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I exposed it to his parents and a bunch of others I need to find an Pi to get her address so that I can tell the OW's husband. I know that its bs when he says is platonic. My heart cant take all the lies there was withdrawal of 250 from our savings he said he was going to spend the weekend with his family to clear his head. I let him go I need the time away from him so that I can find out her address.
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I exposed it to his parents and a bunch of others I need to find an Pi to get her address so that I can tell the OW's husband.  I know that its bs when he says is platonic. BS stinks to high heaven. My heart cant take all the lies there was withdrawal of 250 from our savings he said he was going to spend the weekend with his family to clear his head. CASH, so he can't be tracked by use of a credit card. Call his family tonight. Right before bedtime. Ask to speak to WH. Say it is urgent. If he's there, ask him to come home right away. "I need you."Then, hang up. Then, don't pick up the phone. If he actually is at his parents, he should return. If he does return, tell WH you had a severe anxiety attack and it's better now that he's "back home where you belong". I let him go I need the time away from him so that I can find out her address. Get to work ! Please, you did place a GPS on his vehicle, didn't you?
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I need some real advice I did install a key logger on my computer and have come up with some digusting stuff like porn and as well as an xdating sight. This breaks my heart I did not put a gps on his car is there something that you can do without it being seen? He still hides his phone and I know that he is lying. Went to the grocery store and when I checked out the keylogger he had been to numerous porn sites etc. This is getting crappier by the minute
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Go to the forum titled OPERATION INVESTIGATE **** LINK **** Most of your "how to snoop" questions are already answered there.
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I need some help here again Im sorry I messed up the Link Mbseasons. My husband went to live with his parents and believes that he is such a smart person by geting a prepaid AT&T cell phone. Duh I have access to the ATT account and I know his new cell phone number. I need some help in finding the ow's husband I ran a background report on her and found her spouses name and there is not phone number listed for him according to that. Where and what can I do from here. I feel like I am in hell again and dont have any one to turn to. He quit going to counseling and his sister is involved and texting her as well. Where and what can I do? His parents will not speak to me he has turned them against me. Helo
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It doesnt matter what the exposure targets think really, it is just to get the issue into the light....
Why has exposure taken so long? Get a PI if you cannot find the name online or in the phone book. Time is whipping by.
You should have had Plan A out of the way in a matter of 2-3 weeks, not almost two months. If you stay in Plan A much longer you will get very unwell and the strain will take its toll.
Take a few days off to do this if you have to.
1) Call a PI and finish exposure
2) make Plan B preps straight away - read the Plan B instructions in my signature.
3) get yourself well - eating sleeping, make it all about YOU.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I need some help in finding the ow's husband I ran a background report on her and found her spouses name and there is not phone number listed for him according to that. What kind of background report did you run? Did you try googling his name? Online white pages? Did you look him up on any public government sites, like county property records or public court records? (Not just for your county but for counties around you.)
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I will do all of these things the cost of a PI is more than i could handle right now. I am unemloyed. I could try googling government websites for property records. I did look at the online white pages and didnt see anything of value. I even did a search on intellus. I think that I am going to see if I can hire a PI and get the spouses name and expose her for what she truly is.
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I am waiting for a response to the above post I cant afford a PI and I did go to government sites and public records and found anything. Currently I am not in touch with my spouse by text or phone per the counselor. She told me not to have contact to allow myself time to heal. Does anyone have anymore ideas.
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If the OW is unlisted and you cant get a PI, can you get someone to be your PI, can you do the PI snooping yourself? Borrow a strange car, get a friend to follow them?
I would set a deadline for you to do this by and concentrate efforts on getting it done fast. It sounds very much like you need Plan B soon, I get a sense from you that you are drained. Preferably you will want to know you did all you could to expose before going into Plan B.
However your mental and physical health is the priority. I would aim to be in Plan B in about four days. If you read in my sig the guide to preparing for Plan B that takes a few days too.
Can you dedicate a few days to finding the info you need, then a few more days to preparing for Plan B? Are you strong enough?
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What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Someone Please advice I need help here. I was going to expose the other womans husband but cant seem to find a home phone or anything
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I found out who the other woman rally was and she is on face book. Advise If you know who OW is and she is on Facebook, it can't be impossible to contact her H, as you seems to be saying. Is her H a Facebook friend of hers? Is he a Facebook friend of her children's? Is he a Facebook friend of her friends? You MUST be able to contact him by finding out SOMETHING about him on Facebook. What is his name? (Don't reveal it here.) What is the connection between your H and OW? You must be able to work this out by now. Did they meet through work? Does she live in Brazil, where he was recently working? Does she live in you neighbourhood? Does she go to the same church? Is she an ex-girlfriend? You MUST know more than you did when you first came here in August, if you have been able to see your H talking about his undying love for her to his sister, and if you have been able to find her on Facebook.
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I found out who the other woman rally was and she is on face book. Advise If you know who OW is and she is on Facebook, it can't be impossible to contact her H, as you seems to be saying. Is her H a Facebook friend of hers? Is he a Facebook friend of her children's? Is he a Facebook friend of her friends? You MUST be able to contact him by finding out SOMETHING about him on Facebook. What is his name? (Don't reveal it here.) What is the connection between your H and OW? You must be able to work this out by now. Did they meet through work? Does she live in Brazil, where he was recently working? Does she live in you neighbourhood? Does she go to the same church? Is she an ex-girlfriend? You MUST know more than you did when you first came here in August, if you have been able to see your H talking about his undying love for her to his sister, and if you have been able to find her on Facebook. can you expose to OW and OWH's family?
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brown, we've been telling you for three solid months to expose this far and wide, and you have not done so. Exposure to her husband is the single most valuable tool that you have in order to kill this affair. And yes, she is most likely married, or he wouldn't have moved in with his parents. He would have moved in with OW.
Did you expose the affair to all of her FB friends, and tell them to ask her husband to call you?
You said earlier that you found a man's name when you looked up OW's info online. Why have you not contacted him?
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I have searched and have not found his phone number. That is why I have not exposed OW's affair to her spouse not sure where to call
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I found out who the other woman rally was and she is on face book. Advise If you know who OW is and she is on Facebook, it can't be impossible to contact her H, as you seems to be saying. Is her H a Facebook friend of hers? Is he a Facebook friend of her children's? Is he a Facebook friend of her friends? You MUST be able to contact him by finding out SOMETHING about him on Facebook. What is his name? (Don't reveal it here.) What is the connection between your H and OW? You must be able to work this out by now. Did they meet through work? Does she live in Brazil, where he was recently working? Does she live in you neighbourhood? Does she go to the same church? Is she an ex-girlfriend? You MUST know more than you did when you first came here in August, if you have been able to see your H talking about his undying love for her to his sister, and if you have been able to find her on Facebook. Why have you completely ignored these questions?
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I have a friend who read here early this year. Told her and told her and told her to expose. She didn't, and was served with divorce papers last week. She told me that she wish she had listened. I wish you would, too.
Expose to all of your husbands facebook friends. Copy/paste the message and send to a few at a time within a few hours (so it doesn't look like spam). If the OW has a facebook, expose to all of her friends the same way.
Believe me, if you don't expose to everyone you can, you will regret it later.
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I have been looking through all her friends on fb theres 149 and have not see his name anywhere so far. What now
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