Ok, Im sure some of you have read my other thread but I wanted to start a fresh one to see if I could get some more opinions. I will tell my story as short as I possibly can:
Me and W married at 19, now 24. No kids, no house. W feels neglected for the past 3-4 years, has an A for 1 1/2 years. I find out this past January 1. Initially I was very upset and said it was over, after thinking about it wanted to work it out. W is not happy with me, but also knows it will not work out with the OM. OM and my W are at the point of NC and have been for 4-5 weeks. We are now at the point of she needs more time to think things out and find her voice because of past communication issues. Living with her friend, and Im still living in our apartment. I cant stand to live there because I am so used to her being around and it depresses me to even sleep in that bed by myself. She says she has been out of true love with me for a long time now and wants to find that love for me again, and really want to try to find it. I think she is just drifting away and falling more out of love with me.
Do I move out and make her live there since it would be easier for her and me?
Do I continue to call and text her about us being together and seeing each other or do I let her do all the planning?
Do I continue waiting on her when it puts me through the worst pain I have ever been through?
Why do I feel that she should be the one crawling back when she is the one who did the wrong thing? W
hy do I not understand that I am so loving and caring even after an A, and she still does not want to be with me?
