Hi everyone,

Just wanted to say a late Happy Holidays to you all, and give a quick update.

R and I are doing well. We had a wonderful Christmas. He drove with me and my boys on a 600 mile trip to meet my family, stayed a couple of days, then flew back to be with his kids on Christmas morning. The 1st visit went better than I expected. Everyone loved him and he seemed to enjoy my family. Although I am sure it was a bit overwhelming because I have a much larger family than he does. I haven't stopped to count but there was around 40 people there for most of one day, with a combination of small babies, toddlers, preschoolers, teens....you name it! I even get overwhelmed with the chaos and I have lived it all my life!

My family said that they were all impressed. He made them all comfortable and he just fit. Even the children loved him, and even my usually "hardest sell" niece loved him!

If anyone is curious about the FB picture problem in the earlier thread, for right now, it's just not an issue any more. ;-)

Anyway, we are heading into our 10th month together and I am more in love with him today than yesterday. :-)

I hope everyone is having a wonderful time through the holidays.


Anna

I am glad you found a great man! I really did not like that other guy you were with for a few years, remember, he was pretty difficult and would not or could not committ to anything.

Yay, for this one.!

Thanks Bubbles! I read an article after J and I broke up and it said most commitaphobics will change jobs or careers a lot as well. Funny because for J, that was so true. And it was kind of funny in an odd sense of humor way because after J and I broke up, the only men who approached me were men who were never married, I honestly thought for awhile that I was doomed to have only never married men be attracted to me, and I could never trust that ever again after 3 years of on again/off again with J. Eventually, a guy would approach me, and it was like I just knew, and I would say, "So, how many children do you have?" They would say, "None." I would give them that knowing look and nodd they would say, "I have never been married" and then they would add, "I just never found the right one." I would say with a nod of the head and my eye brows raised a little, "Oh." and then I could still see my mouth tighting together with a stubborn look. I would suspect that it probably reminded them of the mom when she just didn't believe their words. And with that they'd just walk away. I am sure it seemed rude and awkward at the time, but the poor guys had no idea what I had been through and just couldn't gamble again, and also how disappointing that every attractive man that approached was too much like J..

Anyway, R was married over 15 years, so while the verdict is out whether he is Mr. Right for me, at least I went into trusting that he can commit to the right person. :-)