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jmwc95 #1821578 02/07/07 12:47 AM
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When I say keep her from staying w/ OM, I mean, kick her out of the apartment so OM isn't so close.

This won't stick for long, if she wants to come home, since she's on the lease.

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Also, get with a lawyer and file an AOA lawsuit against OM. Hit him where it hurts, in the wallet.

VR and I live in the same state. He can't sue for AOA here.

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VR,

You dont get the concept of Plan A and Plan B. Plan A isnt for when your wife is in NC. Plan A is for when she is in the affair! Recovery is for when she is in NC.

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I complimented her today, and she looked stressed when I did.

This is GREAT! This is the byproduct of Plan A.

Let me give you a quote from Dr. Harley about Plan B:
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I'm glad to hear that you are feeling better. That's the primary purpose of Plan B.

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Plan B is for your comfort and security. It is not designed to bring your husband back. Whether or not he finally sees his mistake is now up to him.

Too many people come on here and think that Plan B is for the WS...to force them to wake up. While that CAN be a consequence of going to Plan B, it is not always the case. Plan B is for the BS...in order to allow them to hold out longer until the WS might pull their head out. Or until the BS is truly ready to divorce and move on.

Please do not use Plan B in a way that it wasnt intended. You may not get the results that you expect!


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Ever since she obtained some info, the whole thing went south fast. Now, I am treated as if I no longer exist.

I'm curious, what "info" did she obtain that resulted in everything going bad so fast?


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MIM,

If you want to know, please email me.


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BS - 32 (me)
FWW - 33
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No kids (but 3 cats)
D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA)
NC agreed to - 11/8/06
NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
Status - In Recovery
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VR and I live in the same state. He can't sue for AOA here.


Sue him for "Intentional Inflection Of Emotional Distress" instead......

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VR,

Here is a line from Morts post:

"Plan B is for your comfort and security"

MEDC has seen this sitch before and is saying get out. Plan B for your comfort and security. I don't want to see you get hurt if that's the case.

VR - call Steve H if you can, if not, most people just know when it's time to plan B or even D.


MIM - I have a question for you about my sitch - please email me.

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Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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Got home today, and she said she was heading out and not going to be back tonight. Knew that was coming.
Since I have been served, I asked what would be ok to take when I moved out. I even asked, out of the stuff I can take, would you like me to leave anything? At this, she got flustered and angry and said she didn't want to talk about this right now. What is that about?

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Well..I found out that the OM feels that I had threatened to sue him (I am assuming based on discussion of that topic). Then shortly after that is when the A went to a PA.
I know it was discussed in detail over here, but I didn't and wouldn't sue him. If I were going to sue, he would have been served already. Amazing.
Wow...now I understand his motivation.

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Get yourself out of there. It is time for plan B/D. Take everything you want. Don't let her hurt you anymore. You know if you need to chat just send me an email. I'll say a prayer for you. I wish I could do more for you. I feel like we let you down.


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No kids (but 3 cats)
D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA)
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NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
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You do?

then maybe you can explain it to me. ...well, you don't really need to.

This a-hole is motivated by spite. Well, that and selfish lust for other men's wives.

As for what your W's anger was about, who knows? Who cares? until she pulls her head out of her nether regions, it doesn't really matter why she gets miffed at you, does it?

You know who you are, what you stand for. That's all that's important right now.

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I know, I'm not staying. I am going to focus on me. I just found it interesting.

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MIM - I have a question for you about my sitch - please email me.

I try to avoid replying to or sending e-mail for privacy reasons. Drop me a line at ManInMotion2005@hotmail.com, and I'll pop back a cryptic response here <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />, or you can IM me using the same address above, when I'm online.


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MIM - I have a question for you about my sitch - please email me.

I try to avoid replying to or sending e-mail for privacy reasons. Drop me a line at ManInMotion2005@hotmail.com, and I'll pop back a cryptic response here <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />, or you can IM me using the same address above, when I'm online.

MIM, it's taken care of. Thanks anyway.


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Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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