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Every year when my daughter goes to visit her dad, I do something in the house.

One year I painted their rooms, then I re did the bathroom, painted the kitchen cupboards once. This year I am helping my dad install laminate flfooring in my house 20 boxes of it actually, it's going to look so good, well worth the effort!!! I am remodeling and adding cupboards to my kitchen, and re upholstering my sofa.

The sad part is I am using all this energy on my house, and am not out having fun!!! Oh well, this is my life and I kind of like it!


What is it that you do while kids are with x?

C ya, Dawn

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Hi Dawn,

I think it's great you are utilizing your time in such a way while the kids are gone.Is it really sad not to "be out"? I LOVE redecorating my home.In fact,I've been doing quite a bit the last few years since ex is out.It's all mine in every way,virtually no remnants of my ex are here
(except the old love letters/wedding album and Dr.Harley books and all that stuff.Not sure what to do with all that yet so it stays in the basement in a box).He wasn't here very long anyway when we bought it (A) so it is essentially my home(I also got it in the D contract).I hope one day it helps make it easier for a nice gentleman friend to be here since I really don't feel like it's the "marital" home.I've read some people have issues with that,like Diamond.

I think it's fun to putter around my home.I could just as easily go on a trip but also have fun gardening and painting,etc.We women are nesters right? Always trying improve our living area. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

So besides redoing my home,I go swimmming,read,bake,do errands,see family or the long lost friends I haven't seen in a while,rollerblade,garden and sometimes I will pick up a few extra hours at work to help keep my savings nice and healthy.Stuff like that.

Good luck on the flooring!

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I've been ripping down paneling, and when I'm on vaca with the kids, someone will come in to repair drywall and paint.

My only time to go away for more than two nights is when X has the kids for a week's vacation. It also falls at the end of summer after paying for summer camp & other expenses, so I talk myself out of doing something big.
This year, I want (need) to go away somewhere. Far, far away.

I hate home repair/remodeling. It's not in my blood.


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What do I do when my kids are away with the ex?

HA! Nuckfuts hasn't seen them in over 3 yrs now. LOL.

What WOULD I do? I don't know... it's such a far off dream. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I DO have 5 days coming up at the end of August where the outlaws are taking all 3 boys... and I have nothing planned except to get all of their back to school stuff in order. I'll likely do more reading too. I adore reading in the summer months. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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Karen it's good to see you!!!! How are you? I thought of you just the other day, and couldn't remember how old the boys are now, I am sure they are getting so big!!!!

It's nice that their grandparents still want to be a part of their lives. Your x is missing so much, but who care? He doesn't!!!!

I have two grandsons now, one is 22 months and the other is 5 months this week!! They are so fun, but they do go home at night!!!!

So are you working, going to school? Give us an update!!!!

Take care,
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2 grandbabies now? WOW!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Congratulations!! And yes, I'm sure they're even MORE enjoyable since they go home every day. hehehe. I hope to be blessed as a grandma one day for that same reason. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

The twins, Alex and Jonathan, are 5 1/2 yrs old now, and about to start Senior Kindergarten in September. Eric is now 7 yrs old, and will be starting grade 2. And yes, they ARE getting big... Alex is 3'9", JonJon 4'2", and Eric 4'7"!!!

I'm still staying at home with the boys. Now that more chaos is over with, I can finally work on getting a home daycare started. My summer project for that is to get a contract made up, and advertisments ready for the start of the new school year.

Having any kind of a R with the outlaws has been very tiring since leaving nuckfuts. But I'm sucking it up for the sake of the boys, and more greedily for myself... so I can get a few days to myself now and then. It's better than none, right? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

And as for nuckfuts... yah... he continues his passive aggressive behaviours, and blames me for all that is wrong in his world (we've had some conversations via email in the last year). As I said already, it's been over 3 yrs since he last saw the boys, and on top of that, he's defaulted on his support payments on the court order, so he's about to suffer more consequences there too. Not from me, but from the law. Oh well... he'll just blame it on me anyways... lmao! (and the funny part... is that he could have avoided it all if he just made one simple phone call to the family responsibility office LMAO!).

So I'm still living on a day to day, month to month basis. No big deal. We're happy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> The boys and I have a vacation planned from Aug 5-16th... going to Toronto for a few days (friend's wedding and some sight-seeing), and then off to my mum's cottage for a week. It's going to be GREAT... we're all VERY excited. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I'm on another dating hiatus now... there's too much I need to do for the boys while I still can. So I really don't have the time to put into a R. In the next few years, things may change.. but until then, it's all good.

