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I am taking a trip & have ? about Plan B...
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I am going out of town for fun and adventure (the new, plan B me) and the kids are staying in town.

Should WH watch them at his dinky apartment or should he be allowed to watch them from the family house?

Now. I see pros and cons of both.

What would YOU do?
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Let him get a taste of what "single life" is like. Send them to his apartment. If you get D this is the life he would have.

Have a good time.

Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Originally Posted by reading
I am going out of town for fun and adventure (the new, plan B me) and the kids are staying in town.

Should WH watch them at his dinky apartment or should he be allowed to watch them from the family house?

Now. I see pros and cons of both.

What would YOU do?

If you are going to Rock Star it, might I suggest Mojito as your drink of choice!!! DUDE
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Originally Posted by reading
I am going out of town for fun and adventure (the new, plan B me) and the kids are staying in town.

Should WH watch them at his dinky apartment or should he be allowed to watch them from the family house?

Now. I see pros and cons of both.

What would YOU do?

I wouldn't let him in the house. He needs to see what single life will be and I wouldn't let him in the house to give him a FIX. He needs to see how his future will look as a single person. While it may be a little uncomfortable for your kids, it is for their best interest in the long run for their father to come to his senses.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101
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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
I wouldn't let him in the house. He needs to see what single life will be and I wouldn't let him in the house to give him a FIX. He needs to see how his future will look as a single person. While it may be a little uncomfortable for your kids, it is for their best interest in the long run for their father to come to his senses.

What should the kids be told -- if anything? After all, they will prefer being at the family home. They may think THEY are being punished in some way. (Not saying they will, but they may....)

And I would imagine that a lockout treatment will only lead WS to spin their own story to the kids. Might be good to be proactive and talk to the kids before WS has a chance.....
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Do NOT let him in your house!!@!!!!! Your kids will be fine.

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