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You are playing with your sig other's hair and say, "do you like that?" Sig. Other says, "I don't know." No expression, no eye contact, nothing.... This is a trend - Indifference to affection. What is that? Why?
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***sits down on Sooners bench to watch the view***
BS, 28 WH, 36 11/08-? EA(s?), no PA's, lied (net&women) MLC end 5/09? Enter R  M 2000 Child, 5.5 yrs
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Two days ago I might have replied differently...today, hmmmmm, you probably don't want to hear my reply. All i can say is 
D-Papers served May 8th, 2009
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I would have to wonder why the SO is emotional unavailable?
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Was your H indifferent in this same way prior to his A?
OR Has this become gradually worse since beginning recovery?
Recovery began 10/07;
Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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Is "sig other" your husband?
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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FBS? Wuzzat? That reaction of your spouse suggests that there might have been something on his mind. Anything from an OW to what was on TV. Only one way to find out .
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(see "MiM's Story" for more details)
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SO = Husband
And then there was the comment, Me - "I want to cuddle" H - "I'm available every night" WTF! Can't we just speak plainly? Do we have to have these cutting remarks that could mean just about anything.
These types of comments are the exact reason I stay on the fence. He's not consistant and he's so distant. He likes to think he's affectionate and doing all the right things and would have no problem telling anyone that. Ugh!
It's a way to make me crazy so that we can continue the cycle of a bad marriage.
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