Fred_in_VA
A Marine Corps marathon no less. That is impressive. Don't think I could handle that but I am in a six week "boot camp" at the local Y with my DD!!
The XH is away for the weekend - not sure is story is true but it's all good as he would say.
I do find myself happy when he is going out of town. Do not want to resume R but some things do tug at the heart strings. Slowly detaching.
It really does help to read your posts to see how you have managed to close the door and move on with your life. Gives us all hope for the future.
Thanks.

Thanks, L2S. When one door closes, sometimes a window opens.

Shortly after my XWW a-bombed our marriage, I subscribed to a daily email from DivorceCare, a Christian divorce support group. Today brought the following, which I'd like to share with the forum:

I choose #3. How about you?

It's been a while since I posted on this thread.

Just a moment ago, my phone rang. I went to answer it, but the caller had already hung up after two rings.

Caller ID showed that it came from OM.

???

Maybe he's calling to give her back?

I'm kidding Fred - but yeah that was a weird one.

LOL!

No, it was probably just a mis-dial (although I wonder why/how he had MY cell number).

Knowing what I do about him (and her), if anything, he was probably looking to re-connect. Maybe he needs his horns trimmed?

I might have missed something but I would guess it was the Leopard calling from his place. Never know......... she could be calling to say she misses you.

hope I didn't just make you nauseated

LOL!

No, but I must admit that it rattled me a bit. I believe the number is OM's cell phone (I put it in my address book back then so I could look it up when I suspect she was contacting him, and never erased it).

While it could have been her, my belief is that the two of them ended the A even before the D was final. Who knows? Who cares?

The psychiatrist I counseled with did warn me that BPD's always try to reconnect at some later date, which is why I keep my guard up.

You see, Dr. Harley isn't the only one who strongly recommends NO CONTACT.

Thanks for checking in, SC.

I wonder if you can block that number from your phone. That would be an unpleasant trigger for me.

I wished that I could have been born on a planet where waywardness never existed....

Actually, the reason I have kept his (and hers) on my phone is so that if one of them does happen to call, as was the case here, I can see who the caller is before I answer. And then just not pick up the phone.

OK Fred,

Back when my DS was in high school he dated a fatal attraction girl for a short while anyway after they broke up he put "DO NOT ANSWER" for her name in he's cell phone.

We would be together and his phone would ring, and he would show it to me, it would make me laugh......

She was harmless enough and finally stopped calling him.

I actually changed my WW name as well when I 1st started my plan B, although I have since changed it back......don't know why.....

Any way it could provide you some humor

That was pretty good, SC. In fact, the first thing it made me think of was the police recommendation that people include an ICE phone number in their cell phone's address book.

ICE = "In Case of Emergency"

The thinking is that if one is incapacitated due to accident or injury, police and rescue workers can notify the person at the other end of the ICE connection...

This topic is making me chuckle because my caller ID for my ex-WH's number shows up as FT...which stands for the very special nickname my mom gave ex-WH shortly after d-day.

FT= "Festering Turd"

You know... I con't put my finger on it... but there is just something refreshing that goes on these "D" boards.

I hope that what you can't put your finger on is the healing and recovery that people go through -- and express here -- as the pain subsides, the scabs disappear, and the scars fade.

In addition to what Fred said.........

Could it be that most of us here do not care about lovebusting anymore?

I didn't think I'd be writing on this board again - at least not in my own thread. After all, the divorce was 10 months ago. But I may be getting some early warning signs and I thought I'd post about them, just in case I need to be reminded (either by myself - reading this again, or by someone else who has had a similar experience).

For the past week or so, I've been getting a lot of calls from bill collectors looking for the WxW. As has been my practice, I began by simply ignoring them (there is never a live human on the line when you pick up the phone). But in the past couple of days I have been calling back the numbers (it's useless to wait on line for someone to pick up. Annoying, too) and informing the person who answers that no one by The Leopard's name is at this number. I offer no other information.

When The Leopard first moved out, I got a lot of these calls, and handled them much the same way. The calls finally dropped off and I thought they were ended.

That they've resumed tells me that The Leopard has burned through whatever money she may have had and is once again living hand-to-mouth. She is almost certainly on the hunt for new prey to "save her."

The reason I'm posting this is because I've been warned that women like The Leopard ALWAYS circle back and sometimes try to win their way back into one's heart - only to break it again when the heat dies down.

So... it may be over-reactive on my part, but I think it's better to be cautious than to be sorry. By posting here, I find I can have the support that will hold me accountable in the event she does make an appearance. Today, I believe I wouldn't waver. But if it comes down to it, I don't want to take any chances!

Fred, good on you for preparing. And even better on you for asking for help. I've been prepping myself for the "circle back" too.

Hard to imagine how some people can turn out to be so weak.

Dig as deep as you have to. Keep a watchful eye.

Fred, glad you're forewarned about how they circle back so you can guard your heart against it

Fred, if there anything she could do or say that would make you waiver?

If she were to approach you tomorrow, what would you say?