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What was the weirdest or most stupid line your spouse told you after Dday?
Mine said: "I did not take any time from you. I saw her when you were at work or when you were volunteering."
Oh, yeah......and the time we were both at home we had a great time, with him ignoring me and watchin TV all the time...
That is what I call " quality time."
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He took time away from his commitment to you and your marriage. That's theft of the nth degree. AND he took time away from you when he was with you - thinking about his actions, being crabby at you because he was conflicted...oh, yeah. He took time away from you, all right.  Silly wayward.
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What was the weirdest or most stupid line your spouse told you after Dday? Not sure it's appropriate. lol... Not sure it's an image anyone here want's in their mind of me... Most of the crazy crap came before Dday for me. CV
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Most of the crazy crap came before Dday for me. Me too! Which made it really hard to counter, as I knew it sounded crazy, but I couldn't put my finger on why... gaslighting in a way, as the BS just feels crazy themself, a normal reaction to not having the truth. After D Day... well, WH was too busy trying to avoid me at all costs for much crazy crap to be heard. And then came Plan B. Now I only hear the crazy crap if I choose to... no thanks. 
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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LostinLies, You sound like you are married to my husband.
Mine WH says "Well, you didn't even notice when I came home late from work".
Errrr, yes I did, let me see, you get off work at 3 pm and get home at 6 pm, and it is a 10 minuite commute. He always had some excuse why he was late. At the time I had 100% trust in him and him having an affair was not even thinkable.
Before his affair started, my WH hurt his back, he started sleeping on the couch, so he could have that support on his back. This then later got translated to the OW "My wife and I don't even sleep in the same bed together any more".
The other good one was "My wife is suisidal". Because 8 years ago I suffered from post partum depression.
D-Day 13 Sep 2011
Married 19 years
My age 40
WH age 46
Children Boy 8 girl 6
Currently trying to get my children back. He took them for 3 hours on 10/19/2011
WS left 10/18/2011
As soon as my children are home again I will be working on the darkest Plan B possible
My marriage is over !
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"Remember when i told you I knew the exact moment that I loved you? Yes. Well I remember the exact moment that I knew I loved her." That moment my friends was 20 years ago for both of us.
Me: BH 40
WW 39
S13, D9
Married 15 yrs together 19!!!
D Day July 11,2011
WW in P.A. with OW
WW wants D
Almost done
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"I think this is what we needed to be able to possibly have a better marriage, a wake up call." She is so thoughtful, isn't she.
DDay 9.10.11
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CelticVoyager:
I read your story. Powerful.....you went through a lot.
I hoe everything is ok now and you are never looking back.
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LuckyLad:
Yes, I do agree..... they are thoughtful, aren't they?
I have heard a few more like:
"Did you think I was going to leave you for her????"
" You've undone all the good I have done for this woman." ( Really? like what? The only good I have undone is that he could no longer see her behind my back anymore and told him so)
" Why can't people believe that there can be true friendship between a man and a woman" ( not with this woman honey)
" She's great company"
" She's fun to talk to" ( so am I if you gave me a couple of minues of your time to talk to me )
" We have a lot in common" ( I am sure....)
I need to point out that it was only an EA
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LL, really this is what the marriage needed?? I wonder how long that one took to come up with.....
Mine is..... "You never wanted to be around me, I just thought you didn't love me any more"..... I guess all those trips and gifts were just an evil ploy for SF.
Me (BH): 42
Her (WS): 39
Married 19 yrs
DD: 16, DD: 11, DD: 7
D-Day: 7-5-2011, Caught searching 10-15-2012
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" You've undone all the good I have done for this woman." Okay. Just...puke.  Such a selfless, philanthropic person. 
D-Day 2-10-2009
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I was also told that he made her laugh. While in counseling she said that I joked around too much.
I feel like wile e coyote and she is the road runner.
DDay 9.10.11
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MaritalBliss:
You made me laugh, that was a funny line!!!!! Yes, let's all puke, really.
He's doing the right thing now but the damage has been done....
I have told him that I will never trust him 100% regardless of what he does now. I also told him that like Reagan, I believe in " Trust but investigate." He got the point.
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I feel like wile e coyote and she is the road runner.  This is particularly humorous to me because I've always described my bride and I as being best depicted by Jessica and Roger Rabbitt. ![[Linked Image from 1.bp.blogspot.com]](http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_g8EvXQj0jLg/S5rVTePXD0I/AAAAAAAAANQ/ztqHqEI8Mvc/s320/RogerAndJessicaRabbit.jpg)
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Recovered.
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Most recent D-day Fall 2005
Our new marriage began that day. Not easily, but it did happen.
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