I'm in the same situation too. I would love to have SF daily or more lol. H wants it 2 or 3 times a week so its not like we have a huge mismatch, and he is willing more often if I do all the work. I've always felt really inadequate and unattractive up until recently though, getting turned down for sex regularly was bad for my self esteem since I believed wholeheartedly that men were supposed to be up for sex anytime anywhere and so there must have been something wrong with me to not be wanted.

We're doing so much better at communicating all this to one another since finding this website though. I'm feeling so so much happier, and sf is much better too. H is understanding me now too and no longer reacts badly to my advances as he used to feel under pressure and get angry or upset with me for coming onto him.

These articles were so helpful to me in learning to accept our differing drives and realise we could be happy anyway.

Great article...thanks for bring to our (my) attention once again.

It hits right home because I'm a 2-3 times a week SF EN, while my wife could probably go two weeks without it...maybe more. Yes, the anti-dep meds having something to do with it, but after changing I'm seeing more *action.*

And sometimes you have to be careful what you wish for...

While we were trying to have babies I felt like a sperm-doner...and my wife was the ruthless banker always looking for a deposit

Man, making babies was WORK...