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we are both wonderful women.. well, me more, but.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

we know you were teasing. although i was dead serious. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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I may be alittle late but boy woman you were full of yourself that day :P

Update he's definatly back from Idaho and I have confirmation he got and read the message...gotta love myspace...tells ya when they got it.....I sent a copy there as well as his email...sorta like a certified letter.

Oh and I saw pics from Idaho...yes he went to the bar and yes I have seen a pic of him taking a shot....not happy....and yes his best friend the pastor...was with him there to keep him "accountable". Oh MLHB got other news on the stalker chick front....i will call you later about it...she might be down for the count.

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yall both sound like wonderful women... hope ya know i was just teasing

So does that mean I can have the initials WW.....like as in wonder woman

*proudly stands tall with fists on hips and full hair blowing in the wind of victory* <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

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WW has a completely different meaning to me...

how bout a giant W on ure chest instead

oh and on a side note, i have a weak spot for role playing

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haha....ok but what would the W stand for then?? I don't know i still prefer being cat woman.

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how about putting the ww outfit away in the closet and getting a catwoman outfit then?

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Been there done that read the sig sweetie.....your a day late <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

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never really read the lyrics.....you know they are right for someone after a break up....

People say she's only in my head,
It’s gonna take time but I'll forget.
They say I need to get on with my life,
what they don't realize.

Is when you're dialing 6 numbers just to hang up the phone,
Driving cross town just to see if she's home.
Waking a friend in the dead of the night,
Just to hear em say its gonna be alright.
When you find the things to do not to fall asleep,
cause you know she will be there in your dreams.
That's when she's
more than a memory.

Took a match to everything she ever wrote.
Watched her words go up in smoke.
Tore all her pictures off the wall.
That ain’t helping me at all.

'Cause when you're talking out loud and nobody’s there,
you look like ****** and you just don't care.
You're drinking more than you ever drank,
sinking down lower than you ever sank.
When you find yourself falling down upon your knees,
prayin to GOD, beggin HIM please,
that's when she's,
more than a memory.

She’s More, She’s More…

‘Cause when your dialin her number just to hang up tha phone,
drivin cross town just to see if she’s home.
Wakin a friend in the dead of night,
Just to hear em say it’s gonna be alright.

When you find the things to do not to fall asleep,
cause you know she’s waiting in your dreams.
That’s when she’s more than a memory.

People say she's only in my head,
it’s gonna take time but I'll forget.

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How do you stop loving someone? Can anyone tell me?

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I dunno, but my wife made it look easy.


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I dunno, but my wife made it look easy.

sorry to tell you it's not a female thing.....I keep trying to get him out of my head but it won't go away....I can't even go out with anyone else and just hang out because I want to be with him and being with anyone else feels wrong still.....i think about him everyday....even thought I don't cry THAT much over him anymore....I feel numb inside....

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I don't think Pariah meant that ONLY women make it look easy. I think he was just speaking from his own experience with his wife.


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I meant my wife succeeded in making me absolutely despise her in a complete flash.

I can't even describe the contempt I have for her.

I thought I would spend my life with this woman, but when I heard her trying to have me killed by the OM, everything went totally polar opposite with my feelings.


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I meant my wife succeeded in making me absolutely despise her in a complete flash.

I can't even describe the contempt I have for her.

I thought I would spend my life with this woman, but when I heard her trying to have me killed by the OM, everything went totally polar opposite with my feelings.

ha funny I felt the same way about my XH when he showed no remorse after I misscarried our second child.

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How do you stop loving someone? Can anyone tell me?

Honestly, as painful as it is to love someone who doesn't reciprocate that love, or who doesn't want to be loved by me, I would not choose to stop loving that person even if I could.

It would be nice not to have the feelings of being "in love" of course. But if accelerating the dissipation of those feelings means cultivating hatred or apathy, then...no.

When I choose to truly love someone, it's a done deal. That's the kind of man I want to be, despite the price.


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How do you stop loving someone? Can anyone tell me?

Honestly, as painful as it is to love someone who doesn't reciprocate that love, or who doesn't want to be loved by me, I would not choose to stop loving that person even if I could.

It would be nice not to have the feelings of being "in love" of course. But if accelerating the dissipation of those feelings means cultivating hatred or apathy, then...no.

When I choose to truly love someone, it's a done deal. That's the kind of man I want to be, despite the price.

Problem is I have no reason to not want to be with him......because my questions I have have never been answered....he didn't cheat on me....his family loves me and still are great friends to me....it's really surreal...

He's been deep in working on his relationship with god and how he wants to be a good man. Well leaving someone you say made you want to be a better man isn't acheiving your goal.....and I realized soemthing the other night while I was watching the Nativity story......He makes comments about how he can't come into a family even though he made the effort to be involved with my son....He has to trust in god and jesus now....ok well who did god entrust to raise his son....Joseph....I never really thought about it but Jesus was raised by his mother and a step father....if god entrusted that....why are so many men afraid of it...If he and I talked I know that would be part of the conversation....I now see the excuse men used as flawed because if god could entrust his child to someone to do it....they should consider it a blessing to be involved with a child who is not there own.

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It wasn't love, it was infatuation. It wasn't real yet. Remind yourself of that.We can all take this as a lesson why we shouldn't let BFs or GFs become involved in our children's lives until the relationship has had time to develop. You may be saying, "yea but if I had waited he wouldn't have realized until later that he didn't want to walk into a family".

He would have found some other reason.

You'll be fine, just give it some time and stay busy! Pretty easy to do this time of year isn't it?

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For me it is real....EVERYDAY it's real. I was there I know the things we did the connection we had....the things we shared with each other and the places we went into each others personal lives. I don't base love on "how much time you were together". Call me a fool but I believe in love at first site...time is relative....I don't believe it takes a certain amount of time to fall in love. I base it off what two people share and open up and communicate to each other....we had that for awhile even when we were friends. Something drastic changed with him...maybe it was the army....I still don't know. But I will say this I DO LOVE HIM. unless you were there please don't tell me it was anything less because i know what I feel in my heart and I listen to it. I will not regret not admiting it because i don't want ANY regrets.

And honestly ever since I got divorced I HATE the holidays...I grin and bear it for my son but honestly I hate them....I don't really want to be around anyone during them...let alone my family.

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SIHW,

Point taken. You are right, I wasn't there so I don't know what it was.

You are right about the holidays too. It's easy to dislike them. The traffic, the tree in your house, etc. It can be such a pain. So can families. I used to get so mad at some of the comments my family would make about my situation. The holidays are going to come though so we have to make the best of things. It's fun to get dressed up and see folks we only see in December. I have been to many parties by myself and it can be fun. I've also taken random dates to some of them too which also makes for adventure.

I haven't gotten used to staying up late and doing the Santa thing by myself but at least I get to do it the way I want to.

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How do you stop loving someone? Can anyone tell me?

passage of time with said person not sharing it with you?


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