ever spoke. Even WS said at the time that was total crap]

FWH said "I sometimes wish that you and I could stay married and you could accept OW too. Sometimes I daydream that you come to OW's house to pick me up and we all get along"

I remember sitting on the bed with my mouth hanging open wondering what alien had possessed my H's body because it would be a cold day in he77 before I accepted my H having a girlfriend and me playing the loving understanding and accepting wife. I hadn't found MB yet and literally thought I was going crazy at some of the stuff that was coming out of H's mouth.

I actually laugh at it now. It seems so long ago.

We had some dates before she left me, allegedly giving me a chance. Of course, I couldn't show pain in these dates or discuss the infidelity at all, regardless of how much I hurt.

I did hear some great ones:

Regarding why she put "divorced" on her myspace page when we were very much married.

"You won't believe the messages you get when you have "married" up there. I did it so I would quit getting messages from perverts."

"The only way I ever see us back together is if we divorce and have time apart to heal." (If this is the cure, I'd rather have the disease) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

"I'm so confident we'll be back together that I'm leaving the Christmas stuff with you?" Gee, you wonder why I would have hope and be jealous of her dating?

Regarding a female friend who was going to visit me AFTER she left and we were divorced, "I can't believe you can replace us so quickly!" (Someone who had only ever been a friend and still is).

After divorcing me, taking everything, posting herself as available on myspace, at the airport when she's heading out, she kisses me and says, "I love you." (Scratching head in bewilderment)

That last one isn't funny, but it is rather contradictory to her actions, don't you think?

Anytime after our D when I was taking steps to secure my rights as a dad or doing anything she didn't like, "If you do x/y/or z, you can forget about us ever being friends again!"

And finally, regarding how she turned her back on her vows, "Well, you didn't 'cherish' me!"

Me: You destroyed our M and the OM's marriage

Her: No I didn't destroy his M. She should have known after his third of fourth affair it wasn't going to work.

This is the same EX WW that now proclaims she can trust him unconditionally. (He admits to 4-5 affairs and 4-5 additional counts of adultery on his STBXW and another 3 affairs on his first wife) If it wasn't so tragic it would be comical.

Some funny stuff on here and I can relate to much of the verbal dirreah spewed by other WS's.

After 6 months of Plan B and seperated, WW said I was "making things worse" by not communicating with her. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

WW (at the time): "Do you know what [OM] regrets most about all of this? He really likes you, and really hates that he knows this is going to ruin your friendship."

Me: "LOL...some friendship, when the whole time he was sitting there acting like my friend when he's trying to convince you to be with him."

WW: "It wasn't like that. It just happened."

Me: "Oh? Didn't you tell me that he told you that he was attracted to you and interested in you from the very first time he talked with you? What does that say about his intentions from the beginning?"

WW: SILENCE


Or another fun one:

WW: "I HATE that you use the word fantasy to describe what [OM] and I have!!!"

Me: "Well, let's see. You're leaving me to run off and live with someone that you're compeletely and totally in love with...that you've never met. You've been IM'ing him for a couple of months. You started having phone conversations with him 3 weeks ago, and I KNOW that all of your phone conversations have totalled to less than 3 hours. You're running off to live with a man who smokes and drinks...even though you're allergic to cigarette smoke to the point of asthma attacks, and have a violent nausea attack at the THOUGHT of beer breath? It's NOT a fantasy? What is it then?"

The conversation went downhill. Even the counselor was baffled at how that DIDN'T qualify as a fantasy.