How about stopping the pain you're inflicting on your wife. You want to deal with the emotional issues before dividing your assets? Why? So, you can knock her down some more? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
I can understand frustration from no SF with your wife for 4 years. I can also understand where she's coming from. Did you ever stop to think that she might want to feel like you want to make love to her because you love and desire HER...and not just the act itself? That she might not want to feel as though her body is being compared to some 20 yo who has never given birth?
Also, what about YOUR body? Is it perfect? Do you have the body of a 20 yo bodybuilder? No little paunch or beer gut?
I guess you think that the 20 yo is madly in love and finds you incredibly hot.
Hmmm...well, if you're really all that hot, she might. But, you know what? Based on what your wife says about the OW's life thus far, I'd be willing to bet that what she really has her eye on is financial stability...and maybe a "father figure".
I would guess she's not mature enough to understand that a REAL father would not be leaving his children to go chasing after a teenybopper...or risk having them put into foster care by making false abuse/neglect allegations against their mother. Oh, wait...maybe this is part of your plan to get full custody of them! If this is the case, your thinking is mighty screwed up!
Back to the OW...why not see how she really feels about you?
Why not tell her that you are so much in love with her that you are giving everything to Stone Cold so that you can be free to marry her? Ask her if she will be patient while you find another job before you can marry her. Take her around to some really dumpy houses with low rent to see which one she might be willing to live in with you. Ask her to see if she can get a better job than scooping ice cream, because after all, married people have bills to pay.
I can just about guarantee that the OW most likely sees a rich business owner when she looks at you. My H and I have a business, too, and when we built our new building and relocated to town, there were a few women making eyes at him, too (not the woman he had on his mind, though). I could tell which ones they were, simply because of their suddenly becoming soooo friendly and soooo interested in our business. I simply put out the word that the new property was in MY name (which it is), that I handled the money (which I did at that time), and that if anyone wanted my H, she'd better have a pot handy, 'cuz he wouldn't have one to use by the time I finished with him. Man! They stirred up a pretty good breeze when they backed off! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
So, how come you "panicked" because she took the kids somewhere one day and called DFC or DHS or CPS (whatever it's called where you are)? Did you forget to take your Xanax that day?
