I don't know XH is pretty close to taking that title. Instead of a lobotomy I can think of a few other body parts to be removed...but that is because I am I-tal-ian.

He's having an affair, and he thinks it will make him happy. I think the lobotomy is a forgone conclusion.

D!ck will be getting my settlement offer next week. He'll be furious that I'm not rolling over and playing dead. Good thing he's in Vegas this weekend. He'll be nice and relaxed before his blood pressure skyrockets. Perfect formula for a stroke, sorry to say!

Wish someone would tell him that it's not wise to go to Vegas after you've been crying "bankruptcy." Especially if you put the charges on the credit card!! Stupid, stupid wayward.

Oh geez. Way to go, Holy. And to paraphrase Uncle Phil (from Fresh Prince), nail his behind to the floor!

This guy is definitely dumber than a 5th grader. In fact, he's dumber than a box of rocks. That is unbelievable Holy.

He has played you for a total fool but wait until he finds out that you are way, way smarter than he is and that you know every move he has made. He's been so confident that you aren't smart enough to find out any of that stuff.

Karma, I don't think Holy will have nail his butt. The court probably won't have any trouble doing it for her. The dude is a total idiot.

Thanks for the vote of confidence.

I wish I could do a Plan B, but that would be a death sentence for me and my finances. Yes, I hate to hear he's spending money here or eating at a particular restaurant or in Vegas AGAIN, but I have to gather this information for my case. No one will do it for me. My attorney has yet to generate anything on his own. Matter of fact, the settlement letter -- all six pages -- were MY words. I drafted it, emailed it to him, he changed perhaps 3 words on the entire document, then sent it to D!ck's attorney. The big question will be how much my attorney CHARGES ME for doing the work I hired him to do!!!

Is it too late for me to become an attorney? I swear, I could do a better job than most of the family law attorney's in my town.

Maybe I'll just write a book on tactics. I need an ending to my story first.

Upcoming book signing at Barnes and Noble.

The "art of the wayward mind"

Author : Holy heart

A few chapters:
Spying through the internet

When you don't think they could be any dumber...

What to Wear to Court

You Said What?

How to Spot a Bimbo?

May I add:

Vegas, here we come

We've got money to burn.

Due to the movie I'm watching at the moment...for the aftermath:

Don't You Wish You Were Nathan Now?

And the final chapter:

A collect call to Holy from the jail after D*CK is put behind bars for filing a fraudulent bankruptcy and crying about how OW has taken all his money and flown the coop.

Oh, there should be a chapter on how to artfully frame vajay jay pix to send to bimbo's contacts on Facebook....

Maybe she can use photoshop and add some flowers...

I swear...if D!ck is allowed to pursue a bankruptcy with all the reckless spending documented on credit cards and -- for FREAKIN sakes -- He's a SEASONED BANKER --

WHAT IS THE WORLD COMING TO?

I will picket the court house if I have too. He's not a first time home buyer "confused" about interest rates and how to pay back a loan. And he's no ditch digger, either.

He still thinks rules don't pertain to him. This was a man who would never lie. Then he crossed the line with the affair, and crossed the line with our finances, then crossed the line with the kids and his parents, etc. This thing just keeps snowballing and snowballing.

And I'm operating in FAITH, not FEAR, that it will work out in the end.

But I still get frustrated.

Definition of entitlement: "He still thinks rules don't pertain to him"

There's not enough flowers to pretty that up

D!ck roared via email from his attorney to mine.

Will I "join" him on the bankruptcy or let him go it alone? Kind, considerate D!ck even offered to pay the attorney fees if I go along with a joint filing.

Funny thing is that his attorney wants my decision within 5 days -- the exact same time frame my attorney gave D!ck to respond to our settlement offer.

Me thinks D!ck is trying to -- as usual -- BULLY me into going along with his wishes.

He has YET to turn in basic discovery documents and now he's eager to turn over all his financial information to a bankruptcy attorney? Yeah, right. When pigs fly!!

I'm thinking of AGREEING to the joint filing then -- when we are entrenched in this joint filing -- TURN ON HIM by -- GASP -- telling the truth to the judge and showing my cards -- i.e. the proof that D!ck got knee deep in debt due to gambling and Bimbo.

Who cares at this point if I stay in the house or not?

Like Scotty said -- I can be your best friend or your worst enemy.

Be nice, HH, til it's time to let your fangs out. I can do this. And Bimbo -- poor, pitiful Bimbo. Will she hang on during a bankruptcy AND a divorce?

No offense to those who live in that beautiful state -- but this ain't Utah and D!ck can't have two wives at the same time!!!

Courageous heart and holy patience continues to be my motto.

You CAN do this, holyheart.

You ARE doing this.

I follow your story but don't comment much. You are getting excellent advice and support.

Stand strong and true.

Then maybe someone should tell Bimbo...I wonder if that ring still glitters that bright on her hand or is it starting to tarnish as time passes. How can you plan a wedding when her fiance is in bankruptcy court and sliding down the karma hole? Oh that's right that is my XH!

Thanks guys. I'm really, really trying to not put too much worry into his threat. Seems a little too orchestrated to be sincere but you never know. I'm hunkering down and waiting out the storm. And Bimbo - she charged a trip to a pet salon. Please tell me a judge wouldn't grant a bankruptcy to stupid people who charge luxury services for their dog? It's comical at times.