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VST I am so very, very sorry for your loss.
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{{{{VST}}}}
Do you have any IRL friends that can be with you?
Recovered marriage, recovering self, life gets better everyday 
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Aww, VST I am soo sorry... Hugs to you sweetie pie.
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. 
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For some reason you popped into my head today, then I noticed I was also the last post too....Just hope your doing okay and wanted you to know I was thinking bout you...
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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{{{{VST}}}} So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend!! 
Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012
Looking forward to the sunshine and rainbows life should hold for us all!
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Thanks for thinking of me Still! I've been away for a good long time but have been back a bit just reading with an occasional post.
I'm doing really well. Personal recovery thanks to a dark Plan B has been great and I'm feeling strong and happy!
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Thanks NP, she died in Oct. and I miss her so much!
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How are YOU doing VST?
Haven't seen an update in awhile...
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Hey Lexxy. Like I said I'm feeling strong and am happy. I've been in a dark PB since July. WH is not bucking the system at all. He is compliant and things have gone smoothly with that. I finally realized that I need to care for me and couldn't worry about nor control what he's doing, and with a lot of prayer and faith, I actually feel pretty emotionally healthy. Thru my IC I have worked thru all my crap and how/why I came to be in this sitch. I've really worked hard to heal my heart. I'd lived in denial for so many years and it was destroying my heart and I'd lost myself. My faith in Christ is the only reason I'm doing this well. I would never try to compare myself to Queenie but I did learn from her and I chose to totally give it up to God and follow his plan for my life as well. I've given WH up to Him as well which is all I could have done anyway. My DD and I still pray for him every night.
The D is still on the back burner. Neither of us is pushing it. I don't know what God has in store for me but I trust Him with it all!
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Thanks for thinking of me Still! I've been away for a good long time but have been back a bit just reading with an occasional post.
I'm doing really well. Personal recovery thanks to a dark Plan B has been great and I'm feeling strong and happy! That is what I wanted to hear...I am glad you are doing well. 
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I don't know what God has in store for me but I trust Him with it all! Whatever God has in store for you I know It will be good and what is best. We just have to wait and see. 
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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Hey Lexxy. Like I said I'm feeling strong and am happy. I've been in a dark PB since July. WH is not bucking the system at all. He is compliant and things have gone smoothly with that. I finally realized that I need to care for me and couldn't worry about nor control what he's doing, and with a lot of prayer and faith, I actually feel pretty emotionally healthy. Thru my IC I have worked thru all my crap and how/why I came to be in this sitch. I've really worked hard to heal my heart. I'd lived in denial for so many years and it was destroying my heart and I'd lost myself. My faith in Christ is the only reason I'm doing this well. I would never try to compare myself to Queenie but I did learn from her and I chose to totally give it up to God and follow his plan for my life as well. I've given WH up to Him as well which is all I could have done anyway. My DD and I still pray for him every night.
The D is still on the back burner. Neither of us is pushing it. I don't know what God has in store for me but I trust Him with it all! So great to hear the happiness in your voice... you've come sooooo far. Good job on handing the reins over to God... He won't steer you wrong.
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Thanks everyone for thinking of me and the kind words! A good friend of mine told me the other day that she now sees peace and happiness in my eyes instead of the pain and darkness that was there for so long. I wish I'd found this strength early on in the A but I was so far gone......long-term denial kills the spirit and mine was DEAD. But not anymore!
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{{{{{VST}}}}}, It's sooooo good to hear from you!!!! Sounds like you are doing MARVELOUS!!!!! I always knew you would though.....  Your strength will serve you well in the future......hugs to you my friend Not2fun
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Not... check out Hope's thread this afternoon. Too funny...
/TJ
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{{{{{VST}}}}}, It's sooooo good to hear from you!!!! Sounds like you are doing MARVELOUS!!!!! I always knew you would though..... Your strength will serve you well in the future......hugs to you my friend Not2fun Thanks Not!
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