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#1768679 11/13/06 06:45 PM
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So my wifes OM is a big fan of myspace, he has a secret identity that I don't think my WW knows about, so I created a profile of a very hot and available girl that is moving to his hometown and I have guys posted already all over this fake person's site.... so the bait has been set and he is starting to sniff around this person's profile... I am going to tempt him at his own game.... is that okay?

I don't know if I will even let my WW know if he takes the bait its so far gone right now, but I want to know if he is truly the animal I think he is

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Why don't you make your "bait" underage and then send the contact info to the local authorities! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Who says you can't have fun playing with them aliens??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


Bad WTF... naughty... you behave yourself now! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

**wink** **wink** <<nudge>> <<nudge>> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


Have fun thinking about that VR.

Stay Strong!


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Hi VK -

I haven't posted to you before, but I'm vaguely familiar with your situation.

Is it wrong? I don't think so.

Is it a good use of your time? Only you can decide, but I would tend to say no.

Even though OM has played an active and willing role in destroying your life, why are you wasting your time dealing with him? What do you gain by this? To find out if he's truly the animal you think he is? He's already proven that by his actions with your WW.

I can understand the desire to do something to OM. In my case, OM was also a friend of mine. While I doubt I could have materially affected his life in the long-term, I know that I could have made it extremely uncomfortable for him.

In the end, I decided for a number of reasons that it wasn't worth it. It wouldn't change what happened. It wouldn't do anything (IMO) to get my wife back to me.

In short, OM showed his true colors, and frankly he's not worth my time. While I count myself fortunate that my wife is still with me and is working on our marriage, I also realize that had she left me to be with him, he could have her. At that point, she would no longer have been the person I married. (Which, I know, is easier said than done).


Formerly known as brokenbird

BH (Me) - 38
WW (Magpie) - 31
Married 2001 (Together 8 years)
DS - 13
DD - 5
EA/PA - 9/05-12/05
D-Day - 11/05

Second separation. Working on me.

If you remain in Me and My words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given to you.
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viking,

This one of those situations that feels right because you are doing something, hopefully creating havoc or just jerking an idiot(OM) around.

I suspect it sounds a heck of a lot cooler that it will be even if he gets trapped by your stunt.

Remember , the OM is interchangeable. The problem is with your WS.

If it occupies your time and keeps you out of trouble, do it. But please forget the underage girl scenario. You may spoof yourself into a legal mess.


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"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle

You believe easily what you hope for ernestly

Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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I say catch the ahole flirting with "your friend" and when the Judge signs the D papers and awards custody then give his emails to your then EX WW as you leave the courtroom.

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I like it! I was so tempted to do this to my ex. I was going to create a fake profile to flirt with her on myspace to disprove the fact that she was using it to "just meet friends".

Do it! Follow hopeandpray's advice with the custody thing. Keep it in your back pocket.

It is so funny how easy it is to create fake things on that site. Heck, my ex's site is a perfect example of that. So many of the men she met (of course, she claims they were ALL lying) said she told them she was either divorced or the papers were already filed, none of which was true.

Please do this and keep us in the loop!

Good luck. Make his life ******.


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DS-Twin boys, 2
D-Day-28 Feb 06
Divorced-24 March 06 (no contest D)
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Hmm...to present a phony profile of a sweet young thang, for the sole benefit of messing with OM?

Sounds like a cunning stunt to me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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It even gets better, so you can't just create a profile and zing the OM a hottie email, to many scams out there to keep him on his toes, or hoof's

So I created the profile, and then went calling on some nice gentlemen to add to my friends list, some nice ladies (good looking) to add to my friends list. Then I went after his tier 3 friends - those that are link to his closes friends, got them added to my friends list. So now I have a circle of friends that appear to be a model of his friends. I then ping his closes friend chatting them up, setting the stage that I am moving to the area, I am really hot and I a bit lonely - but not needy. Oh did I say I am really hot and make good money.... then after a couple of mails to his friends, I sent him a friendly, hey I saw you on johns page and thought you could help me...... so the bait is set, I am not going to pursue this to far or fast but it will be interesting what happens

Did I ever tell anyone while I was in the Marines, i worked for awhile with the black ops guys, they get very clever when they want.

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well he added me as a friend to his my space account <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I am going to play it cool awhile, then start hinting about things. I wonder if I can convince him to dump the WW?

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VikingRuler,

I'm sorry I don't know your sitch but I have been in a very similar position as you describe. I ultimately chose not to reveal this kind of info to my WW for a couple of reasons. First, OM is a loser. If my WW really wanted him, she would be with him. Second, attacking OM to WW puts her on the defensive. Why make her defend OM and justify her A all over again? Lastly, for whatever reason my WW has chosen to remain with me over OM. I wish it were because she truly loved me and realized it was all a mistake. Maybe someday - but not today. But I don't want to feel like WW is staying with me because it is her only choice either. Even if I am capable of destroying the image of OM that WW has (which I doubt that I can), it simply means that I was her only viable alternative. I guess I am content to accept the fact that WW will always have feelings for OM but that she chose to remain with me in spite of that and also that her feelings for OM will diminish a little over time.

The few times I have presented WW with direct evidence of OM's real nature, she was always able to find a way to rationalize it and explain it to herself in such a way as to make OM quite noble.

For example, OM wrote that he was going to buy a philippina because he found a cute one and they were quite cheap to purchase here. She interprets that as OM willing to rescue a poor destitute philippina and offer her a life she could have never had otherwise. Heck, even I admire the guy when you look at it like that. WW's can spin anything to fit their distorted view of the universe. You are wasting your time focusing on OM instead of on you and WW.

If your WW has already decided to leave you for OM, any objections you make will just come across as sour grapes and make WW think less of you. Again, I'm sorry I don't know your sitch and maybe there is a circumstance that would warrant your baiting OM but, in general, I can't think of many good reasons to do it.


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