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Just FYI, a man in my area was recently arrested and charged with crimes after he installed Web Watcher on the computer he and his wife shared. The software monitored keystrokes, email, etc.

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Originally Posted by cookiecat
Just FYI, a man in my area was recently arrested and charged with crimes after he installed Web Watcher on the computer he and his wife shared. The software monitored keystrokes, email, etc.
Huh. I didn't know it was a crime to install software on my own computer. I suspect there's more to this story.


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Originally Posted by cookiecat
Just FYI, a man in my area was recently arrested and charged with crimes after he installed Web Watcher on the computer he and his wife shared. The software monitored keystrokes, email, etc.

I hope he gets a great settlement from the false arrest conviction! smile


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Well, the wife noticed that the husband knew a lot about the content of her emails, so she went to the police. He was charged with unlawful use of a computer, interception, disclosure or use of electronic and oral communications, and unlawful access to stored communications.

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Originally Posted by cookiecat
Well, the wife noticed that the husband knew a lot about the content of her emails, so she went to the police. He was charged with unlawful use of a computer, interception, disclosure or use of electronic and oral communications, and unlawful access to stored communications.
Is there a record of this - in the newspaper, perhaps, that we can look up?

Has the case been tried yet? What happened?


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Originally Posted by cookiecat
Just FYI, a man in my area was recently arrested and charged with crimes after he installed Web Watcher on the computer he and his wife shared. The software monitored keystrokes, email, etc.

Do you have a link?


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The victim moved out of the home in July 2010 and took the computer with her. The victim reportedly became suspicious when her husband �always had information regarding her emails,� according to the complaint.

That explains the problem right there. She had moved out and he had spyware on her computer. Even so, being "charged" doesn't mean being convicted. We know of another case where an overzealous prosectutor brought such a case [and it was on behalf of a cheating wife] and it was dropped before it ever got to court.

If I suspected my spouse was having an affair, I would most certainly take the risk. We have had hundreds of people put spyware on their cheating spouses computers over the years with no negative legal ramifications, so I would say it is well worth the risk.


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The victim reportedly became suspicious when her husband �always had information regarding her emails,� according to the complaint.

A good take-away is to not be so transparent about your sources when spying.


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It's not a crime. People monitor their kids with this type software all the time. It IS illegal to use this to steal identities or commit theft, however, given a shared computer there isn't any reasonable expectation of privacy. Maybe in the future we will see legislation making this illegal.


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He installed it while they still lived together, though.

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Originally Posted by cookiecat
He installed it while they still lived together, though.

That is not illegal, though.


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The victim moved out of the home in July 2010 and took the computer with her. The victim reportedly became suspicious when her husband �always had information regarding her emails,� according to the complaint.
What's the 'victim' doing, removing community property from the home?? I hope the BH has an attorney so he doesn't have to wait any longer than necessary to see this case get thrown out.

And he needs to be a little more careful about sharing the results of his intel from here on out.


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Legally, you have to tell other users that it is installed. Sometimes people are really bad listeners. They forget things. smile


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Legally, you have to tell other users that it is installed.
Oh, goodness, absolutely. I know that, in the unlikely event that I were to install spyware on MY family's computers, I would certainly be sure to advise all users of its existence. Yeppers. I sure would. Because I wouldn't want them to do something on there that they wouldn't want me to see, nosireebob.

Of course, I'd have to make a mental note to mention that to everyone...I'm so forgetful that way...dang, I can't even remember if I put keyloggers on our computers... wink


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http://news.cnet.com/Court-Wife-broke-law-with-spyware/2100-1030_3-5577979.html

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technolo...s-in-jail-after-hacking-wifes-email.html

Food for thought. Im not sure how to articulate this, so someone with more expirience, please help me out.

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Originally Posted by JBD
http://news.cnet.com/Court-Wife-broke-law-with-spyware/2100-1030_3-5577979.html

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technolo...s-in-jail-after-hacking-wifes-email.html

Food for thought. Im not sure how to articulate this, so someone with more expirience, please help me out.
I'll help you out.

In the first case, the judge said that the wife in the divorce proceedings broke Florida law by intercepting her husband's communications. The wife was not on trial for this, and there is no evidence that she has since been tried for this. The upshot of the judge's statement was that the screenshots were not permitted to be brought as evidence in the divorce case. In effect, the wife is no worse off than if she had not used the keylogger.

If you posted that case as a warning, I think it will have no effect on the advice given here.

In the second case, the husband has since been found not guilty. http://archive.freep.com/article/20120713/NEWS03/120713065/email-snooping-felony-charge-dismissed

I think only you know what you were trying to articulate, but these cases show that spouses should go ahead and spy if they need to.


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Originally Posted by JBD
Food for thought.

What is the thought exactly?


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