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Should I try to get my partner back with his wife #2038197 04/04/08 06:23 PM
Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 6 M Miss_Brown OP Junior Member
OP Miss_Brown Junior Member M Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 6	I have been with my partner for 8 years he was separated from his wife for 7 before that He says he will get divorced in June when his youngest son turns 18 after reading some of the books and letters on this site I am wondering if it would be better to encourage him to go back to his wife ? She has never married although she had an affair before they split up.

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his wife Miss_Brown #2038299 04/05/08 08:44 AM
Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 243 I ItCouldHappen Member
ItCouldHappen Member I Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 243	Miss Brown,open thine eyes wide and take a good look around. Just beyond that misty wall you see all around you is a place called," The Real World ".It can be harsh at times living there but I think you will find it preferable in the long run to where you are now; " The Land of Blinders" .

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his wife Miss_Brown #2038307 04/05/08 09:03 AM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 11,245 C catperson Member
catperson Member C Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 11,245	He was separated for 7 years before you met him, and you've been together for 8 years? Why would you even ask about splitting up? Is he still in love with her? Are you having problems?

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his wife catperson #2039670 04/08/08 03:17 PM
Joined: Feb 2005 Posts: 1,975 W WhoMe Member
WhoMe Member W Joined: Feb 2005 Posts: 1,975	Huh???? Quote She has never married although she had an affair before they split up. How could she remarry when they haven't divorced? Am I missing something here. Who I am the BW, He is the FWH D-Day: 12/02/03 Recovered

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his wife Miss_Brown #2041317 04/12/08 09:21 AM
Joined: Oct 2005 Posts: 6,025 USA M MrWondering Member
MrWondering Member M Joined: Oct 2005 Posts: 6,025 USA	Yes, you should send him back. He was never yours to keep. Separated or not, he IS and remains a married man which makes your relationship with him adulterous. If you are a religious person you must know that there will be no unrepentent adulterers in heaven. Walk away from him and sin no more. The fact that his wife cheated on him prior to separation (so he says...not really smart to trust a married man trying to get in bed with you) only means he had the biblical right to divorce her. He choose not to. Married is married. Mr. Wondering FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering) DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered "agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his wife MrWondering #2052038 05/05/08 03:25 AM
Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 6 M Miss_Brown OP Junior Member
OP Miss_Brown Junior Member M Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 6	We are now living in separate rooms in the house we both own. We hardly speak . I have tried to talk about our problems. I have no where else to go I am retired. This has become the worst relationship I have ever been in . I am feeling very sorry for myself and cant seem to work out a plan to save myself. God hasn't been very helpful except for fixing my computer.

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his wife WhoMe #2052039 05/05/08 03:28 AM
Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 6 M Miss_Brown OP Junior Member
OP Miss_Brown Junior Member M Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 6	I wonder why she never divorced him, I think as I have never been married to this man I am on the wrong web site.

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his wife Miss_Brown #2052795 05/06/08 07:33 AM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 11,245 C catperson Member
catperson Member C Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 11,245	Catholic? What are you doing to strengthen the relationship? Are you trying out the MB principles?

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his w Miss_Brown #2116654 08/27/08 01:50 AM
Joined: May 2008 Posts: 429 H Happy2CU Member
Happy2CU Member H Joined: May 2008 Posts: 429	Quote God hasn't been very helpful except for fixing my computer. Now that's service...God never fixes my computer! Sorry, couldn't resist that one.

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his wife Miss_Brown #2116887 08/27/08 11:22 AM
Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 858 Texas D dkd Member
dkd Member D Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 858 Texas	Originally Posted by Miss_Brown I wonder why she never divorced him, I think as I have never been married to this man I am on the wrong web site. No, I think you're in the right place. I think you should really spend some time figuring out what you're doing. How your involvment with this man has effected you and his family. As far as God not helping, that's not true. He's told you that marriage is sacred and that nothing good will come by breaking it. You chose not to listen. Not His fault. Maybe if you start listening, then He will be able to help you. Me 38 Divorced 8/09 DS 10,6 DD 4

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his w dkd #2117399 08/27/08 10:32 PM
Joined: May 2000 Posts: 15,150 Kingdom of Caerlon C cinderella Member
cinderella Member C Joined: May 2000 Posts: 15,150 Kingdom of Caerlon	If it's a lousy relationship for you, get out.

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his w Miss_Brown #2119619 09/02/08 01:16 PM
Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 2,578 P pieta Member
pieta Member P Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 2,578	You bought a house with someone who is legally married to someone else? So if he divorces her does that entitle her to a share in your home? No wonder the man isn't enthusiastic about divorcing her. Me: 56 H: 61 DD: 13 and hormonal DS: 20 Oldest son died 1994 @ age 8 Happily married 30+ years

Re: Should I try to get my partner back with his w pieta #2120548 09/03/08 05:50 PM
Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 243 I ItCouldHappen Member
ItCouldHappen Member I Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 243	Miss-Brown may have found another web site as she said she might. She was given direction when first she posted here. She paid no attention. You simply can't put your head into a lion's mouth without being aware that tragedy may be the result of such a choice. When you 'select' a married man to be 'the man of your choice, there is no quesion but that this forum is the wrong one. She hasn't posted in a few months. It's difficult to determine how this story concluded.

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