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He is partnered with a fellow named Andy Parks, and their show is called, "Grandy and Andy."
How far the famous have fallen...

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The Love Boat

I remember those Saturday nights, everyone else had a date, but not Luri.....She watched Chips at 7, Love Boat at 8, and Fantasy Island at 9. Woe, woe is me.......

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Chips at 7, Love Boat at 8, and Fantasy Island at 9.
This explains a lot, I think...

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Originally Posted by lurioosi2
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I remember those Saturday nights, everyone else had a date, but not Luri.....She watched Chips at 7, Love Boat at 8, and Fantasy Island at 9. Woe, woe is me.......



Cue violins rotflmao

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Eric Estrada- Hot tamale.

Quien es mas macho? Fernando Llamas o Ricardo Montalban?

Chico Escuela?

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Eric Estrada- Hot tamale.
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Originally Posted by Zelmo
By nature, they seem to be the types of folks who look for external factors to both justify their actions and to provide for their happiness and contentment. They are leaves blown about by the wind. Truly pathetic.

Just wanted to point out that this trait isn't necessarily "nature" or "organic"...Sometimes it is "nurture", and is seen quite frequently in children of practicing alcoholics and/or children of the untreated mentally ill - and though I'm not a big fan of delving into "childhood issues" to deal with what is in front of you *today*, I do think this particular part of "nurture" can be relevant...

I know it was for me...That is not to say that I needed to understand that before stopping the bad behavior, just something that I have come to know about myself during recovery...I am also a firm believer that "nurture" or "learned behaviors" can be unlearned and CHANGED! hurray

The life of a child of a practicing alcoholic or untreated mentally ill person DOES seem out of their control...really it IS out of their control...So they learn to adapt by watching the behavior of others in the household - this is how they determine how they feel - how they behave - what is acceptable in the household for that day...This way of living often creates a highly intuitive person, but at a high cost...All of their own personal power is given to others...This way of living sets them up to exist on the whims/opinions of others...Who they are IS determined by others...Compliments send them soaring, and by the same token criticism reduces them instantly to the lowest of lows...Criticism carries far more weight than compliments, btw - it takes about a million compliments to balance out one criticism...so they CRAVE compliments...makes sense - to me anyway...

No kidding this is how I lived for YEARS...

I remember when our daughter started pre-school I thought it was some new educational movement when her teachers emphasized teaching the students the importance of making "wise choices"...I am not kidding! That is how foreign the concept of every individual's life being a direct result of their own choices was to me! I honestly believed that life "just happened" to me - because really, that had been my experience in living with a father with Bipolar Disorder that remained unmedicated - well except for "self medication" with alcohol...It embarrasses me to admit that I didn't understand something as simple as "your choices make your life", but it was true...

I credit this forum - for teaching me otherwise - specifically Pep and Mel - Pep because of her "your opinion of me is none of my business" quote [I LOVE THAT! stickout], and Mel because she HAMMERED it in to me that I was giving away my power, and that the "lady in the mirror's opinion" was what was important - that and Mr. W's opinion of course wink...I also credit Dr. Harley's teachings for my learning about how my choices affect our lives - I have seen that feelings follow actions based upon his behaviorist approach...

I am so grateful...

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I agree, Mrs W. I grew up in that type of environment, as well. Messes you up, but one can get better.

So, Mark, not a Ponch fan? What was the other guy's name?

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Originally Posted by Zelmo
I agree, Mrs W. I grew up in that type of environment, as well. Messes you up, but one can get better.

Yes they can, Zelmo! Thank God! AND, growing up that way is NO EXCUSE for doing what I did - as an adult I was fully responsible for getting myself straightened out...I am thankful that I finally have...I hate that others paid a high price for me to learn...frown

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Originally Posted by Zelmo
I agree, Mrs W. I grew up in that type of environment, as well. Messes you up, but one can get better.

So, Mark, not a Ponch fan? What was the other guy's name?
John was the character, not sure of the actor. Frankly I preferred "Emergency!" Love those fireman smile They are HOT lashes


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I love this thread.
A mixture of serious insight, and silly.

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Originally Posted by Zelmo
I agree, Mrs W. I grew up in that type of environment, as well. Messes you up, but one can get better.

So, Mark, not a Ponch fan? What was the other guy's name?
John was the character, not sure of the actor. Frankly I preferred "Emergency!" Love those fireman smile They are HOT lashes

Randolph Mantooth(wonder if he needed braces as a kid. Maybe it was "boytooth", until he grew up.)
Didn't you love those Jack Webb/Dragnet Spinoofs? Adam 12, Emergency, any others?

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Car 54 where are you?

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Martin Milner is 78? Yikes.

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Hawaii Five-0

I nominate this one for BEST TV SHOW THEME MUSIC




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hurray hurray hurray


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hurray hurray hurray

I'd pay good money to see Mark toe tap dance to this music!

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I agree, Mrs W. I grew up in that type of environment, as well. Messes you up, but one can get better.

So, Mark, not a Ponch fan? What was the other guy's name?

'Jon Baker' - played by Larry Wilcox.




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