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#2082568 07/01/08 09:38 AM
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yesterday we moved her to inpatient hospice after my husbands dad called in tears saying he couldn't do it anymore and that things were unsafe...

he now wrestles with the fact that he promised her once he brought her home he wouldn't make her go any where else...

though she in her mind is already somewhere else....

this evening I will take my children to say goodbye for the last time......

this cancer, multiple myloma' is an insidious bugger and has captured her just shy of a year of diagnosis..

the worst is she has no faith...

there is no peace for her
there is no reckoning


my husbands heart is heavy and there were no words of comfort that she could hear or understand.....though he would talk quietly for hours with her....

she chose not to believe....

she only saw herself as a goner....

so so so sad....

sorry to burdon this site with this off topic tripe....

I think I am just sleep deprived and sad down to my marrow.....

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((((((Arkie & Hubby))))))

I'm so very sorry...Prayers for all of you...

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{{{ark^^}}} (and your H and FIL, and especially your MIL)

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The Lord may have reached her.

I am sorry for your loss.

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I am so sorry, Ark. {{{{{{{{{{ARK}}}}}}}}}}}}


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I went through that (not with cancer) but watching my FIL die in a few days after an infection ravished his body. It doesn't matter if she has faith or not - she can still find peace. Your prayers can help her find peace. I'm so sorry - there are never enough words to say in a situation like this. My thoughts are with you and your family.


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{{{{{{{Ark and family}}}}}}}}

Having someone die is hard enough, having them die at home is even harder for the family, anyway. Please tell your FIL it was not about a broken promise, but about him being wise enough to ask for help when he needed it.

With prayers for your comforting,
Neak


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I BELIEVE that HE will come to her in the end and give her that chance...

Continue to PRAY for her SALVATION...


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May G-d have peace on her soul and family as she passes.

May you know how much you are loved on here and that we all keep you and your family in our prayers and support you with our hugs and love.


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mimi...

I soo want to believe that....

but that whole thing about free will...ya know...that thing that I find so important to the whole faith thing...

an omnipotent power to make people believe ....
to make people adore and love you...

and the gift of freedom to choose....

to me that almost seals the deal of proving the existance of God
in and of itself....
the pure brilliance of that

I hope that somewhere inside she chose well
for her sake
for my husbands peace of mind
for her husbands sake who will only see this whole process of passing as Godless as well

the prayers are fast and furious at times....

ark


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Hi ark:

I'm sorry for your family's loss.

I believe that the Universe, or God, or whatever term or concept people want 2 think about, will embrace her.

As should we all.

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Trust in the LORD. Your own FAITH will lead HIM to come to her and yes, then, she will have the CHOICE..

But don't you see HIM coming to her in such AWESOMENESS and RADIANCE that she can't possibly say NO..


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Praying for your family, Ark.

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To Ark and family,

I am soooo sorry for the loss and pain.


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In my personal belief...

HE will come to comfort her as he comforted HIS disciples in JOHN 14:1-4 (NIV Version)

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Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God. Trust also in me. In my Father's house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going...I WILL COME TO YOU (verse 17)


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Dear Ark

I won't toss you a bone regarding your MILs salvation. If she rejected God's message, well, God doesn't force anybody to join him in glory. You can only have peace that it is your MILs choice of destiny.

I can only say that none of us can know the state of her soul right now but God and your MIL herself. If she has not chosen to have her name crossed out of the book of life you will meet her again in Glory.

I pray that God will send his Comforter to minister to MIL, to your H , to you and all who are sad as your MILs time on earth ends.

Thank you Almighty Father God for the good woven into this world by MIL during her time gracing it, Lord and hear our prayer that you look upon this sister with Mercy and Grace that she may chose Glory as her destiny.

In Jesus' name I pray

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Amen...

(((((LOVE AND PRAYERS, ARK))))))


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((((((((((ark)))))))))

My prayers go out to you, your husband, your MIL, your FIL, your family, especially for those who know the truth of God at this time.

Until she passes, all things are possible for God.

Regardless, God will be there to comfort those who know Him and have the indwelling Holy Spirit.

God searches the heart, and reality lies in Christ, and Christ alone. No words are necessary, just acceptance of the offered gift.

God bless.

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I'm so sorry, Ark.

(((Ark)))


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Ark,

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.

My prayers go to you and the family.

Its a crappy time to endure..then the peace comes, for her and all of you.

Your gentle kindness will be a shining example and a comfort for the rest.

kirk


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