I am a bit confused here. You write this post as if the issues are with your fiance, yet, to me it would seem they are on both sides as far as infidelity. The main point that made me feel this way is this (especially the bold areas):
Not knowing where we stood i then began seeig someone else in which i realized rather quickly wasnt the person for me. Well by this time June of 2008, me and my FIANCE became officail as a committed couple, but all of this has been difficult because of both of our previous relationships. I CUT OFF all ties with my previous relationships except for my daughters father, but he didnt. He at the time was still conversing with other women via internet and phones. In affect he was giving awya emotions and time that i felt should have been reserved for me only. Well we worked throught thiis issue and agreed to START over with our relatioship and do it RIGHT...Well in Dec I found out that I was pregnant and as soon as i found out I told him. At this time We discussed all of our options and our future. At the time I wasnt quite sure if the baby was or wasnt his and we discussed that also in detail. As of today we now have confirmation that the baby isnt his.
I am a wife of a retired military man and the life is NOT easy. We have had many difficult times and are still working through issues, but it is worth it in our book. Marriage isn't a cake walk, it is hard work on both sides.
The question I believe many here have is how far along are you in the pregnancy and who's the father? How do you know he's not the father of the baby? If you truly love this man, and he truly loves you, you HAVE to deal with the issues with a strong pro-marriage counselor. There is already a lot of separate baggage coming into this relationship that can cause your M(marriage) to fail if not dealt with before you say I DO. Too many people today treat a M as valuable as the paper it is written on, and can just throw it away, but it is meant for a life time, that's why the vows include "For better or for worse, in sickness and in health".
Here's a few questions that could help us help you with some advice:
1. And I guess this is most important, because you were a bit vague, are you still pregnant/when are you due?
2. Does the bio-father of this child know of your pregnancy?
3. When will your F(fiance) be done with his deployment?
With answers to those questions, we can begin somewhere and hopefully help you learn how to build a solid foundation for your future.
I do find it curious the additional information you provided. Some of the facts really don't and shouldn't matter in the support you are looking for, such as your credit information and education. I'm not saying to remove it, I just don't personally find that helpful because infidelity hits ALL walks of life, no matter what family support you have or what your credit score or bank accounts look like. The only thing that I've found from my own experience here and in life is that infidelity is MUCH more common in families of military or PD/FD personal. Second to that is of the medical field. I've found this is most likely true because of the time away from the family that the person in that work field is required to take. As I said before, find a good, solid, pro-marriage counselor and get a solid foundation BEFORE you get married! Don't just jump into it, especially right now, when your F gets home from his deployment. You HAVE to spend the time NOW for that foundation or it will become rotted and then what will you have?
Just some things to think about. Welcome to MB(Marriage Builders), take some time to read anything and everything you can on this site, and feel free to ask as many questions as you can.