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.....my online access at work had blocked MB, but today a miracle it was accessible. So I thought I'd write a quick update while I had the chance. For those that remember me (aka confused 42). Things are going REALLY well. This is the marriage I've dreamed of, its hard to believe that this time last year DH had moved out and I was just about in plan B. What a difference a year makes. So those that don't know my story....know this, the angels here at MB ABSOLUTELY KNOW what they are talking about. Follow their advice, even if it seems like the exact opposite of what you want to do.Your WS is not unique, its all scripted, the names may change but the behavior is predictable. We had a date over the weekend. Dinner and a movie. Seems pretty normal and mundane but I am still on cloud 9. A year ago WH didn't love me, didn't want to be seen w/me, did not have 1 kind word to say to me. NOW, he talked about going out all week he was really looking forward to it. A couple obstecals came up that we could have rescheduled>>>>DH said "No, way its our night out." No silence over dinner, we talked and talked the waitress had to come back several times to take our order because we were too busy talking to look at the menu. We got out late from dinner and went to the movie. We missed the show we were planning to see by about 5 minutes, next show was in a hour. I almost fell on the floor when my DH insisted we go to the later show, we could just hang out for the hour...no rush! We held hands during the movie! I get a kiss good bye and a kiss hello....not a peck but a full 10 second kiss. Life is good! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> So many new names...I haven't caught up w/ old friends yet but I will be searching you down. Again thank you all so much...we never would have made it without you. I can't believe how close we were to D. It is so nice to have my HUSBAND back...I really hated living w/ the allien. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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WONDERFUL NEWS, CHA-CHA!!! Thanks for checking in with us. We needed this INSPIRATIONAL STORY today. I was thinking of you just recently. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Hey ChaCha! I've missed you Girl! I'm SOOOO happy for you! You sound sooo great and I'm just amazed! what a success story you are! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Hi Mimi! You are one of my MB angels you never gave up on me! I was reading through an old journal from this time last year. I really felt there was no hope for my M to recover. There were so many times I wanted to give up. But now, I thank God for you guys everyday, our M is strong now then before the A....I didn't think that was possible. I'm so glad you are still around helping others. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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Hi Rin,
I was just catching up on your thread. I would agree that I'm a success....not because my M is recovering, but because I learned a lot about myself, relationships, setting boundaries, forgiveness...and sticking up for myself and my family. With that definition I'd call you a success as well!
aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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Thanks for the kind words, CC.
If you have the time, others here like Sis and Bugs need your SUPPORT AND WISDOM.
It's getting to be a ways out for me so I may have forgotten some stuff...
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Congratulations, ChaCha! What a wonderful update! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> Lori
VERY HAPPY! FBS/FWS; 47yo; M-29 yrs.; DS-26,DD-21; our affairs: 1990-'96
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Thanks ChaCha...rollercoaster ride is not nearly as steep as it once was...
I'm having more good days than bad! The point huh? LMAO
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Hi Cha Cha !!!! Sooo glad your marriage has turned into what you desired ! Yay Cha Cha !!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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So happy for you...many times it isn't in our time frame that recovery happens. Sometimes it takes lots longer than we'd prefer.
Married 1976
Me:BS
Him:FWS
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2 S's: '77 & '80, 1 D: '82
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Congratulations, Cha-Cha! That's inspiring for some of us not as far along on the journey.
What brought him back? I'm trying to rebuild (maybe) after a D... I won't hijack the thread here, but I'm trying to see if there's anything left after D.
Does your H live with you again, or are you dating? I'd love to hear some encouraging stuff.
JinGA
F/40, DD15 DS13
M 1989
DDay his EA May 1998.
S Aug 2004.
D Dec 05. I filed.
4/07 Post-D Plan A with 180, with hopes of R.
6/23/07 XH said no to R.
8/24/07 Went on a date with someone new, "B".
1/22/08 Still seeing B, life is good! Learning and growing each day.
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Hi there missy. Good to see you drop in. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> So glad to hear things are going well and that your FWH has finally clued into the fact that he has a real special lady as his wife. We knew it from reading your story and once the fog cleared, he realized all he ever needed what right under his nose. Looks like your FWH came out of his MLC changed for the better instead of a grumpy old man. You deserve the best CC. You are missed here! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> Did you guys ever sell the house? HTW <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
Married 10 years, Legally Seperated Aug 2,2006 1 year of Plan A followed by 1 year of Plan B... ...now stepping towards recovery????? BH 37(me), WW 35, DB 7 & DD 5 My Story My struggle with an EA
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