I'm beginning to think you're here because you enjoy the intellectual debate, not because you are in a desperate fight for your marriage. You're actually joking about this, with the "bridge" comment. I can assure you that nobody is joking with you about how spineless you are being, and what the consequences will be.

I went to OWH because, while I was more than happy to ditch to my own immoral, gutless adulterer of a husband, I would not let an outsider (OW) push me into that decision because she would not stop contacting my H. I would not let actions her force to me remove my children's father from their home. I would give my life for my children, and in your position I would certainly risk a beating (from whomever to whomever) to give them the chance of keeping their family intact and their mother at home.

You might be enjoying bantering here on your thread but your cowardliness concerning your children shocks me.

If I come across intellectual, I'm not apologising, it's my job to be an intellectual.
I'm here like we all are or were. To get help and to help, to talk and to share. A cowards way out would have been to leave but I'm still here, and listening.

[ A cowards way out would have been to leave but I'm still here, and listening.

It takes no courage to enable an affair by helping the affairees hide their dirty deed.

MelodyLane, you're right. The door is left open either for the OP or a new OP but it's hard to bring the risk of violence onto my own family.

Sugarcane, it's a possibility but I trust my sources on this one (especially as one source was from their "secret messages" and another from a friend who doesn't know about the A)

A well aimed and potentially accurate 2x4. Small correction though, they didn't tell me about the potential trouble, I found out most of that through my snooping.
As for Fog, probably. Possibly made a bit thicker by no evidence of contact between them and also improved relationship at home.