wow, this is insight to what i will probably be going through at some point...i hope that you will have peace of mind through this and rememeber it isn't your fault, he chooses his own actions.

Hey, if you mean me, I have total peace of mind! It all gets better with time...

So? How's the patient?

The patient was discharged home on Tuesday. He was prescribed an antidepressant as well as an antipsychotic (one commonly used with Bipolar). He has follow-up appointments with both a therapist and a psychiatrist and he's supposedly going to attend a support group for depression/bipolar. His mom is with him for the next week.

He text me again the next day saying he was 'broken and confused' and didn't want to stall my healing but would be willing to talk to me and answer any questions I might have about him leaving. He also said he's considering a career change because his job is 'too much' for him. (he's a Marriage & Family Therapist!!!)

I haven't responded. He always was so good at projecting his own 'stuff' onto me. My healing is just fine!!! But since he's struggling he assumes I am too.

Is it cruel to blow him off like I have been?

ummmm, well, that is for you to decide if it is cruel to blow him off now, but I think it deals with where you are at in your healing. My WxW tried to talk to me tonight about her "feelings" and why she had an affair and I had to just cut her off. I was nice but I did tell her flat out that I didn't really care. I can't allow myself to care. She needs to do something on her own for once! Besides, she has OM to care about that stuff now. Not me.....

However, a year from now, I cannot say what I would do.

KC summed up what I was thinking in the above post, however.

Leaving our daughter's teacher conference's he cornerned me in the parking lot (DD was not there) and thanked me for 'helping him out' while he was in the hospital (not sure what I did other than get his guns out of his apartment and kept our DD on his scheduled weekend).

He then said he wanted to apologize for how he handled things when he left last year. "My heart was f'd up and I didn't know what else to do. I hid things from you and lied to you. There was no affair but there might as well have been".

Still denying an affair? Fogbabble? Whatever.

SidneyT, I browsed also through your original "husband blindsided us" thread and I must say that you have to cease the contact with him somehow. Take it from me as from outside viewer - this "apology" looks like some kind of sick game to draw you back into the mud. And the game seems to escalate - this cornering in parking lot gives me creeps, it's like some movie with psycho husband involved.

You must get out.

who is in possession of the weapons today? I hope you gave them to his mother.

Larsony, transport of stolen goods. .. If this turns ugly -- it can turn real ugly.

Yup, agreed!