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Reading SAA in the open ??
#2237244 03/30/09 01:42 PM
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Hiya,

I am going to be reciving SAA by Dr. Harley, do I let me WS know I am reading it???

Luvstill
Re: Reading SAA in the open ??
Luvstill #2237297 03/30/09 02:34 PM
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Luvstill,

Stick to one thread. Repost your question on your main thread. Drop this one.

But to answer your question, yes, read it in the open. She's cheated. It is an affair. You're trying to deal with the pain of it. One of the greatest regrets I have from my own situation is the constant apologizing over how I felt regarding her cheating. I felf like reading books about infidelity. She roller her eyes and would get upset when she'd see me doing so.

Now I wish I had simply carried on doing it with no apologies for it.

You feel what you feel and it is a direct consequence of her own actions. Seeing you in pain is simply a reminder to her of how wrong she is.
Re: Reading SAA in the open ??
Luvstill #2237298 03/30/09 02:34 PM
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Hi Luvstill,

after D-Day, I bought loads of books about affairs, recovering a marriage, etc, including SAA, HNHN, and LB. I let my H know how much I was getting from them, and suggested he may like them also. We did the EN questionnaire together, but that was all in the beginning.

He chose not to read anything for 4 months, I think becase he wasn't ready to face up to the enormity of what he had done. Well we're now 8 months past D-Day and he is really into the books and SAA is his favourite.

I would say you can't force her to read them but if she sees you getting something from them, she may read them when she is ready. Don't force it on her though.

Good luck. x

Last edited by serendipitous; 03/30/09 02:37 PM. Reason: oops ww not wh
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