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Anyone heard of this?


BS (me) : 30 yo WW: 30 yo married 3 yrs dday Apr 3 '07 affair started Mar '07 ? 2 sons, 8 and 2
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Me - BS DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003 DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007 Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
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Good job on the link Dobie. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I just read it again for old times sake. Brings back memories. LOL!!!


Here's a post from the thread: How to identify alien sightings (8/23/04)



Icon 1 posted August 23, 2004 07:57 PM Profile for FamilyMatters Edit/Delete Post Beware there have been numerous reports of alien abductions occuring nationwide. These aliens are not your Spouses and they will hurt you , themselves, their children, their friends anyone in their pursuit of FANTASY-FOG LAND with their counterparts OM or OW.

I repeat you spouse may have been replaced with an alien invader and the caring loving spouse you married is sitting comatosed in a pod on the alien home planet of FOGLONIA. The invader is using your spouses body to wreak havoc on your m. Take action. Become equipped with knowledge and expose the ALIEN for who IT is. It has been reported that through exposure the your true Spouses wake intermittenly from their comatosed state. ALIENS are extremely sensitive to light, the more light you shed on their existence the more they consider returning to their home planet and allowing your true spoused spirits to reclaim their physical form her in your M.

Has your SPOUSE been abducted?

[IThe Seven Warning Signs of Abduction[/i]


Babbling

Does your spouse babble irrational pursuits and fogged dreams of imaginative places they can find themselves, understand themselves? Does your spouse speak in a foreign dialect that is almost impossible to comprehend, to the pont, at times they themsleves do not understand what they are attempting to communicate? Does your spouse run in more circles than a blind TazManian Devil when you ask such complex questions as;
"What time should I expect you home?"
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"What did you do today?"


Selective Memory

Does it seem your spouse can only recall the downs spots in your marriage? They have no call of reference of the ups, happy times, and loving memories. Does is seem all traces of your intimate moments and peace have been erased from their memory's? On the otherhand when your spouse recalls anytime spent with OM/OW he or she will only be able to remember euphoric moments of bliss. Does your spouse sit in a catatonic state drooling, in ahalf sleep while fully awake, and when you break their train of thought do they grimace at you as if you just backed a mid-sized car over their big toe?


Large Amounts of Time Spent Away

Is your S pursuing outside activities more and more often that do not include you? Do they insist that these pursuits are their major source of happiness and if revoked they can no longer continue to exist? You insist, plead, request and encourage them to shorten their time away, yet they sternly resist your requests to the point of being offended or engaging in outbursts where they label you needy, controlling or suffocating?


CellPhone/Email Secrecy

Does your spouse hide their cellphone at any and all cost? Whenever you call your spouse does their cellphone magically vamp to voicemail? Does your spouse make veiled attempts at excuses for not phoning you? Does "I Just Didn't Think About It", or "I Must Have Left My Cell in the Car" sound familiar? When you walk past your spouse while they are on the computer do they cover the screen as if they are hiding the ingredients to a great recipe and you are a devious master chef intent on stealing that recipe? Smells like somethings cookin and it aint chicken!


Extreme Privacy

Does your spouse insist on having their things, belongings, time, space and friends all to themselves? Has your spouse built an imaginary force filled called MY SPACE which your are not allowed to penetrate and if so do they inturn manipulate you in an aim to make you feel that YOU are the problem? Do they repeatedly ask why don't you trust them, yet their actions continue to be more and more less trusting?


Lack of Sex Drive

Has your Spouses sex drive trailed off dramatically? Does your spouse seem preoccupied during sex or is he or she trying new techniques that were non-existant earlier in your marriage? Does your spouse seem to all but ignore your attempts at intimacy? Was there a time when your spouse couldn't keep their hands off of you and now they seem to have no hands? Does your spouse all of the sudden want to play "Helicopter Man" or "Slave Girl" when only a short time ago his or her idea of a wild romp was a slighly gamey slab of beef you put in the oven for Sunday's dinner?


Acting Out of Character

Does your spouse seem to no longer value things that he or she once cherished? Does your spouse no longer spend time with the kids? Does your spouse seem detached from the daily activities that he or she once indulged in with enthusiasm? Does your spouse become angry, hostile or act totally aloof when you question their lack of interest in day-to-day interaction? Does the most usual of interactions seem strained? Does it seem like you spouse has to lift a small St Bernard to even saying good morning?

Results:

If you have answered yes to most of the above questions it's highly possible your Spouse has been abducted. ACT NOW! Read the Harley principles, interact with folks at the MB discussion group who are grappling with the same shock and grief. You may be able to reclaim your love one, but there are no guarantees. The first step is to identify the alien. Information and support will aid you in ousting this alien if not from your spouses body at least from your marriage.

Sleep tight the war has only yet begun.

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Thanks very much, guys. Still not sure if I'm even going to do anything about WW and OM. I can't get a hold of his wife- I don't think they live together, and at this point, I'm more concerned about ensuring I get joint physical custody of my son. If I screw with her affair, I bet she'll prevent that from happening. Not sure what to do...


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Orchid,

That topic was so good that I have it bookmarked. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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The Original Reverse Babble: Hamlet by William Shakespeare

(Act III scene iv)

Enter HAMLET

HAMLET
Now, mother, what's the matter?

QUEEN GERTRUDE
Hamlet, thou hast thy father* much offended.

HAMLET
Mother, you have my father much offended.

QUEEN GERTRUDE
Come, come, you answer with an idle tongue.

HAMLET
Go, go, you question with a wicked tongue.

QUEEN GERTRUDE
Why, how now, Hamlet!

HAMLET
What's the matter now?

QUEEN GERTRUDE
Have you forgot me?

HAMLET
No, by the rood, not so:
You are the queen, your husband's brother's wife;
And--would it were not so!--you are my mother.

*Queen Gertrude is referring to Hamlet's uncle and new stepfather, not Hamlet's father, whose been dead only a few weeks at the hand of the Queen's new husband.


[color:"#39395A"]***Well, it's sort of hard to still wonder if you were consolation prize in the midst of being cherished.***
- Noodle[/color]

Devastation Day: Aug 26, 2004
[color:"#2964d8"]"I think we have come out on the other side... meaning that we love each other more than we ever did when we loved each other most." [/color]
[color:"#7b9af7"]
~Archibald MacLeish[/color]

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Brilliant reference! Bravo!


Me - BS DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003 DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007 Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
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Wow, thanks, had to re-read it recently for a paper, and that just popped out at me!


[color:"#39395A"]***Well, it's sort of hard to still wonder if you were consolation prize in the midst of being cherished.***
- Noodle[/color]

Devastation Day: Aug 26, 2004
[color:"#2964d8"]"I think we have come out on the other side... meaning that we love each other more than we ever did when we loved each other most." [/color]
[color:"#7b9af7"]
~Archibald MacLeish[/color]

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I married him all over again, May 07

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