Karen


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My floor is done!!! Yippee!!! It looks so good, and it's great knowing that I did it with my dad's help!!! He is a very handyman!!!! And it's great that he and my mom live across the street!!!

I have the mop boards done they need to be put back up in the morning!!!

Now I have a sliding door to take out and a single door to put in it's place and a wall to build in my kitchen and some new old cupoards to add to the new wall in my kicthen. My daughter comes back on the 1st. My birthday is the 2nd and we will be out of town for 4 days and then a week off before I head back to work at school, so lots to do!!!!

I gave my kids a list of things that I haven't gotten to this summer and asked them not to spend any money on me this year for my birthday to just pick something from my list and get r done!!!! Hope they like the cheapness of it !!!

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Good for you...I haven't gotten any of things I wanted done this summer, even though offically I don't go back until the 9th no students until the 16th, I am basically done, I will be at school more than not for the next week.....the copier machine is calling my name.....paperwork, paperwork, is calling me....it is either do it now or one of the first Sat of the new school year.....I had meant to get my garage where I could get my car into it....I moved this spring and well there are paths in the garage.....glad you are doing well....and happy birthday next wk...

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That's awesome DB! I bet your children will be thrilled!

Hey, wanna come visit me and Texas and help with my floor? :-)

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Wow was it a busy day!!! We ripped out the sliding door, made a wall and put in a single door and sheet rock the wall, I also got my mop boards back up and one wall in the living room painted!!!!

It was a 110 degrees here so was glad to be indoors working!!!

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You amaze me....great job....would you like to come wk in TX,

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Dawn, after Texas, can you come up to NJ and help me with my projects?

I think that's a great idea for your birthday.


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Hi Dawn!!

Great job on the floor. As a matter of fact while my kids were at Dad's 50th BD party other day, I ran into a clearance sale at Lowes and saved 200 on the floor for my bathroom that I am redoin!!!

Maybe you can come help me too. LOL I love taking care of my home as well, I didnt have that time (and luxury as he was always ruining what I fixed up) living with an alcoholic.

I havent been on in awhile I have been so busy..I am glad to hear you are doing good and congrats on the new grand <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> as a side note..even though my X's BD was in Jan he wanted his party in the summer..and he had the ice cream truck come to his party...sounds a little like the sponge Bob theme party he had last year

AND, I recently found out that party last year..sponge bob one.. (I questioned why he had a 49th BD party...was a mistake!!! His new wifey thought he was a year older than he was and sent out all the invitations before she found out he was 49 intead of 50...AND when my ex SIL called and asked him about it, my X kept trying to tell her he WAS 50.. so he doesnt even know how old he is LOL. It was probably just a ploy to get an extra year of presents LOL

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Newly, I didnt know you were in NJ..thought you were in PA


XH has multiple addictions. 26 year history of drug&alcohol problems, physical as well as emotional abuse.

Divorced 11-03

Engaged to former sweetheart from my youth, God is Good!

GRADUATED FROM COLLEGE!!!!! Passed my first (and hardest) of 3 medical boards 10-12-07

I am trusting God.

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Nah!!! I don't think that I will go anywhere!!! I have to get finished the projects here in SD that I have started!!! But thanks for the offers of travel!!!!!!!!!

Didn't get much done today, went to a funeral this morning, she was an 89 yo lady from church, her a her husband were such an inspiration of love, genuine true love, they were the sweetest thing, she hadn't been feeling well and ended up going to see the doc and it was something to do with her intestines and they did emergency surgery, she was in Icu for 2.5 weeks. I worry about him as he will miss her and be lost without her. I wrote in the card how blessed he was to have such a great love and friend.It was sad but pastor did a good job in making it a celebration of her life and their life together. It was nice to see all of the couples kind of squeeze eah others hand or arm as pastor was giving his sermon. Made me lonely in a way and want something more for myself!!!

So anyways didn't get my project done today, daughter comes home tomorrow, but she will get to help me pick out paint for the cupboards and walls and she likes to play interior designer, and she will get to learn how to tape and texture a wall, a skill any woman should have!!!!

Will put a picture up of the kitchen when we get r done!!!!

Dawn


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Life is good and I am happy!
Engaged to be married on the 4th of August 2012!
30yoS&DIL & 2 gson/27yoD-Divorced & 3 gson/21yoD

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