friend of mine told me two nights ago that her DH told her he was having an affair. she is not getting a very clear msg from him. he basically just wanted to be authentic and tell her, but he is not actually making or even talking clear divorce type plans nor is he establishing NC. in fact she thinks he may be planning on being with the OW at the beginning of Feb.

she is exposing today.

MY stomach is sick!!!

mostly i'm telling myself... you can't handle helping her, you are such a screw up!!!

what if i give her bad advice and it makes things worse???

i guess i am asking for prayers for me too, that i find the right words of guidence and support.

yes i have pointed her to this website too and i gave her the book i have when i saw her yesterday.

Hey FLT2H - I'll be praying for you and your friend.

I'm sure that you will be a great help to her.

Semper Fi,

RIF

I will be praying for her and her family as well.

I'm sorry she is in such pain. It's horrid.

You know... sometimes the things we go through prepares us for "such a time as this." This could be your time.

thanks guys.

i've calmed myself back down. i think i was starting to get into a anxity attack.

it's been a long day.

so much is transpiring....

exposure is done, once she was done we were talking on the phone and she was sounding so strong and resolved to save her family today. she said it felt good to actively be doing something. she got thru to everyone except one person, the Landmark coach. she left a msg didn't directly say why she was calling.

but then her DH called and informed her he was on his way to have a conversation with the OW, she lives in the state next to us, so it is a bit of a drive. but he wanted to be authentic and tell her <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

i really didn't anything great to say.

i told her i was sorry, it s*cked, it's wrong, and mostly that this is a long war and it's no where close to over!!!

and to get off work early and do something fun with her son.

but we've been emailing and she is struggling... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> who can blame her. it seems to cruel to tell her he was going there.

i had sent an email to her husband last night:


my friend said that her DH mentioned he got an email from me but that she didn't think he read it yet.

i had not told her about the email i sent him. i would of told her the details of it then but then her phone rang, it was her DH and we hung up.

she has not asked since.